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Best way to reject dancers I don't want dances from?

Friday, January 17, 2014 7:24 PM
Guys like different types of girls, Some like big tits, some like big asses,some like blondes. I have heard of guys telling a girl asking for a dance no thanks, that he wants a blonde. And that's okay, But I have kind of a different, more potentially troublesome situation. You see, I like blondes, brunettes, redheads, big girls, small girls, you name it. I am not picky, expect for one thing. I only like white girls. I am not prejudiced. I have friends of all races. But when it comes to sexual attraction and sexual contact, I am only attracted to girls of my own race. I was brought up to be that way I guess. Anyway, will girls notice a pattern of me rejecting company/dances from all the blacks and ask me if I am prejudiced? Because that is the LAST thing I would want, to get that kind of rep in a club. I am pretty new at strip clubbing and was looking for some pointers on handling this without tipping off too much and causing myself a problem. Because I know I can't say "no, I only want white dancers".

50 comments

  • bang69
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    10 years ago
    I just tell them I'm not in a hurry
  • shadowcat
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    10 years ago
    Just tell them no thanks. So what if you get a reputation for turning down black dancers? Isn't that what you want in the first place?
  • SpudsMcKenzie
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    10 years ago
    Good point shadowcat. I am just worried that I'll turn off ALL th dancers for being prejudiced I guess. But my money will probably keep them coming anyway if I'm spending it I guess. Maybe I'm worrying about this too much. When it really comes down to it, the dancers probably don't care.
  • jls911
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    10 years ago
    Just be polite about how you do it and they will move on. They, and I mean ALL dancers, get more rejections than positive responses in a night, so they are used to it. And who knows some night you might see a non-white girl that sparks your interest.
  • ilbbaicnl
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    10 years ago
    Just smile and say "no thanks". If any Black stripper notice the pattern and call you on it, say you prefer white strippers, so you can spank their asses as retribution for centuries of European exploitation of peoples of color.
  • Estafador
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    10 years ago
    Why is it when someone says their not prejudice, they have to prove it by having friends of al races. I don't believe you have that for one second. Just tell them u have a small penis and the black girls will go away no if, ands, or butts.
  • GoVikings
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    10 years ago
    Don't take this as criticism or me taking shots at you (because I'm not doing that)but I don't get how a person can only be attracted to ONE race. I understand if a guy PREFERS white girls over Latina girls. Or if another guy PREFERS black girls over white girls. But only being attracted to one race is very strange to me. I don't know, maybe I'm slow, but I just don't get that.
  • lopaw
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    10 years ago
    Guys and gals like what they like when it comes to women. And yes your preference will be noticed especially in a racially mixed club. Is that wrong? No. But it is what it is.
  • Clubber
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    10 years ago
    Spuds, I feel much the same as you. What I don't care for in any very dark woman, no matter the race, is a lack of contrast between the light and dark parts. Likely the same reason I love B&W photography. I just say no. Simple and on point.
  • Estafador
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    10 years ago
    And your a fat sloppy irish drunk. What do you want?
  • crazyjoe
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    10 years ago
    Hoe to reject them? Challenge them to a duel
  • Clubber
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    10 years ago
    Ignorance shows when one types "your" instead of you're. Just sayin'.
  • rickdugan
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    10 years ago
    No thank you. That is all. I too am not overly fond of black girls, a reality which some girls have even commented on when they have observed who I choose to let sit with me, but it has never impacted my action.
  • ilbbaicnl
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    10 years ago
    If you're having trouble with a Black stripper who's wearing out her welcome, reach out like you're going to touch her hair. Just be ready to pull your hand back fast, if you don't want it to come back just a stub.
  • SpudsMcKenzie
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    10 years ago
    Sometimes I tell them I am waiting on a girl to come back. But I sense they sometimes know I'm full of shit. Oh well. I can't please everybody. I guess part of this stems from having a few black girls sit with me that had very unsexy odors associated with them in the past.
  • sharkhunter
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    10 years ago
    Why do you even care what all the dancers in a club think? They certainly will not all care what you think. I am not Warren Buffet nor am I rich so I must limit how many girls I get dances from. If you are attracted only to white girls, that is just your biology. I mainly am only attracted to white girls but I do like a few attractive Asian girls and there have been a few rare black girls that looked somewhat attractive. I think it is the facial features and skin tone. The farther away a girl is from what I find pretty, the less interested in her I am. For some reason, blonds usually look a lot better to me. I don't understand that unless it is related to all my sisters being brunettes. I say that because the same girl can dye her hair and suddenly look a lot better. I believe our biology got programmed by our bodies somehow. It's how our bodies function and I don't know how to change it. I'm not trying either. If a black girl whom I do not find attractive dies her hair, that will not suddenly change her attractiveness to me. A number of brunettes can appear hot to me as well. I suppose if you took a white girl with a super hot body, all the body features I find attractive, then get her super dark, that will make her less attractive after a certain point. Pale white doesn't look that good. A little bit of a tan looks a whole lot better. An extremely dark tan is almost as bad as pale white. Past those points and I get turned off. Sometimes I have felt a bit envious of all those guys who seem attracted to almost anyone. Being turned on by feet I never understood. I was wondering if someone got them off via the feet and then turned into some kind of turn on. I do believe our bodies are programmed to just to be more attracted to certain features in females. Some more than others.
