Am I doing this right?
Bavarian
After 1 year in the hobby and thousands of dollars spent on dances, i have come to the conclusion that I am not doing this right.
I have halted getting dances until I figure something out.
First of all, it's difficult for me to get aroused. My mind is just too screwed up from looking at erotic photography since I was old enough to get a credit card. I am in my 30s now. Your average American stripper just does not compare to the beauty of a Eastern European and Russian women that dominate nude glamour web sites. I have only come across one Ukrainian stripper. She has a cute face and a banging body. Since there are few EE strippers in Texas, my next choice are Latinas. The bulk of my money has been spent on cute Latinas.
The second problem is that I only go for the most attractive strippers since those are the only ones that can arouse me. As you know, these strippers tend to air dance, keep grinding to a minimum, and tend to have a cold attitude. Not very chatty or friendly.
Lastly, I have no clue what to do during a lap dance. I occasionally caress their body, but most of the time I am still and emotionless. Occasionally, a stripper finds this behavior unusual and asks why I act like that.
So after this ramble, what I want to know is how am I supposed to act during a lap dance? What do you guys do when you get a lap dance?
At this point, I just sit by the stage, have a few drinks and tip the dancers. No more dances for me because I feel like I am throwing money away by not doing it right.
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Well, if you have to ask how to enjoy a lapdance, then you shouldn't be doing it in the first place.
Sounds like you're wound tighter than a drum...am I right? White guy, right? Do you hear a squeaking when you walk? You have no rhythm, right? Can't dance?
You need to go back to basics. Why do you go to strip clubs? What do you really want from the experience? Maybe you're just not cut out for it. Maybe you've got some emotional baggage where you're thinking you'll get scolded for being a naughty boy or something and you can't enjoy yourself.
I've never tried weed, but maybe you want to loosen up a bit with some weed before you hit the clubs. But this sounds like it's some deeper issue. Sorry dude. If you can't enjoy some of those Dallas clubs, there could be something serious going on.
It really helps to get another person's opinion. I agree with you, something is wrong with me. I need to see a therapist to figure it out.
I don't have much experience with attracting women. My reason for going to strip clubs is to be more comfortable around women and practice by interacting with them. I figured this would be better than going to a regular bar. I would not stand a chance there.
Really ? Do i seam up tight ?
First i understand your delyma and i agree you shouldn't spend until you figure out what about this makes you happy.. i read this last night and wanted to simmer on this before i responded. First you need to understand what you want.. is sex ? Sex from a perfect 10 only ? Or will 6 and up do ? Your clubbing money should have a mission statement of were its going an example from my life. I only spend money on white chicks that treat me like a kang weither i make it rain that night or not. I also want spend money if i feel like i have no chance at sex with a girl. But this is mostly at clean clubs. Know at extras clubs i love spending my bread on ebony bithces with big asses and thick lips... yes a good ass grind then blow job...my god i will print paper like their is no tomorrow. You need to fully understand why you spend at clubs
Number 2 you need to start enjoying the little things in life like the flowers on the side of the road, a white squarl running up a tree and a hot ass bitch naked laying all over you....take time to really enjoy the slow mutual seduction it can be... find girls that like you for you then toss the stacks the experience enhances... from my experience i cant get a erection with a new girl until ive gotten comfortable and made a mental connections with her and then in vip i need a lot of face and kissing in a sensual and romantic way to achieve a sold hard on with extras..and i work fine....i just fully understand how i tick and what i need.... the same for you you need to discover this for yourself.
Hope i have helped
Fuck you jackie