About 9 months ago I was looking for a steady playmate and stumbled into a Sugar Baby/Sugar Daddy (SB/SD) relationship that's been fabulous. We see each other a couple times a month, but text/talk daily. She's a real college student, super cute and consistently delivers a pornstar experience, often with me playing dominant. Our hookups usually include dining out, walks, a concert or movie, and one or two nights in a hotel. I cut back on clubbing to afford the stipend. When I do stop into some of my favorite clubs, it's just to relax, without making investments in new relationships.
I've found this first SB/SD relationship, after 4 years of clubbing, surprisingly satisfying. Has anyone else had a similar experience of cutting back on clubbing to enjoy a great SB/SD relationship?
Me too. I've browsed a couple of sites. Don't think I'd ever give up the SC altogether but it would be nice to try the sugar baby thing. If I might ask how much does this cost for 2 monthly hookups
I've just gotten involved in this SD/SB lifestyle. I like older guys (are all my comments saying that?? Lol!!) and date them anyways so it's basically natural to get spoiled more than I would with a normal bf.
My potential SB says he wouldn't be ok with me dancing though so I don't know what I'm to do.
I'm glad you're sugaring relationship is going good, consider me jealous, lol!
I used to mess with those sites awhile back. I always went after girls close to my age (in the 30s range). I only found 2 type:
Type 1: girls that were tired of loser boyfriends who didn't want much, just a guy to take them out somewhere nice and actually be able to pay for it.
Type 2: girls that were totally unrealistic with their expectations, they wanted $5K a month just to see them twice, some wanted even more. I would often ask "how long have you been searching here for someone" and they would reply "2 years" and I would say "you may want to lower your demands a little."
Needless to say I only messed with "type 1" because I could never find a happy medium between type 1 and type 2. I never did go for younger girls though. One detail, EVERY SINGLE GIRL I met was bat-shit crazy. Remember, if you find a girl who is at least 30 and hot, and never has been married, RUN!!!! she's so crazy she her hotness hasn't even enabled her to lock down a man.
Remember, you're only worth what someone will pay for you.
OP: if you can share, what dollar range was the stipend. I've tried setting up a SB with a stripper once. It was a disaster. Honey was too short sighted to make it work.
You just described what I do with DS I and II except we are somewhat more frequent. And like I keep saying, it is the most amazing sexual experience that I can possibly imagine.
Two questions if you're willing.
1. Covered or bare?
2. How much do you pay her? I'll consider revealing what I pay DS I and II if you want to trade.
Yeah, the relationship that I had with my ATF was essentially a SD/SB one, though I paid her per visit rather than a periodic "stipend." Good use of the word, BTW. :)
Like JS69 and his girls, we went bareback after a little while.
It was a very satisfying situation for me. As I put it somewhere on here at one point, the regular application, of tight, wet, young, willing pussy to my dick, by a girl who enjoyed it almost as much as me, has a quality that simple variety can't match.
Interesting. Type 1 girls sound ok. I initially thought every girl on the site might be type 2 with totally unrealistic expectations unless you were a millionaire. I never checked into the sites very much because I thought all the girls might be goldiggers. The funny thing about a number of millionaires is that they can be frugal because to save millions, they pay attention to spending and expenses possibly more than most. I remember one guy I saw on occassion, I thought maybe he was a poor bum or something. When I asked my parents about him, they said he's a millionaire. Owns a clothing chain. He just didn't want people to know and dressed down all the time. One of my distant relatives is a millionaire too, never met him. I doubt he is as frugal. I heard he burned a $100 dollar bill in front of a girl he was dating to prove it meant nothing to him.
Anongirl98 --> "My potential SB says he wouldn't be ok with me dancing though so I don't know what I'm to do. "
Aim high. you have bills that need to be paid plus upkeep to stay gorgeous (hair, nails, gym, yoga, etc.). See if you can get something iike a $5K/month allowance maybe negotiate down to a $3K/month allowance if that's all the guy can afford. No point in quitting dancing for a broke SD. Some guys out there can afford it. Keep looking.
Anongirl, personally I think that it makes sense to have a SD only if he gives you enough money to put some of it to savings account. If you work hard(and in a nice lucrative club/city) and be smart about handling your money, you can definitely have 30-60k saved after a year or so. So it will be financially smart in a long-run to dance if your SD's allowance is enough only to pay your bills.
He has a lot of money so I'm not worried about my allowance I just don't know how I feel about relying off him just in case. Plus there's further complications (he wants me to travel/live with him for several months) that I'm too new to really know if they're not a good idea or if ill miss out. The only reason why sugaring is more tempting is because it's lower on the radar for me!
Spend a year getting to know him before you live or travel with him. You don't want to be at his mercy. Remember the guy in the club with what whatever drug was in the drink.
In a year I'm going to school and I don't plan on sugaring or stripping while in school (if anything on weekends). School is really important to me which is one of the reasons I've stumbled in to this lifestyle :-)
Maybe I'm paranoid (but that doesn't mean they're *not* out to get me!), but a guy you just met (if that is, in fact, the case) who wants you to live with and travel with him right away screams stalker or worse. Girls have traveled under such circumstances and never seen again.
