To tip or not to tip ... that is the question
rh48hr
Wakanda
Keep in mind, she was enthusiastic (not mechanical) throughout the fun and is not a ROB, but for whatever reason you are not able to get off. Does she still get the tip? Why or why not?
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If I honestly felt like it wasn't her, it was me, I'd probably throw her a little something extra. But the main reason to tip is to make her enthusiastic about doing it again.
Do you mean that you agreed on a regular VIP dance (whatever that costs -- say, $100). She went in there and tried as hard as she could to get you off. But you didn't get it up, or you didn't cum. Should you tip her on top of the $100? Well, if in the club you go to, playing iwth the titties, FIV, etc., constitutes above-and-beyond service, then yes, I'd tip her something. If it's par for the course, then no.
Do you mean you agreed to an overall price -- $100 VIP + $50 "tip" for a HJ -- and she tried as hard as she could, but you didn't get off, should you still pay the $150? Yes, of course, you made an agreement, it's not her fault you couldn't come through, as it were.
If she didn't work hard and didn't deliver on what she said she would do or allow, no tip. If it was just that I didn't get off despite her best efforts and everything was on the up and up, I would give the tip.
You wrote: " You've negotiated the price and services". So I assume that means you've negotiated, say, $200 for a BJ (just an example). She tries as hard as she can, but you don't get off. Are you asking if you should pay the $200, even though you didn't get off? Yes, of course -- although I'd consider that just a pre-negotiated fee, not a tip. Are you asking if you should tip on top of that $200? Nothing in your description sounds above-and-beyond, so no.
Am I mis-reading this?
However, if I read the question as whether to tip for service that normally produces a HE, the answer is obviously yes. She's not responsible for your dysfunction. Tip her.
Subraman - I understand what you're saying now. This would be the additional money you pay on top of the price for dances for additional services (hj, bj, fs) in VIP.
Obviously what everyone can get away with in regular lappers differs depending on the club.
IMO one should not feel an obligation to tip – I like to tip when I feel the dancer has gone above and beyond or perhaps the amount agreed upon was a big low or in the middle of the acceptable range for the service(s) – i.e. if I paid $150 for FS but she really went out of her way to please me; I may tip an extra $50; but if I'm in an upscale club and paying $300+ for FS; I don't feel as big a need to tip and usually won't but depends on the circumstances.
I try to use a variation of the Golden Rule – i.e. if a dancer takes care of me I often feel obliged to take care of her; within reason.