Do strippers find it insulting if you don't get aroused during a dance?

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• love2dance

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  20 years ago

  As a dancer I have to say i really like it when the guy I'm danceing for gets h**d. It turns me on and makes my dance for him a little better. However it's not important if he doesn't get hard I'm still going to grab at it,hard or soft and give aq good dance. I just think that I gage how well my dance is baced on the level of arousal and (the smell). For the guys that can't get hard due to medical problems the sex smell that is omitted from the semi- arousl is sign enough for me to know that you like it. So FYI most dancer don't mind because we're a little sexualy srewed up.So 2 thumbs up 4 the rageing and the not so rageing hard on.
• Yoda

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  20 years ago

  FONDL: Well said. The most important lesson I've learned in my years as a SCJ is that genaralizing will get you in trouble. Find what you like and stick with it.
• FONDL

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  20 years ago

  I don't think you can generalize about stuff like this, dancers vary all over the lot. Some go to great lengths to make sure you don't get aroused, while others think it's funny if they can cause that eruption. I've had a girl get annoyed without my doing much at all, while the next girl kept trying to get me to do more. I always ask a girl what her rules are in advance but a lot of them won't tell you before you commit to a dance, or they'll mislead you into thinking you can do more than they eventually allow (these are the ones who then get annoyed.) The only way you can win is to find a girl through trial and error who likes to do what you like to do, tip her well and become her regular.
• SuperDude

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  20 years ago

  Or try this one: "Thanks. Now I can cancel my Viagra."
• Jpac73

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  20 years ago

  verfolgung, I didn't know guys actually did that at the stripclubs. I wouldn't try humping any of the dancers that I usually get a dance from becuase they think I am a really nice guy and doing something like that they would lose the respect they have for me and look at me as being a pervert. I also wouldn't try it with a dancer I just met because I don't know how she would act. I wouldn't even try touching a dancer I just met other than getting a hug.
• verfolgung

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  20 years ago

  Jpac73: You didn't think guys did what at the SCs? Grab girls or try to dry hump them? Heck that's not even the worst of the crap some guys will try to pull.
  
  Have you been paying attention? Assholes abound in many SCs.
• Yoda

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  20 years ago

  Well said VG. Well said. Let me add that most contact dancers also realize that thier efforts will often cause a volcanic eruption. This is not neccessarily thier favorite occurance but, again, smart girls know that a satisfied customer will return.
• verfolgung

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  20 years ago

  Hey YODA: The truly great ones know how to build you up right to the that point where .....
  
  You: "Dammit the song ended!"
  Dancer: "So, would you like another dance?" ; )
  
  
• verfolgung

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  20 years ago

  Here is my honest input to this topic after hearing from several dancers...
  
  Most dancers expect arousal, especially in a contact club. They realize it's a natural reaction to what is going on. In many cases they take it as a sign that they're doing a good job, which increases the possibility of the customer getting more dances - always a good thing. In some cases if they don't get arousal than the dancer wonders what she might be doing wrong. (There are times times a guy might not be aroused because of fatigue, type of clothing they are wearing, or maybe a medication they are on and it will have nothing to do with the dancer's performance.)
  
  Okay, so arousal is not a problem for most dancers. It's generally thought of as a good thing. Now what most dancers don't appreciate is once one is arroused to be overly agressive in jutting it out there. Yes, there are some dancers who will just dry hump the hell out of you, but most are not that way. What dancers dislike is when guys get aroused and then grab their hipps and begin to thrust - ouch!
  
  So to sum up, don't be worried about getting aroused, but don't be a jerk about it either.
• Dain

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  20 years ago

  No, they just take their money and run. The big question for me is whether they get insulted if you "show" your arousal. About a quarter of the girls, in my experience, are very interested in it. Recently, I've taken to arranging mutual masturbation outside the club, and about ten percent of the girls are very interested in that. After all, most of the dancers are exhibitionists, and if they haven't been jaded by their exposure, they are still aroused by a chance to display (as witnessed by all the porno on the Internet). Let's start a movement for this, guys!