  • SpudsMcKenzie
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    10 years ago
    Well, sharkhunter, I feel like I have to care a little bit what they think. If I get too bad a rep in a club it might be hard to score private dances and have fun. If word gets around that I'm an asshole, that might ruin the club for me.
  • SuperDude
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    10 years ago
    You're a racial bigot and you have every right to be. Nothing to be ashamed of. It's part of American life and history. Why should you care if dancers in a club figure it out. They want your money and don't care about your politics, racist views, marital status or religion. No White dancer is going to refuse to dance for you because they detect a pattern in your dancer selections. No Black dancer is going to get you thrown out of a club, unless you get openly loud and vulgar, i.e., taunting, racial slurs or name calling. I hope you are not in a position of authority over hiring and promotions.
  • SpudsMcKenzie
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    10 years ago
    Nope, not a bigot at all. I have never had anyone really think of me that way, at least to my knowledge. I have always gotten along with everyone of other races fine. I do not get loud or vulgar ever, and I do not hire or promote people as of yet. But when I do, you can rest assured that race will not be any part of my decisions. I am not like that. I just don't find other races sexually attractive. But I have no problems with them otherwise whatsoever.
  • SpudsMcKenzie
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    10 years ago
    I hate the fact that pretty girls with big tits seem to be selected for stuff over me by promoters...simply because they'd rather have her around than me. I made it a point to never do that myself, to always be fair. But that's another story entirely.
  • sharkhunter
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    10 years ago
    Well I noticed a lot of black dancers already know that a number of customers are not interested in getting dances from them. They often avoid people unless they see you tipping a black dancer up on stage and then they might start coming over asking for dances. If you tip multiple black dancers, they might swarm you. Of course if you tip everyone except the super fat or fuglies, you might get tons of girls asking. I'm usually not real picky about tipping a dollar. I never feel a need to get dances from someone I'm not attracted to. All my favorites are white, Asian, or Latino. I did at one time have a darker colored favorite but I never thought about asking what race she was when I was with her. I wondered about it later. I do get curious. I don't discriminate by race. I do by whether they appear pretty or ugly or just average in a strip club. I think a number of black guys are lucky. They appear to be attracted to every female. I do not think that is true for everyone though.
  • sharkhunter
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    10 years ago
    I take that back about some people being attracted to everyone. I see some really fat ass dancers never getting tipped by anyone. I'm not even sure how they are making money. I try to look away rather than get grossed out whenever one girl goes up on stage. I often leave the area if I know the girl is going on stage. That avoids me getting grossed out by her big gross ass. She needs to keep that covered IMO.
  • Alucard
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    10 years ago
    I agree with you GoVikings.
  • casualguy
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    10 years ago
    Just say no. Usually that works. If not, just say maybe later, that line works 99 percent of the time in getting dancers to leave.
  • sharkhunter
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    10 years ago
    I agree with casualguy. Maybe later is a great way to Get rid of dancers. If they are extremely persistent you can say you don't want to pay anything and if they call your bluff and say they will dance for free, just suggest well in that case, why don't we leave and you could give me a free bj? I would not suggest that if you really don't care for her and she offered the free dances. She might want to hook up. So far I only had one dancer to be so persistent that she offered free dances, then escalated it to an offer to take me to her house for some fun. I think she was bluffing on taking me to her house but wasn't sure.
  • sharkhunter
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    10 years ago
    I believe saying you can know the race of every dancer you see is a bit racist by itself. Many of the genes from the different races were mixed and you can't tell who has had a black ancestor if they look completely white or if someone had a white ancestor if they look black. Racist comments pop up when you least expect them. I remember meeting up for the first time with one dancer and she must have had a really small boyfriend because she looked at me and said I must be half black. I did not think that was funny.
  • Estafador
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    10 years ago
    Its ignorance because I don't care for perfect grammar on a pervert forum? What kind of dumb response is that? I didn't know us sex addicts were reqired to have perfect grammar on a site that means little. If you can read and understand, then deal with it.
  • Estafador
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    10 years ago
    I still have yet to see an all American American work in the club.the whites I usually see are eastern European.
