Awkward to say the least
Clackport
Washington
Last night I went to a local strip club and I saw a stripper in there that I work with. Yikes! It was a little more awkward for her than it was for me. She said half jokingly she would kick my ass if I told anyone. She is one of those girls that looks good OTC and ITC. She's a solid 8.5. I could tell she had a nice ass from work, but man her ass is much juicier than I thought, my mouth was watering.
She was the hottest stripper in there that night. I really wanted to feel her body grind on me, but it would have been too weird asking her for a dance, so I didn't. The second hottest stripper in there was her friend, she was a 8, I wanted a dance from her too, but it was too close to home with the girl I know from work, so I passed. I then looked around and realized I didn't feel comfortable getting a dance from any of the girls. I left after 30 minutes.
I'm super friendly with the girl at work. I was trying to make her at a least a fuck buddy, if not my girl. I don't know how I feel about knowing she's a stripper. I know she has a kid, and I know she's in school. I also know her job isn't high paying, so I understand her trying to pick up extra money.
Have any of you ever worked with someone and then see her in a strip club stripping later on? How about the other way around?
Thoughts in general?
She was the hottest stripper in there that night. I really wanted to feel her body grind on me, but it would have been too weird asking her for a dance, so I didn't. The second hottest stripper in there was her friend, she was a 8, I wanted a dance from her too, but it was too close to home with the girl I know from work, so I passed. I then looked around and realized I didn't feel comfortable getting a dance from any of the girls. I left after 30 minutes.
I'm super friendly with the girl at work. I was trying to make her at a least a fuck buddy, if not my girl. I don't know how I feel about knowing she's a stripper. I know she has a kid, and I know she's in school. I also know her job isn't high paying, so I understand her trying to pick up extra money.
Have any of you ever worked with someone and then see her in a strip club stripping later on? How about the other way around?
Thoughts in general?
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Yes, that happened to me.
I would have gotten dances from her and tried to make her a regular. You don't want to date her if she's a stripper. But I'm ruining my life apparently so don't listen to me.
I'd mention it to her at work and say something coy like "I don't go to strip clubs often" and see what her response is. She'll let you know if she thinks it's cool or not, which hopefully will give you the opportunity to say something like "I was surprised to see you there and btw you were the most beautiful girl there and I'd love to see you again." OR if she says "strip clubs are gross and I'm there just for the money," then you'll have to alter your approach and make up some stupid lie like, "yeah I know, my friend is a perv and insisted we go there so I went with him. Strip clubs aren't my thing but I have to admit, what guy doesn't like looking at hot women taking off lingerie," kinda to justify why you went.
Ha, who told you not to fuck anyone from work? That was my philosophy years ago, but not anymore. Just choose wisely (i.e., preferably not someone under the same 1st or 2nd level of management as you)... go for it, life's too fucking short.
However, I'm dead consistent on the stripper part: don't fucking make a stripper your girlfriend, unless you want drama, headcase, disappointment, heartbreak. Don't fucking do it. Even worse, a stripper who is also a work colleague -- she knows everything about you, your real name, who you work for, and she's perfectly positioned to take whatever crazy stripper headcase revenge she wants, after you eventually need to ditch her.
I think shailynn is more or less right. I think you want to stay on the "free" "civilian" path with this girl, not the "I'm paying you" path. So you were right to skip the LDs in the short run.
Work her for a few weeks as a civilian. If that goes no where you can always work the P4P angle with her.
JS69 - the reason we're giving him different answers than you is he's implied this girl is at the same level as he is at work, and I've also gotten the impression ranukam has a job, while you have a Career. The difference is when you have a job it's fairly easy to go get another, very similar job if you want to bounce. With a Career you may never recover, especially if the stench of "he fucked one of his subordinates" follows you around your industry.
The assistant manager at Applebees should fuck all the waitresses he can. Retail and restaurants are full of drugs, booze and hookups and a steady rate of churn. A corporate Director or whatever your title is shouldn't fuck his subordinates. You can fuck women at work who are in different departments; Accounts Payable or Legal or whoever is totally on the table if you don't work in that department. Even women AT THE SAME LEVEL in the same department are theoretically okay, although should be approached carefully.
SJG
Ranukam -- assuming yours is more of a job than a career, as an aside, I would say NOTHING at work about strip clubs or stripping or ANYTHING of that nature to her or anyone else. She will come to see that you can be trusted to keep her secrets. After awhile, go back to the club and seek her out. Remind her that you appreciate her keeping your secrets and that you are able to keep hers at work. Assert that you are a good guy that can be trusted. Then, GO FOR IT. Ask her out. If she says no, then at least get a dance and support her financially -- since you find her attractive.
She might not feel comfortable dancing for an acquaintance from real life. If she is, I'm not sure why you wouldn't get some dances from her if you'd enjoy them.
Since you know her dark secret at work know
I guess some people want to learn the hard way.
I guess I shouldn't be too surprised.
Kind of like hearing a news anchor on CNN said it was brave and courageous to open fire on a police station. I think maybe she meant it's takes courage to go suicidal with 100 percent certainty that you're going to die. Then again maybe she was just being stupid. That's like calling the 911 hijackers brave and courageous. It sounds awfully disrespectful to everyone else. It might be something you would expect to hear from the leader of the Taliban.
Do you guys see any problem trying to date someone that works with you? Like I said earlier she doesn't directly work with me, she just works in the same building.
Jenner will always be a man. He can pretend all he wants, but his DNA says MAN!
You need to be pretty above the table in terms of how serious you are. Don't let her think you're exclusive if you're not. But you can figure out if you two are looking for the same thing.
Would it be awkward asking her for a dance?
Right now, she is a little distant towards me at work. Maybe it's because she's so afraid I will tell her secret? Maybe it's because she was so embarrassed that I saw her in there?
Thoughts in general?