Workplace advice
whodey
Fat bastard that can afford to fuck hot strippers
I need a little advice on how to proceed with an odd situation at work. A woman I work told me that she started dancing at a nereby club and that she wanted me to come and watch her dance.
She brought it up last night after a few of us had gone out for drinks. I was giving her and another female coworker a ride home afterwards and our route took us right past the SC she is dancing at.
She asked if either of us had ever been to that SC. The other girl in the car responded rather quickly that her and her ex boyfriend used to go there a few times a year to spice things up. At this point both girls looked at me awaiting an answer. I told them that I used to go there, but that I switched to a different club because the quality of dancers had gone down at that club.
She then told me that I "should give it another chance because the quality of girls has increased lately." I asked her how she knew that, to which she answered that she has been working there three nights a week for almost two months.
At that point I damn near wrecked when she reached over and gave me a strip club handshake and said that I should "stop by after work on Tuesday for a few lapdances." The other girl in the car then asked if she could go with me if I go.
I work in a different department from the two of them, so we don't work together on a regular basis. However, I have collaborated on projects twice in the last few years with her. Also, while we are not directly in the same chain of command, my boss is her boss's boss.
Normally, I would never even consider doing anything sexual with someone from work due to the possible ramifications, however my little head is saying "go for it." She is a very cute 22 year old (i'm 33) girl next door type that I usually go for at the club.
What would you do?
She brought it up last night after a few of us had gone out for drinks. I was giving her and another female coworker a ride home afterwards and our route took us right past the SC she is dancing at.
She asked if either of us had ever been to that SC. The other girl in the car responded rather quickly that her and her ex boyfriend used to go there a few times a year to spice things up. At this point both girls looked at me awaiting an answer. I told them that I used to go there, but that I switched to a different club because the quality of dancers had gone down at that club.
She then told me that I "should give it another chance because the quality of girls has increased lately." I asked her how she knew that, to which she answered that she has been working there three nights a week for almost two months.
At that point I damn near wrecked when she reached over and gave me a strip club handshake and said that I should "stop by after work on Tuesday for a few lapdances." The other girl in the car then asked if she could go with me if I go.
I work in a different department from the two of them, so we don't work together on a regular basis. However, I have collaborated on projects twice in the last few years with her. Also, while we are not directly in the same chain of command, my boss is her boss's boss.
Normally, I would never even consider doing anything sexual with someone from work due to the possible ramifications, however my little head is saying "go for it." She is a very cute 22 year old (i'm 33) girl next door type that I usually go for at the club.
What would you do?
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Sounds like lots of fun to me.
If you honestly believe the three of you are mature enough to keep work and the club life separate, go for it. If you have the slightest inkling that someone's going to get a case of the giggles or, worse yet, try to give you a strip club handshake at work (or even just on the property), passing would be a good idea.
Nothing like some outsider trying to start up harassment or hostile work environment complaints if any of the innuendo gets out of hand.
Since you think the girl is hot, and she was definitely flirting with you, if you're single I'd go for it, if you're married or have a serious girlfriend, I would probably stay away, which would be hard to do.
Bringing the other girl into the situation is a little strange too but could work well, makes you look more innocent and (to me) a little less PLish when you'd arrive to the club.
The stripper isn't likely to be your problem. She probably doesn't want it generally known that she's stripping, and if the "handshake" is any indication, she isn't likely to want her co-workers to know she's jacking, or more, her customers off.
The other one however, is more problematic. If you and she have a fun, but tame, experience at the club, it's possible she'll share with her friends, some of whom probably work with her and you. That increases your risk.
If you have a fun and nasty time, she'll might share what a nasty, dirty asshole you are. That increases your risk even more.
If she has a crappy time, all bets are off. She might forever ignore you, or also share what a nasty, dirty jerk you are.
You're not married. Go for it. My only issue is I'm not sure what her game is... does she view you as an ATM? Or a potential fuck buddy?
While sexual harassment is still an issue, dating among employees is acceptable behavior.
Is this an extras club? If it is your typical non extras club. go and watch. You don't have to get dances from her at all. You don't have to have her grind on you... etc.
So you see no issue with work if you do that. As long as you don't get flirty at work. Then sexual harassment isn't an issue. Because you went to a "club" and she happened to work there too. As long as you don't use that as leverage or anything like that at work. You are golden.
So go look at some nice 22 year old titties!!!
It also made it awkward getting dances from higher mileage girls. Every time I was getting a dance from someone else it felt like she was watching.
I haven't run into her at work since the club, but I am dreading the inevitable uncomfortable interaction.
Did you see her give dances to anyone else? Were they air as well? Maybe she was nervous about giving you more mileage because you do work together. If that's the case the next time you see her outside of work you can let her know anything that happens in the club stays in the club and let's have some fun.
I'd take the other Chica from work with you too. You never know what may happen. Just tell her you're going and ask if she wants to go see the other Chica with you. You don't work together so all she can say is no. No harm no foul.