CF Breakup

I ate a brownie

If you are dropping mad cash, the other strippers will come. That's the ultimate equalizer.

It could get ugly quickly if your soon-to-be-ex CF is a drama queen as well as a diva/bitch. I have had this happen before, but I have always had plenty of other clubs nearby to skulk away to until the dust settled with the kicked to the curb ex. But like rh48hr stated so very aptly - money will have the other dancers taking notice. Perhaps the meek/scared ones or the bitch's club buddies will not want to get in the middle of it, but there should be plenty of other dancers (especially the CF haters) who will happily take you on.

Maybe go spend some time at the other club for awhile and let things cool down.

Nah, everything will be fine. Dealing with drama from coworkers , particularly with "He was my regular, bitch!" isn't something new to us. Your new favorites will figure it out. You are very considerate guy, btw. It's really nice of you.

Depends what your options are and your spending habits.

End of the day, cash is king.

Thanks for the feedback. Gonna hit the alternate club a few times, come in a few times on her day off and hope that it dies a natural death. I would just like it to dissolve cleanly without causing drama for other dancers and without costing me too much money (don't want to overspend on new hunnies just to make it worth the trouble I can help it). Thanks again TUSCLers.

You're always supposed to have sex one last time before you break up. :)

I haven't done business with the queen bee in 8 months. She still makes it hell for me and her coworkers. Some girls aren't allowed and the others no longer work there when I come back. It's always such a drama, sitting on stage, pouting, playing hate songs, attempts to humilate me. There never would have been a glitch if she wasn't such a bitch. It was my loss, now it's hers.

Problems/issues are best dealt with upfront; you either deal w/ it now or you'll have to deal w/ it the next time you see her even if it's a couple of months from now.

Strippers know the deal better than us – they know many custies like to try different dancers – but if a custy is a pussy about it she will often use it against him to guilt/shame/pussify him into continuing to spend on her.

IMO it's your $$$ and you call the shots – i.e. you have to be proactive in establishing yourself w/ the other dancers – even if they think “you are off limits”; sooner or later one will take you up on your offer and this will let the other dancers know you are a free-agent – if a dancer tells you something along the lines of “IDK aren't you so-and-so's custy” you make it clear that *you* are the one that wants dances from other dancers and you are the one that decides whom you want to be with; not the dancer. It may be best to let her know you want to “take a break” and try other dancers that way she does not get the idea you are being “stolen” by another dancer and she knows it's coming from you.

Why do we often feel we gotta tap-dance about not wanting to be w/ a particular dancer or thinking we can't be w/ other dancers – if we have a bad financial situation and all of a sudden don't have much $$$; how long do you think it will take a “fave” to drop a PL – usually not long IMO.