Those married or in a serious/exclusive relationship, did you start clubbing without seeking extras? Were you "cut off" before you decided to begin seeking extras?
I clubbed for 15 plus years while married. I never sought extras because (1) I didn't know how or where to get them, (2) I had an exaggerated fear of stds, and (3) I didn't want to "cheat" on my wife ( as if a high mileage lap dance with a nude woman is not a form of cheating). Over time sex from the wife got even more pathetic, mileage from the dancers kept getting better, and I started reading discussion posts on tuscl. Finally I decided I was going to have my first itc bbbjcim. I chose the right club in Miami to make that happen. My wife had not completely cut me off from sex, but what we had was infrequent, boring, and unsatisfying.
A couple of years later, not expecting it to really happen, a dancer accepted my OTC offer.. A little while after that my wife and I separated. Soon after that I found my DS.
I was dating my to-be wife when I discovered extras; our sex life was extremely good at the time, although not the mind-blowing experience from the first few years we dated. Extras and my gf/wife have nothing to do with each other, for me. My attraction to extras has nothing to do with my sex life, it's a drive for strange
Nowadays, I've switched models and have OTC sex instead of ITC extras the vast majority of the time ... in fact, I spend most of my time in strictly-no-extras clubs, recruiting girls OTC
I was married for 27 years and during 24 of them, I never cheated. During the last 3, she had moved out and I started getting it at the clubs. She even found out who I was seeing and wrote her a letter. I didn't care. I just wanted her to be the one to ask for the divorce ans she did.
I wasn't seeking extras. When I first went to the club my intentions were only to get a few lap dances and play with a couple different dancers tits (I had seen that the club I was going to allowed full two way contact). I did not realize at the time that is was also an extras club.
The first time I went I got a few lap dances. The second girl start playing with my dick through my pants. At one point I thought she was going to take it out and I stopped her (she wasn't that hot and at that time I didn't wanna hear on my wife). Later that night I got some dances from a dancer that became my ATF. After a few dances we went to the VIP, I still didn't know this was an extras club (I I wouldn't have believed that there were clubs anywhere that would allow extras). I just figured I might get a hotter lap dance in the VIO room. A few minutes into it and she took my dick out and gave me a handjob. I felt guilty but eventually I wanted more and more.
I started getting. Hand jobs and titty fucking a few different dancers while also regular seeing my ATF inside the club. My ATF started allowing more and more (DATY, a very brief BBBJ and DFK on one visit). At that point my sex life with my wife had dried up even more than it already was and I decided I wanted to try and have sex with my ATF.
On my next visit before I could even ask if I could fuck her she asked if I had a condom and she gave me FS ITC. I remember thinking I was was putting my condom on that I was at the point of no return. Even though all the other stuff I had done was cheating, this was a whole mother level of cheating. I figured I would fuck her once and then be done comic to the clubs.
The next week she wasn't allowed to work for a few days so she suggested we meet at her place. Ever since then I've been seeing her ITC. Every time I think I am ready to move on she sucks me right back in.
Since the first time I had sex ITC with the ATF I started seeking extras in the club beyond hand jobs. I've gotten a BBBJCIM and fucked tree other dancers ITC. One of them pretty much initiated it, when I asked her how much she charged for VIP she gave her price but said it was all inclusive and said she had everything we needed. A different dancer offered me a covered BJ on our first VIP, I titty fucked her instead and then on the next visit I offered more money and asked what it would get me and she said she would fuck me.
A third dancer have me HJ's in the lap dance booth. She mentioned several times that we should go to the VIP. She offered the highest mileage lap dances (she basically sits on my lap and let's me do whatever I want to her while she jerks me off) so I figured sex would be a five in the VIP. She started giving me a BJ and at one point I though she was about to fuck me bareback. I wanted to use a co Dom so I told her I had a condom and asked if we could have sex. She said yes as long as I gave her a tip. The sex was the worst of the ; strippers I've banged. She didn't let me go in that deep and I don't even think I came. She was very petite and I am bigger than average so maybe that's why.
Every time I get sick of the ATF I see other dancers and I appreciate the ATF that might more. I've fucked her bareback a few times (but I use a condom now) came inside her, fucked her in the ass (she told me too, that was nothing that excites me) DFK, BBBJ, cuddling, wearing clothes that I buy her, sending me pics (although I wish she would send me a few more).
I guess we’re the exact opposite of everyone here. Our married life has gotten better and better over the years emotionally and sexually. Mrs sea was the one who brought up us going to SC’s. Every time we go she wants more and more. Something we both say which I think is funny is, “If we’re spending this much we better be getting fucked.” It has brought up serious talks of escorts and swingers parties. There are numerous swingers parties happening every month around us but our main worry is other couples wanting to do a full swap when all we want is one of the single women who go to these parties. We’re worried we won’t fit in there and will be the odd couple who only does things together; much like here. We’ve decided all we can do is just go hang out and talk to others to see what’s up.