  • skibum609
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    10 years ago
    A polite "no thank you" is all they get from me. I am the customer and what I want is all that matters. I owe no explanation. A hot Brazilian dancer came over and asked if I want dances. I said: "no than you". She responded: "I notice you always turn down Brazilian girls are you a racist". I said: " bartender another Bud and turned towards the tv". End of conversation.
  • SlickSpic
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    10 years ago
    I'm the opposite in that I get very few dances from White-American gals. From my experience, they have less rythym and they're grinds are less sensual. That's why I had a glowing review for Bobbi-That blondie could grind! Personally, I don't feel the need to shell out an extra $100 for a dancer/escort simply because they're blonde. It's sad that Black dancers/escorts usually can't charge the same fees as blondes. Same goes for Asian gals. They always charge less. It's a mix of economics(supply & demand) and inherent bigotry that's part of society.
  • sofaking87
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    10 years ago
    I don't get dances from black ladies either, them and chicks with abs, muscles, or bad boobjobs. You'd be surprised how many busty ripped black babes I've had to dodge! I usually say no, or tell them that I'll come find them later.
  • boogieknight369
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    10 years ago
    I've looked a black chick in the eye and told her to her face "sorry sweetheart, I'm just not into black chicks. " we like what we like, it doesn't make you prejudiced. I Don't like girls with short hair or freckles all over their bodies either. It's your playground, they're just the rides. Say whatever the fuck you want and get the reputation at the club you want so the bitches you don't want to talk to will never bother you again.
  • sharkhunter
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    10 years ago
    Apparently someone thinks everyone should be paid the same regardless of the law of supply and demand. In one way I agree. I think CEO's should not be paid millions of dollars to run corporations. I think all that money should be spread equally among all employees. I think all the profits should be spread equally among employees. However I might not work for the company if I spent several years of my life getting a college degree and learned additional information at great expense to add additional value to a company if I'm not going to get compensated for it.
  • sharkhunter
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    10 years ago
    At one club, I rarely ever got dances from any of the girls. I was an equal opportunity no thanks person. All the regular dancers knew it. One day a very hot girl started. She did not know I usually said no to everyone. I agreed to get a dance. Suddenly after that, girl after girl came over to me and said if you got a dance from her, you need to get dances from everyone.
  • sharkhunter
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    10 years ago
    I said no thanks to the other girls. They stopped asking again.
  • Papi_Chulo
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    10 years ago
    It’s business and it’s your money – one reason PLs go to SCs is to get the girl(s) he/lopaw wants; not the girl he has to settle for.
  • GoVikings
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    10 years ago
    I still can't get over this. How is it that you don't find ANY black, latina, asian or indian women on the ENTIRE god damn planet sexually attractive? That's mind boggling. SpudsMckenzie, what did you mean when you said..."you were raised that way"?
  • crazyjoe
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    10 years ago
    I agree with slick about the rhythm
  • magicrat
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    10 years ago
    sharkhunter agreed with casualguy. Best comment of the year!
  • motorhead
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    10 years ago
    I draw the line with dancers with green teeth.
  • Alucard
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    10 years ago
    Politely say No. Be firmer as needed.
  • shadowcat
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    10 years ago
    I noticed that too magicrat. LOL.
  • luvthepus
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    10 years ago
    I have always pretty much liked white blonde strippers one night last summer I was in a club that I very seldom go to and got a dance from a white girl then decided to try a thick black sister out she asked me if i liked my dick sucked well of course I do so she met me in the parking lot for a quick BJ. I went in a month later and have gotten to know a beautiful Latino dancer who was my first time I ever spent time with a Latino girl but she is awesome.Later found out the other girl got fired for blowing a guy in parking lot guess she was not supposed to do that kind of thing. Well as I have gotten to know all the dancers lately they all know who I am there to see and just stop and say hi when I come in they will stop to give me a hug if my favorite is not sitting with me otherwise it is just a quick hi how are you . One night last week my favorite's son was sick and she didn't show up to work so I spent the whole evening drinking Hennessy with the sisters and had a great time. Although I didn't go to the backroom I am sure I would have been treated very well by whomever I choose. Most nights I am the only white guy in club after midnight but it does not bother me. Everybody in the club treats me well.
