What is up with this girl?
I am trying to figure out why this one dancer never asks me if I want a lapdance even though I have been getting one from her every time I see her at the club. I get to the club kind of early say about 8:30. April usually doesn't start dancing to about 9:15 or 9:30. I use to would wait till she came off stage to ask her for a dance but them alot of times I would miss out because some other person would have asked first. The thing that bothers me is by now since I have gotten dances from her on 3 or 4 trips lately to the club it seems that I shouldn't have to ask because by now she should know that I want want a lapdance from her, the other girl Ashley whom I use to get dances from at the same club now always asks me so why doesn't April? I don't know if it is because she feels she doesn't have to ask because she is one of the better looking girls there but I have seen her sitting at table with an older gentleman whom didn't tip her because he wasn't in the club while she was on stage performing. Should I sit back next time and see if she comes to me? and if she doesn't ask me for a dance should I leave her alone?
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I like Kyle's approach. Basically, talk to her and see what's up. You might want to try talking to her when you come in, and setting a 'date' 30 minutes later or whatever. If she never shows, then she doesn't value your business and it's time to say sianora.
I'm wondering how old the gentleman was. There are a small number of women who strongly prefer old men--not as boyfriends but as safe wise strong figures.
If she's quiet and non-assertive, then I wouldn't worry about her or try and change her too much.
Number One Rule (there are many of these): Do not assume the worst.
Just because she spent time with an older gentleman who didn't tip her means very little unless you have more information. Perhaps he has thrown $$$ at her in the past or has thrown $$$ at other dancers in the past.
Sometimes dancers will avoid customers who like them too much. Like one dancer told me there are lots of attractive dancers here so there is NO reason to focus on me. She was correct there were lot of attractive dancers, but often a dancer's idea of attractive is very generous to the other women. Once she understood that I just cared about getting dances from her she really let herself go and became a lot of fun! :)
Does she ask other customers for dances? If not, then don't expect her to ask for dances from you.
Some times the tough love approach works wonders i.e. Davids' advice. I prefer the more upfront approach. When it seems like the two of you are on the same level having a good time tell her that she is so much fun to be with that you'd appreciate it if she'd come over for dances in the future. Hopefully, she will eagerly agree to that--doesn't mean she will follow thru but it is a good start.