I was messing around with the girlfriend this weekend, anyway shit is about to go down and for the fucking life of me I could not maintain an a strong erection. I could get one, but when I started to put in work, to say the least it wasn't my best performance. So any tips from any tantra sex gurus out there?
For a fail stop, I've seen commercials for cock rings with a Vibrating clit metal thing. I almost always hear them say not to wear it longer than 15 to 20 minutes. never tried one, they always look so small. I thought condoms felt super tight at times. I saw another commercial say that over half of men over 40 experience some type of erectile dysfunction. I was thinking oh great, just when you have more disposal income, testerone drops and your equipment doesn't always work.
I hate to tell you but it may be more of an issue than you think. I'm not sure how old you are but if you're over 30 you probably need a prostate exam. A lot of times guys can get an enlarged prostate that will affect their erection.
My other advice is you may want to look at how often you masturbate. If you do it a lot (like everyday) and you think you're going to hook up with a girl, you may want to abstain for a few days before you're going to have sex as to build up some stamina. You will learn on your own what your sweet spot it... is it 2 days or 4 days?
Try eating some watermelon an hour or two before your activities. The vitamins in it increase your blood flow. It's nature's Viagara, seriously, Google it. If you search for "best foods to boost your sex drive" it's basically on every list.
You said "shit is about to go down." Are you having more issues with the relationship? Is it some other outside stress? Both of those could be contributing to any performance issues.
Like Jack and Shadow said, it might be time to find a new girlfriend or, better yet, just a fuck buddy with absolutely no strings attached.
Once or twice is probably nothing to wory about, however if this is or becomes a recurring problem I would sugest seeing a urologist about the problem.
Unless you were high, I'd guess it was the girl. If the girl is right for you, you will get hard and stay that way.
This week, on our first night together, the DS and I ended up fucking earlier in the evening than I expected. We were in bed and I had not taken a little helper pill. Didnt matter in the slightest. Just thinking about our time together makes me rock hard.
Have to admit, the guys saying it might the girl could well be right.
Several years ago, I met up with a provider in the Twin Cities. She had great pictures and solid reviews, so I was stoked. But when got to my room, I just felt...deflated. Sure, she still had a pretty face, but she also had an obviously recent boob job, more tattoos than I want to remember, and her skin was cold and clammy.
Another provider was supposedly a popular A-lister. Again, pretty face, excellent reviews, and a solid following on the review sites. Come to meet her and...nothing. Her personality was a dud for me (one of those people who just can't stop talking; she'd ask a question and, before I could answer it, she'd answer it), her make-up was caked on, and her fabled massage technique any inexperienced girlfriend could do.
Both times I was flaccid. Neither time was I able to start -- let alone complete -- anything. But those were the only two times I've had that sort of problem. Like the other guys have implied, that connection you felt just might be broken now.
It is almost always psychological. If you wake up with Mr. Stiffy, then I it has to be. But what exactly underlies this can be very complicated. It is not just the girlfriend, or you would know it. It probably it's more issues about where life is going, concerns you are not really facing up to.
@gewings You were right about the over the counter T-supplements. I took a dose three hours before I went out this weekend. Couldn't quite hitting it. Good to know, and should tie me over until my actual T-virus (that what me and my buddies call testosterone ) kicked in from all the working out I've started doing.
This is not to ANYONE specifically. Just trying to be helpful in general.
99.9% of the OTC "manhood pills" are junk and you're wasting your money. Work out and plan a healthy diet. Get in shape. Lose the excess fat. Quit smoking. Buy some dumb bells and instead of sitting on the couch watching tv at night sit there and do some curls. Do a set of 20 then stop for a few minutes to rest and do another set. Do pushups while you're watching tv. Being healthy will go a long way to help with any sexual issues.
I won't discuss holistic or other "natural" ED remedies because they can all be explained with a good diet but the only true pill i'm aware of that can fix honest to goodness ED is sildenafil citrate aka viagra, cialis, levitra or whatever other brand names it goes by. The patent on it expired a year or 2 ago so you can guy the generic from all over the world pretty cheap with no prescription and it works. If you have a need for it then it gets the blood back where it needs to go. If you DON'T have a need for it then it'll make you feel like you're 18 again with a hard-on that's about to burst out of your body like in Alien. Either way, it can be fun.
If you really want supplements there are a couple I can recommend:
tribulus = testosterone
maca (Lepidium meyenii) = more volume (lots of volume)
L-arginine = increases blood flow
These will not help with ED like sildenafil citrate but they will substantially increase your load, blood flow and stamina and they actually work.
Ok, back OT. GACA, if this only happens occasionally to you then it's most likely psychological. Could be a myriad of things. Stress over work, stress over needing to get your car to the shop to get something replaced and wondering how you can fit that in during the day and get to work. It could be anything on your mind. It could very well be performance anxiety over dating a 19yo stripper. You may not consciously think about it but maybe you worry you aren't as attractive as guys her age. Maybe she is so smoking hot you worry she'll tire of you or won't be truly aroused by looking at you. Maybe you worry you won't rock her world on a consistent basis. The mind can be the worst cock blocker in the world.