Lately she’s onto this kick of wanting me to go clubbing by myself to see if the strippers would react any differently without her being there. Ie: would I get a lot better mileage? I feel like I’d be wasting my $$$
To answer the OP; yes, we started clubbing without seeking extras BUT we had the misguided thought that we could easily get a stripper to do OTC with us. This has proved weirdly harder to come about than we thought it would be. We have gotten some mild extras but the OTC has eluded us so far.
My wife and I stopped having sex many years ago, so I've had a few steady g/f's for sex and companionship. Never P4P.
I don't depend a club for steady sex because it's too expensive for me, and a dancer isn't going to really be in to me anyway, like my g/f's are. But if I have the cash, I'm not opposed to an OTC romp or ITC extras should they be available.
Oddly, I have always been most inclined to seek out p4p when I was in serious relationships, including marriage. It has always been about variety for me. During periods when I was single my strip club attendance actually dropped since I was getting my variety through the normal dating scene. However, it has been over a decade since I was last single and I'm well into my 40s now, so I'm not sure how it would all play out if I became single again.
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A couple of years later, not expecting it to really happen, a dancer accepted my OTC offer.. A little while after that my wife and I separated. Soon after that I found my DS.
Nowadays, I've switched models and have OTC sex instead of ITC extras the vast majority of the time ... in fact, I spend most of my time in strictly-no-extras clubs, recruiting girls OTC
The first time I went I got a few lap dances. The second girl start playing with my dick through my pants. At one point I thought she was going to take it out and I stopped her (she wasn't that hot and at that time I didn't wanna hear on my wife). Later that night I got some dances from a dancer that became my ATF. After a few dances we went to the VIP, I still didn't know this was an extras club (I I wouldn't have believed that there were clubs anywhere that would allow extras). I just figured I might get a hotter lap dance in the VIO room. A few minutes into it and she took my dick out and gave me a handjob. I felt guilty but eventually I wanted more and more.
I started getting. Hand jobs and titty fucking a few different dancers while also regular seeing my ATF inside the club. My ATF started allowing more and more (DATY, a very brief BBBJ and DFK on one visit). At that point my sex life with my wife had dried up even more than it already was and I decided I wanted to try and have sex with my ATF.
On my next visit before I could even ask if I could fuck her she asked if I had a condom and she gave me FS ITC. I remember thinking I was was putting my condom on that I was at the point of no return. Even though all the other stuff I had done was cheating, this was a whole mother level of cheating. I figured I would fuck her once and then be done comic to the clubs.
The next week she wasn't allowed to work for a few days so she suggested we meet at her place. Ever since then I've been seeing her ITC. Every time I think I am ready to move on she sucks me right back in.
Since the first time I had sex ITC with the ATF I started seeking extras in the club beyond hand jobs. I've gotten a BBBJCIM and fucked tree other dancers ITC. One of them pretty much initiated it, when I asked her how much she charged for VIP she gave her price but said it was all inclusive and said she had everything we needed. A different dancer offered me a covered BJ on our first VIP, I titty fucked her instead and then on the next visit I offered more money and asked what it would get me and she said she would fuck me.
A third dancer have me HJ's in the lap dance booth. She mentioned several times that we should go to the VIP. She offered the highest mileage lap dances (she basically sits on my lap and let's me do whatever I want to her while she jerks me off) so I figured sex would be a five in the VIP. She started giving me a BJ and at one point I though she was about to fuck me bareback. I wanted to use a co Dom so I told her I had a condom and asked if we could have sex. She said yes as long as I gave her a tip. The sex was the worst of the ; strippers I've banged. She didn't let me go in that deep and I don't even think I came. She was very petite and I am bigger than average so maybe that's why.
Every time I get sick of the ATF I see other dancers and I appreciate the ATF that might more. I've fucked her bareback a few times (but I use a condom now) came inside her, fucked her in the ass (she told me too, that was nothing that excites me) DFK, BBBJ, cuddling, wearing clothes that I buy her, sending me pics (although I wish she would send me a few more).
Lately she’s onto this kick of wanting me to go clubbing by myself to see if the strippers would react any differently without her being there. Ie: would I get a lot better mileage? I feel like I’d be wasting my $$$
To answer the OP; yes, we started clubbing without seeking extras BUT we had the misguided thought that we could easily get a stripper to do OTC with us. This has proved weirdly harder to come about than we thought it would be. We have gotten some mild extras but the OTC has eluded us so far.
I don't depend a club for steady sex because it's too expensive for me, and a dancer isn't going to really be in to me anyway, like my g/f's are. But if I have the cash, I'm not opposed to an OTC romp or ITC extras should they be available.