"Car payment is due in a few days, I'm so worried I'm going to lose my car. "
She didn't ask for anything but was obviously hinting. I'd love to use this to my advantage but I probably won't be in town to see this girl for a few weeks. Any ideas on how I could work this even though I won't see her for a while?
She's not pushing it at all but I just don't want to miss an opportunity.
Send her a large check to cover the payment and to give her something extra. She will be truly grateful and will repay you with sex many weeks from now.
If this is a regular of yours, a car payment of what? $300/$350? A one time donation may pay you a much larger benefits. Speaking from the times I have helped. If she is someone you want to be a regular girl, then test the waters and you will find out for only a car payment. Good luck.
Of course she isn't pushing it. Playing the "damsel in distress" card, she's expecting the white knight to show up on her doorstep. Course, she won't invite him any further either.
Just tell her you don't have the cash, not after helping three other strippers with the car problems this week, and good luck in her future scams.
One does not lose their car for being late on one payment. If her payment is due in a few days and you can't see her for a few weeks and you want to give her the money, tell her you will give it to her then. See what happens. She isn't going to lose her car over a payment a few weeks late.
There is no such thing as an I.O.U on any level with gold diggers and hoes. If you feel like she's good enough to return your kindness then that is your personal call. Honestly it's otherwise a gift.
I'm not a OTC guy; but it is the general consensus that strippers are flaky even when you are paying them; once they have the cash; their flakiness often goes off the rails.
Some guys will say give her the $$$ and she'll give you the cuchie at a later time (or even work out a deal of 2 OTCs for helping her w/ her “emergency”; etc) – I would think if they do follow thru with post-payment cuchie that it may be a less inspired performance since in *her* stripper mind she is not getting paid.
Many will say it's bad to set a bad precedent – often times this sets the precedent for them to continuously use you as their emergency fund while them delivering less or not delivering at all.
Thanks for all the feedback. I haven't done OTC with this girl but that was the plan for my next visit. As of now I think playing it safe and ignoring her messages is best. They stopped around 10 last night. I don't want her to rely on me for money and I agree with most of you that I wouldn't get any return on investment when I do see her.
I don't think you should ignore her. That just makes you/us just as irresponsible as her/them. Nothing to be afraid of. I'd write back and say "I'm sorry about your car but I have a strict rule against loaning dancers money based upon my past experience. Nevertheless, I do hope to see you next time I'm in the club and spend some money on you." Or something like that.
Yeah – I agree that you should text her back unless you don't intend on seeing her – but I'm not sure a logical explanation like JS proposed would work very well – IME women and logic don't often mix very well and w/ strippers IME there is no room or use for logic.
The best way to deal w/ a bullshitter is to bullshit them – it may best to have some canned excuses in hand such as “my elderly sick mother is in hospice care of which I have to pay a large amount and thus I don't have the funds right now” - or something sad along those lines.
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last commentSpeaking from experience, nice guys finish last. Dead last.
I've NEVER got back services for fronting a girl money. Ever. So a long time ago, I stopped being the "save a ho" PL.
My advice is don't fall into the same trap.
Just tell her you don't have the cash, not after helping three other strippers with the car problems this week, and good luck in her future scams.
Some guys will say give her the $$$ and she'll give you the cuchie at a later time (or even work out a deal of 2 OTCs for helping her w/ her “emergency”; etc) – I would think if they do follow thru with post-payment cuchie that it may be a less inspired performance since in *her* stripper mind she is not getting paid.
Many will say it's bad to set a bad precedent – often times this sets the precedent for them to continuously use you as their emergency fund while them delivering less or not delivering at all.
I haven't done OTC with this girl but that was the plan for my next visit. As of now I think playing it safe and ignoring her messages is best. They stopped around 10 last night. I don't want her to rely on me for money and I agree with most of you that I wouldn't get any return on investment when I do see her.
Answered your own question.
Or you could just go with Jack's original advice.
The best way to deal w/ a bullshitter is to bullshit them – it may best to have some canned excuses in hand such as “my elderly sick mother is in hospice care of which I have to pay a large amount and thus I don't have the funds right now” - or something sad along those lines.
:)