Dating Civvie cutting into my SC Funds.

"A man's got to know his limitations."--Clint Eastwood

In the first three weeks of dating it should be BBBJ on demand. Most girls take at least a couple months before they get lazy.

Consider taking a break from clubbing. You can stash the cash you're saving for the future, and if you are back at the club on 3 or 6 months half the girls will be new to you (but past their low milage new girl stage).

It's possible to go to the club, see some tits, have a beer or two but skip the LDs. But if that's not your style it may be tough to adapt.

Shoot, GACA, you're a piker. My wife (of 33 years) and I were engaged after six weeks! :-)

I got the solution but you may not like it because I didn't spend much more than that last weekend. Just go to a super crowded club and sit in the back if that's where the empty seats are at. Don't get up much from your seat and you'll likely not spend much unless everyone comes to you in the back of the club. I only got up and left my seat for 3 minutes and it was taken when I came back. Another empty seat was nearby. Someone told me it was the feature entertainer sitting nearby, apparently where I was. I tipped her on stage later on. I was wondering if she had hard tits or was just enjoying pounding them against me. I was undecided.

Solid advice Shamrkey

JamesSD has some great advice. I couldnt have put it any bettter

Enjoy the cheaper fun while you can. Good for you.

GAC, it isn't uncommon for SC activities to curtail for a while when we are in the dating stage with a civvie. Fear not, the clubs will always be there once she's your missus. ;)

What a nice problem to have GACA :-)

@Bavarian you too will eventually have these problems :)

Keep throwing money at strippers and practice flirting with them. Eventually you'll end up doing it OTC with civvie chick's because your brain has been trained that it's all good. So any time you have a extra $100 go to the local dive strip clubs where there is just a handful of dancers and it will force you to engage. Then after those training wheels are of move on to bigger clubs. Most guys who want to be player are not because they just don't know how to be relaxed around women. I'm cheering for you.

"Life is a cinch inch by inch, but hard by the yard" 6th grade teacher told me that.

This one is easy. First off, if you think you're serious then commit. An actual relationship is far better than throwing away cash. Find out if she likes looking at naked women. This can be easily accomplished by a night together where you end up fooling around watching a porn. Ask her thoughts on the porn stars bodies. If she's positive with her reaction ask if she's ever been to a SC. You might can tell her you've been to a couple (or not) but say that it sounds like a fun sexy outing as a couple. Maybe even a "secret" you two can share together. Plant the seed and let her think about it while you're being the perfect BF. If she likes looking at women she will more than likely bring it up as "her idea". The main thing is let it be her call. If she isn't into it then drop it. Maybe at some later date she might change her mind. If you still want to go by yourself you'll just have to figure that out on your own with your conscious and wallet.

I wouldn't let the SC get in the way of a good relationship if you think it's a long term one but at the same time each person need to be completely open to everything or eventually one of you will feel trapped. Sex and money ruin relationships when one party has very strict views. People fight over money and get divorced. People have affairs when one of them loses desire for the other. If you can both openly talk about money and sex then you'll probably be at a SC as a couple having fun for a long time together.

I think I might've gone a little too deep for TUSCL...lol

GACA: You need BagBoy James for advice! I had a civi G/F all last summer and I didn't club nearly as often since she was free. I enjoyed having a positive cash flow! I'm single again now though... :(

I recommend you only do three things:

1} play it for all its worth without a commitment: do not let her move in or vice versa (keep nothing at her place and allow her to keep nothing at yours or the next thing you will know you will open a bathroom drawer and find tampons) (if you make a commitment you will regret it the rest of you life) 2} NO KIDS if she mentions a kid or has a kid; bail immediately take her home tell her to have a nice life and leave, no last screw .. no nothing 3} if you get an ultimatum to commit... run away very fast and do not look back

If you have trouble with any of these rules I suggest strip club therapy with a dose VIP to get your big and little heads in sync.

Always remember 60% of all marriages end in divorce and the other 69% are miserable!

Tired traveler is right about no moving in.

I disagree on the kids. If she wants you to MEET her kids, that's a red flag. But single moms are some of the hottest sluts out there. No single.mom makes you wait to the third date to fuck. She's not going to keep paying a babysitter and not get laid.

Ultimatums aren't good. It should be your idea if you want to commit, and I get the vibe you're not ready for that. If she gives an ultimatum, call her bluff and walk away.

But there are girls out there in their 20s who are looking to have fun. They're a decade away from having kids. Sure, they may want someone safe and reliable and a "boyfriend" rather than just a fuck buddy. But don't assume she's demanding more of a commitment too early.

@James SD She's just moving a whole hellova lot faster towards solidifying bf/gf than anyone I've ever been with. She's not super young either like 27-28. So I'm a little weirded out. Already planning a me and her weekend get away. But anyway she's got no kids and she's cute probably just bat shot crazy and scares off guys (after we smash of course)

I did go to the club last night. Luckily my bonus check came thru So it was a little treat to myself.

No I'm not ready to settle down, but I don't mind engaging in a legitimate GFE now and again :)

This is why I always chuckle when people deride "paying for sex". Relationships are just as, if not more, expensive.

If you're already calling her bat-shit crazy, are you sure you want any sort of relationship with her? She might consider that weekend getaway the next step to a ring.

@phantom it doesn't matter what she might consider it, people break up all the time. I'm going to go with this. Enjoy it while it's free, well low cost, well lower cost, ummm where hopefully eventually no be very little cost associated with getting ass.

Good luck, man. Remember to keep the accounts separate.