If he's truly worried about you dancing, it's because he is worried, or assumes, you'll be fucking other customers, or is obsessively possessive. Just tell him if he wants exclusivity, it'll cost more. :)))
Gmd- well I've only had sex with 3 guys (im 18 so I guess that's not really **only** but two were bfs) and he knows that. But he thinks I will be "corrupted" and yes he's mentioned him not liking the idea of other men touching me. I have a date planned with him but I think I'll tell him he has to fly here rather than the other way around (he was going to pay for my travel so I didn't think it mattered).
I assumed from what he said that sugaring means being exclusive, I guess I should maybe tell the guy I'm not interested in that!
To anon I don't know for sure but at least til you know him well enough I wouldn't advise you to travel to him & I wouldn't meet him any place but in an open public area there are plenty of girls all over that would love to be a SB that are young pretty you best be careful remember the fist thread you posted I remember you got roofied. I would watch my 6 if I was you.
@anon: There's no hard and fast rule of exclusivity. A guy might *want* it, but unless it's part of the agreement, he shouldn't expect it. And if it is, in fact, part of the agreement, he should expect to pay more.
I know one woman who's been a sugar baby for her entire adult life (she's near 40 now), and she's maintained two or three at a time the whole while.
But she fucks her Daddies regularly, and likes it. I think she does it as much for the regular sex as for the money. :) She got *rid* of one a few years back because he didn't want to have sex, just wanted arm candy.
Yeah anongirl seriously...be careful. I have a friend who used to sb and she had lots of rules like first meeting in a public place, then getting a payment, not even driving her own car to meet the guy at first. I'd REALLY hesitate to fly out to meet this guy at this point.
Definitely do not fly anywhere unless he's sending you money to get the ticket in your *own* name. Way too easy for you to be stranded somewhere if you don't, or he *claims* you don't, meet his expectations.
And sending you a round trip ticket doesn't count; he can cancel it at any time.
In fact, if you do decide to go, I'll drive you. With my pistol in the glove box, and the shotgun and garrote in the back. :)
I don’t think what anon’s potential SD wants in terms of exclusivity is too outlandish unless he is not willing to pay for it and she mentioned he was loaded – I guess he wants sorta the equivalent of a trophy wife/gf.
But yeah – if she doesn’t know this guy then flying to an unknown place to meet an unknown dude seems iffy and too risky – if anon met him via the internet then it’s quite possible he’s not legit including not being well-off.
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My potential SB says he wouldn't be ok with me dancing though so I don't know what I'm to do.
I'm glad you're sugaring relationship is going good, consider me jealous, lol!
I used to mess with those sites awhile back. I always went after girls close to my age (in the 30s range). I only found 2 type:
Type 1: girls that were tired of loser boyfriends who didn't want much, just a guy to take them out somewhere nice and actually be able to pay for it.
Type 2: girls that were totally unrealistic with their expectations, they wanted $5K a month just to see them twice, some wanted even more. I would often ask "how long have you been searching here for someone" and they would reply "2 years" and I would say "you may want to lower your demands a little."
Needless to say I only messed with "type 1" because I could never find a happy medium between type 1 and type 2. I never did go for younger girls though. One detail, EVERY SINGLE GIRL I met was bat-shit crazy. Remember, if you find a girl who is at least 30 and hot, and never has been married, RUN!!!! she's so crazy she her hotness hasn't even enabled her to lock down a man.
Remember, you're only worth what someone will pay for you.
Two questions if you're willing.
1. Covered or bare?
2. How much do you pay her? I'll consider revealing what I pay DS I and II if you want to trade.
Like JS69 and his girls, we went bareback after a little while.
It was a very satisfying situation for me. As I put it somewhere on here at one point, the regular application, of tight, wet, young, willing pussy to my dick, by a girl who enjoyed it almost as much as me, has a quality that simple variety can't match.
Congrats on the SB!
Aim high. you have bills that need to be paid plus upkeep to stay gorgeous (hair, nails, gym, yoga, etc.). See if you can get something iike a $5K/month allowance maybe negotiate down to a $3K/month allowance if that's all the guy can afford. No point in quitting dancing for a broke SD. Some guys out there can afford it. Keep looking.
If he's truly worried about you dancing, it's because he is worried, or assumes, you'll be fucking other customers, or is obsessively possessive. Just tell him if he wants exclusivity, it'll cost more. :)))
Isn't all sex at our ages weakly?
I assumed from what he said that sugaring means being exclusive, I guess I should maybe tell the guy I'm not interested in that!
@Anon - Please be careful.
I know one woman who's been a sugar baby for her entire adult life (she's near 40 now), and she's maintained two or three at a time the whole while.
But she fucks her Daddies regularly, and likes it. I think she does it as much for the regular sex as for the money. :) She got *rid* of one a few years back because he didn't want to have sex, just wanted arm candy.
And sending you a round trip ticket doesn't count; he can cancel it at any time.
In fact, if you do decide to go, I'll drive you. With my pistol in the glove box, and the shotgun and garrote in the back. :)
But yeah – if she doesn’t know this guy then flying to an unknown place to meet an unknown dude seems iffy and too risky – if anon met him via the internet then it’s quite possible he’s not legit including not being well-off.
How did you meet her – SD/SB website?