CF
Well it looks like I am going to have to go looking for a NEW CF again. My current one says one thing when I am at club with her then lies all the time when texting me and makes promises that are never followed thru on mainly talking about OTC. So I have to decide if I am good going to the club and getting amazing dances from her and just forget about OTC or look for new CF who may be open to OTC. I almost said a CF who is honest but from my experiences and reading threads on here I don't know if that is even a possibility to find an honest dancer. I thought I was getting all these made up excuses and it was only happening to me by my CF but then I read what u guys say and see that alot of the same excuses I am told are things u guys get told also.
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Go get some dances with her and ask her to refer a fellow stripper who is reliable!
There's absolutely no percentage in keeping her around for dances. You'll find someone else just as awesome -- in fact, you'll find that someone else 10x faster if you don't keep the girl who has been playing you for a complete sucker still doing dances for you. The fact that you're even remotely considering it makes me wonder if you've got a little emotional bond you're reluctant to break
This is not uncommon. I have had favs who would suck and fuck ITC but never show for OTC. If she cancels on you several times, you know she's never going to do OTC. Start spending your money on another girl.
IMO – you take it for what it’s worth – i.e. enjoy her when you have her and she delivers and don’t sweat it when she doesn’t come thru (as long as you are not paying when she doesn’t come thru).
Also – IMO often times the more you yield to a stripper the more she’ll take you for granted and mistreat you – only one can wear the pants – it’s either going to be you since you are the one w/ the $$$ - or it’s going to be her if you don’t man up – more often than not dancers will come running back once they see you taking your biz someplace/someone else – there is the distinct possibility she may get ultra-pissed and blackball you; but IME more often than not they come back and better/nicer than ever even if it takes them a short time to get over their initial huff.
If she makes you wait, get dances with some other girls. Maybe one of them will become your new favorite.
You need to let her see you will not wait for her and get dances with many other girls while "waiting" on her.
Walk in sometime prepared to walk if she doesn't get to you in 30 minutes or whatever, then actually leave (or get dances from another girl). When the CF starts seeing it as lost money she'll start trying to earn your business more.
Ha, just some tough love man. But the girl obviously has not the slightest bit of respect for you, and no wonder -- she treats you like a doormat with no repercussions, and you make up weak excuses as to why you should just sit and take it. I've been going to the same main club, on and off, for 6 years now, changing ATFs often .... no drama (or if there is drama, I'm blissfully unaware of it, maybe because I don't much care as long as I"m getting what I want out of the experience), and almost always a trade up. Really, just some tough love -- you need to re-think what you want out of this, stop making excuses as to why you should keep accepting what she's dishing out, even if it takes getting a bit irritated about her complete lack of respect for you, and then just move on
I lost interest in my first favorite dancer because of the same shit that you describe. I wished I had moved on sooner though, I put up with it for about a year, lol. Hey, she was attractive, had a nice pussy and not afraid to show it off in a topless only club. I stopped getting dances from her and she asked if "there was another bitch" I said no and that was the truth. It took another 6 months of searching to find my current favorite. We've had ups and downs but that's to be expected. They are women after all. I have no expectations of OTC though.