  • MrDeuce
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    10 years ago
    Some reactions to the OP's point: . . . when it comes to sexual attraction and sexual contact, I am only attracted to girls of my own race . . . are really over the top. For example, SuperDude writes: . . . You're a racial bigot and you have every right to be. . . . I hope you are not in a position of authority over hiring and promotions. Seriously, SuperDude? What do one's sexual preferences have to do with bigotry? It's quite possible to be very racially enlightened and only be attracted to girls of one race. At the other end of the prejudice spectrum, no one had greater contempt for blacks than slave masters -- but think of how often Massa had sex with his slaves! There is little if any correlation between the part of the brain that determines our sexual preferences and the part that determines who we prefer to work for, work with, or hire/promote. As another example, Estafador writes: . . . Why is it when someone says their [sic] not prejudice, they have to prove it by having friends of al races. I don't believe you have that for one second. . . Estafador, you have obtained remarkable insight into the OP's racial attitudes from this one post. If someone says he's not prejudiced and has friends of all races, shouldn't we give him the benefit of the doubt? And one more example: GoVikings seems to be simply astounded that someone could be attracted only to white dancers: . . . I don't get how a person can only be attracted to ONE race . . . I still can't get over this. . . How is it that you don't find ANY black, latina, asian or indian women on the ENTIRE god damn planet sexually attractive? That's mind boggling. . . I find the OP's exclusive attraction to white girls a little strange myself, since I (an older very white guy) get disproportionately many lap dances from black, Asian, and Latina dancers, but this doesn't make me consider him a bigot. The terms "racist" and "bigot" are bandied about very freely these days even though Americans in general are less bigoted today than they have ever been. Oh, and one final quote and my response: Estafador: Its ignorance because I don't care for perfect grammar on a pervert forum? Me: The your/you're, their/they're/there, and its/it's distinctions should be mastered by the end of grade school. Your indignant reply to Clubber's correction is more ignorant than the misspellings themselves.
  • Estafador
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    10 years ago
    @Mr. Duece To have friends of all races requires a person to have a friends from near every hospitable country in the world....and beyond (as in tribes with no direct affiliation within a country). To have that means you means not just one guy from Europe because that constitutes at least nearly 50 countries within that continent. Then there's the span of different races in Asia as well....usually when one says "of all races" that generally means a white person, a black person, a Spanish person, an "Indian" and an "Asian". You see how stereotypical that is. How's that for fucking grammar. This isn't a fucking English class man, it's an unfiltered forum that's full of NSFW content and yet you want me to hit the spell checker before every post. Unless you explain why my previous post was ignorant (indignant is grammatically incorrect since there is no way to tell whether I have any anger or feel any mistreatment has been directed towards me) and why it matters on a forum where you don't get paid, and the best conversations had are about paying for fucking sex, you only show that your...oh I'm sorry, you'RE just a picky child who obviously can't handle the views of others.
  • Clubber
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    10 years ago
    No, I just tend to detest ignorance and the dumbing down of society.
  • rl27
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    10 years ago
    What do you care what dancers think, choose dancers who you are attracted to. There has been many times I have gone to a club and not one black dancer attracted me, and I rejected every one. In other clubs it's been all the Latina's, while in another it's was all the blondes, or all the Asians. It had nothing to do with of their race, but how hot they looked and what vibes they gave on their stage dance. In many cases the club seemed to have a certain stereotype for certain ethnic groups, or even hair colors. Whether it's chunky gals with bad hygiene, heavy with large breasts and fat asses which seems to be the stereotype for a lot of Black and Latina dancer. Far too much plastic surgery with horribly shaped boobs and ungodly fake looking lips, i.e. a lot of the blondes at Kahoots and Columbus Gold about five years ago, or anorexic thin and underage looking, i.e. all of the Asian dancers at a lot of clubs out west. A lot of times the dancers get it wrong. Case in point, two of my favorite dancers in the past were Bryce and Athena, and both were surprised when I asked them for a dance. They both mentioned being told by other dancers I never get dances from black dancers. I told them not to listen to the other dancers, because the reason I never got any dances from the black dancers in the club before was because the ones there weren't hot.
  • Clubber
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    10 years ago
    rl27, Excellent point, "...but how hot they looked and what vibes they gave...". I would have no problem having any hot, personable woman dance for me no matter her race or ethnicity. Hot and vibe are VERY subjective. As I mentioned above, "...very dark woman, no matter the race...", I don't care for. There are very dark Latin women, even some white women can be very dark. Has nothing to do with race, yet some like to label my choice as racist. Go figure!
  • zipman68
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    10 years ago
    Spuds my man, look the dancer in the eye and say "would you let me put an XXXtra KRIS-pay drumstick up your ass for $5?" If she says no you'll be rid of her, if she says yes you'll have the fun of a drumstick up the pooper moment in your life. Win win! Seriously though, the thing I hate is when you politely tell a dancer to move on and she pushes the issue and you basically have to say "no, I'm not going to get a dance from you." Take a hint...
  • ilbbaicnl
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    10 years ago
    I would think rotisserie would be the gateway KFC anal drumstick. Then original recipe. Only then extra crispy. But all of those would just be stepping stones to ordering a half corncob a la carte.
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