Clubs for my Wife

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mark.david
Hi. I just joined this site.

Recently, my wife and I were in Vegas together and I jokingly asked her if she wanted to go to a strip club. To my surprise, she said yes. We then spent the most fun few hours of my life. She's very pretty, and the girls were all over her. The club had pretty high milage, and they were kissing her and sucking on her nipples.

We're dying to repeat the experience on a somewhat regular basis. Trouble is, we live in NYC, which (as I'm sure many of you know) sucks as-far-as milage goes. So we're trying to figure out what to do. Like many NYers, we don't own a car. But I guess we could rent one and drive someplace. Or we could take a bus/train/etc.

Where should we go? I want to take her someplace classy (she wouldn't be into a dive) where she can touch the dancers. Is there any place close by, or do we need to fly back to Vegas (that could get expensive!).

Is there ANYTHING we could do in NYC? I know there's an underground scene, but I don't really know how to get into it or whether or not they be accepting of a couple. Would we be better off with swing clubs? Hiring a prostitute?

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dragman
20 years ago
Excuse me having fun, apparantly you are not having fun and that is why you made judgements abouut someone you don't know based on a totaly innocent post. A l;ittle sensative are we? I am comfortable, I do know the lifestyle from personal experience and just as there are many types of dancers, there are also many types of "swingers" Let's not stereotype or group people as the same when we are all individuals.
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havingfuninde
20 years ago
There are different kinds of swingers. Soft swap and full swap. Not all swingers go hog wild swapping partners. We are mostly soft swap. We enjoy the sexually charged atmosphere and some interaction with others, i.e. dirty dancing and touching and some other things when you're with the right people and everyone is on the same page. Just going to a swing club does not mean it's a big orgy pile. We have never been to Trapeze, but we do attend 3 on-premisis swing clubs and various off-premises clubs and meet and greets regularly.

Dragman - apparently you have no idea what you are talking about. Most swingers are couples that are very secure in their relationships - some married for 20-30 years. In fact, if you are not secure in your relationship then swinging isn't for you. People have such a misconception of swinging. Don't preach on a subject that you know nothing about or have never experienced.

Fondl - as for high class clubs, swing clubs are actually very cheap. They are usually BYOB with a fee for the "party". We have gone to clubs and paid anywhere from $50 to $100 a party. That included food (sometimes a full meal), D.J., party favors, full use of the facilities, i.e. hot tub, rooms, etc. I'd like to see you go to a strip club and come away as satisfied for the same amount of money!
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FONDL
20 years ago
You could also hire an escort. Not all encounters with escorts include prostitution, people hire escorts for all kinds of activities. Find one on line who appeals to you both and discuss what you want to do in advance with her. It'll probably be cheaper than going to a high class club.
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dragman
20 years ago
There is a web site called SDC.com. It stands for swingers date club and it will blow you away (really!) that quality and quanity of swingers these days. The "lifestyle" is gaining tempo everywhere and if you are ever in Atlanta, there is a club here called Trapeze that you will be talking about for months after going.
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havingfuninde
20 years ago
Mark - We (my husband and I) recommend you try a swing club in lieu of a strip club. There are many clubs in the NJ, PA, NY area. If your wife likes touching other women and being touched, that is the place to be for sure. We started out going to strip clubs but it got boring after awhile and we wanted more. Before you get the wrong idea it's nothing like you think. Swinger Clubs are no more than a very sexually charged club like any other with "benefits" if desired. There is never any pressure and you are free to do whatever you please. We have been attending swing clubs for about a year now and would not give it up for anything.

If she likes to dress sexy, she can go all out at these clubs, and I mean ALL out. If she is bi-curious this is a very safe environment for her to explore those possibilities also (I did!).

We have also met some of the nicest people at these clubs and have a whole new circle of friends. We have also attend strip clubs with some of these people and it can be lots of fun too.

If you would like more information you can email us.
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mark.david
20 years ago
It was Starlite.
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absnowman
20 years ago
Which was the club you went to in Vegas?
We're planning a weekend in Vegas shortly and keen to find 'couple-friendly' clubs.
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SirCharls
20 years ago
I am going to suggest some ideas on the board, and you can ask me about them off-board if you like.

My wife and I have gone to a couple of places around where we live and on the road.

Big Earl's Goldmine & The Lumberyard in Des Moines, IA.
-those are both good places, and they are friendly to women, and there is good contact BOTH ways. But they are not high class.

The Penthouse in Denver, CO.
-This has the added benefit of not being a "dive" but there less two-way contact.

So in answer to your question, since both of those aer pretty far away from you, I would consider FBSM.

Full Body Sensual Massage can be a good alternative. Usually the ASP will be accomadating as to what you want. IF you only want some lap dances with touching both ways, you can get that, or if you want actual massage with an erotic touch, they can do that. Of course, if you want something more than that... that is a gray area...you can ask me about that off-board.

SirCharls
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