@seaboardrr thanks for the follow up advice. Yankees my gut did get a little out of control in the last few months. Started jogging again plus weight lifting to burn fat and build muscle. Damn shame being over 30 means working for the same hard-on you couldn't wait to get rid of in your 20's
Ehh, it's just a fact of life. I tell the younger guys I work with all the time to not take it for granted. Hit 30 and your metabolism changes. Don't get sedentary and assume you'll always have abs. Work out, do cardio, eat smaller meals and increase your protein and decrease carbs and sugar. Instead of grabbing that bag of chips to watch a tv show grab a yogurt. Dannon light and fit 80 calorie greek yogurt is the best one we've found. Drink a protein shake in the AM or before a workout. Drink chocolate milk after a workout. The plus with increasing your protein is it helps build muscle AND it also increases your volume when you cum.
It can take a little time but you'll feel better about yourself and your confidence will increase. When your confidence about your body increases there won't be anymore psychological issues that may be causing any performance issues.
Damn, I guess i need to do a whole fitness article about workouts and meals. lol
"Smoke some pot, you'll be able to hang two wet towels on your penis."
If marijuana can really have this kind of an effect, then apparent limitations must be only psychological. Practicing yoga should be able to work even better, like as in Tantric Yoga.
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Were you drinking or using drugs? On any medications that can mess with things? If so, I would just blame the booze or pills.
But my hunch is you're just not that into her anymore. You don't like her personality and the novelty is probably gone, no matter how hot she is.
My other advice is you may want to look at how often you masturbate. If you do it a lot (like everyday) and you think you're going to hook up with a girl, you may want to abstain for a few days before you're going to have sex as to build up some stamina. You will learn on your own what your sweet spot it... is it 2 days or 4 days?
Like Jack and Shadow said, it might be time to find a new girlfriend or, better yet, just a fuck buddy with absolutely no strings attached.
This week, on our first night together, the DS and I ended up fucking earlier in the evening than I expected. We were in bed and I had not taken a little helper pill. Didnt matter in the slightest. Just thinking about our time together makes me rock hard.
Several years ago, I met up with a provider in the Twin Cities. She had great pictures and solid reviews, so I was stoked. But when got to my room, I just felt...deflated. Sure, she still had a pretty face, but she also had an obviously recent boob job, more tattoos than I want to remember, and her skin was cold and clammy.
Another provider was supposedly a popular A-lister. Again, pretty face, excellent reviews, and a solid following on the review sites. Come to meet her and...nothing. Her personality was a dud for me (one of those people who just can't stop talking; she'd ask a question and, before I could answer it, she'd answer it), her make-up was caked on, and her fabled massage technique any inexperienced girlfriend could do.
Both times I was flaccid. Neither time was I able to start -- let alone complete -- anything. But those were the only two times I've had that sort of problem. Like the other guys have implied, that connection you felt just might be broken now.
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It is almost always psychological. If you wake up with Mr. Stiffy, then I it has to be. But what exactly underlies this can be very complicated. It is not just the girlfriend, or you would know it. It probably it's more issues about where life is going, concerns you are not really facing up to.
And then yes, there is the DIY issue.
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Extra weight; especially around the gut; can probably affect sexual performance.
Eating healthy; maintaining an adequate weight; and exercising; are probably the best natural remedies which work long term and w/ no side effects.
99.9% of the OTC "manhood pills" are junk and you're wasting your money. Work out and plan a healthy diet. Get in shape. Lose the excess fat. Quit smoking. Buy some dumb bells and instead of sitting on the couch watching tv at night sit there and do some curls. Do a set of 20 then stop for a few minutes to rest and do another set. Do pushups while you're watching tv. Being healthy will go a long way to help with any sexual issues.
I won't discuss holistic or other "natural" ED remedies because they can all be explained with a good diet but the only true pill i'm aware of that can fix honest to goodness ED is sildenafil citrate aka viagra, cialis, levitra or whatever other brand names it goes by. The patent on it expired a year or 2 ago so you can guy the generic from all over the world pretty cheap with no prescription and it works. If you have a need for it then it gets the blood back where it needs to go. If you DON'T have a need for it then it'll make you feel like you're 18 again with a hard-on that's about to burst out of your body like in Alien. Either way, it can be fun.
If you really want supplements there are a couple I can recommend:
tribulus = testosterone
maca (Lepidium meyenii) = more volume (lots of volume)
L-arginine = increases blood flow
These will not help with ED like sildenafil citrate but they will substantially increase your load, blood flow and stamina and they actually work.
Ok, back OT. GACA, if this only happens occasionally to you then it's most likely psychological. Could be a myriad of things. Stress over work, stress over needing to get your car to the shop to get something replaced and wondering how you can fit that in during the day and get to work. It could be anything on your mind. It could very well be performance anxiety over dating a 19yo stripper. You may not consciously think about it but maybe you worry you aren't as attractive as guys her age. Maybe she is so smoking hot you worry she'll tire of you or won't be truly aroused by looking at you. Maybe you worry you won't rock her world on a consistent basis. The mind can be the worst cock blocker in the world.
It can take a little time but you'll feel better about yourself and your confidence will increase. When your confidence about your body increases there won't be anymore psychological issues that may be causing any performance issues.
Damn, I guess i need to do a whole fitness article about workouts and meals. lol
If marijuana can really have this kind of an effect, then apparent limitations must be only psychological. Practicing yoga should be able to work even better, like as in Tantric Yoga.
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