After effects of dating a Stripper

"Relationship" doesn't have to mean love. If you accept a "relationship" with a stripper for what most of them are, i.e. primarily a business transaction, you should be fine.

You've at least learned a valuable lesson if you stop and think about it, and are intellectually honest enough with yourself to *actually* learn from it.

I'm having a relationship with my toilet. I am feeling pain and regret now.

I find it interesting when some guys differentiate between strippers and civies. Women are women and we, as men, are not meant to understand them. It's the way and all you can do is flow with it.

Well said Slick.

@ukadventure- I'm dated my fair share of strippers, and I pretty much agree with everything you say. I will just add for emphasis that god damn the sex is good!

Why? Men have asked that for ages. Why did Samson reveal the secret of his strength to Delilah?

I've had fun in the past with strippers but this was my first relationship. A was a bit naive to be honest, trusted her words, got to serious very quickly and not realizing the true identity of that person until it was too late. I will learn from this experience. I do miss the sex though :)

See, the beauty of this whole type of "relationship" is that, if you truly learn from this, there's no *need* to miss the sex. :)

It doesn't always do much good to question how it all started. I think there is some desire to have sex. Sometimes that part is successful and then afterwards you think, why did I do that?

I was hugging a girl last night and afterwards I was thinking why was she being so friendly with me? Does she remember me from somewhere? She looked really nice in her outfit so I didn't care at the moment. Maybe that's how it all starts. You're not thinking about anything starting.

Society continues to hang on to the double standard that, while it's normal for guys to sow wild oats before settling down, chicks who like uncommitted, recreational sex are incapable of settling down. Strippers engage in sexual foreplay, primarily for money. But regardless, they all get lumped into the "promiscuous, not suitable to commit to" category. Given this, it's to be expected that women who have trouble with relationships in any case are more likely to go into stripping and stay in it. So it's true that you are more likely to have problems dating a stripper. But it's not 100%, and comes back to the duh truth, why not just judge people as individuals, instead of idiotically lumping them into categories?

People's personal history regardless what profession they are involved in relates to the expectations of future relationships. If a women have been treated very badly in the past then would have a negative outlook particularly strippers. Due to the nature of their job it must effect them on a personal level. From what I've been told strippers do not have high regard for men so this would cause a major problem in settling down with one man. If a women does not have respect for a man how can it work?

Good point, strippers see a lot of guys sneaking around on their wives, tends to make them cynical about relationships.

This ain't rocket science. Some already borderline women get into stripping and go on to witness what is arguably the worst side of men (and some women) in the clubs and that's what stays with them. I lost count of all of the bitching that I've had to listen to from dancers venting about how their attitude towards men had changed once they began dancing. It's the nature of the beast.

Based on the dancers I've been acquainted with personally, I think it's bad rap to stereotype dancers as being incapable of being faithful. Narcissism is a bigger problem, because people who get a lot of attention for their looks are liable to fall into it. Hostility is a bigger problem too. Dancers need some kind of coping mechanism for the demeaning attitude they get from many customers (and club owners). Unfortunately (counter-)hostility seems to be the most common coping mechanism.

I'm just in it for the sex and a good looking woman strolling down the street with me. But these days, any woman outside the club (that's within you're preference) is just as good, most times even better. I don't expect no long term relationship from a stripper.

It never ceases to amaze me that people think paid sex with strippers is good, or great, or fantastic. Compared to real life sex I find it at best average and something I do when I drink enough to make bad decisions, as with gambling etc. Strippers are sex workers who usually come from less than desirable backgrounds and who see men at their worst day in and day out. They get hardened to the point where if you're nice, they take you for a chump. This should be an addition to a great sex life, nota substitute.

I always fall in love with a CF. If I didn't they wouldn't be a CF. But I've never met one yet that can handle anything resembling a real relationship which is why I keep reminding myself to not fall in love. I find lots of drugs and alcohol helps me a lot in that pursuit.

All relationships have their ups and downs, you are a lucky fellow, not only did you get to bang a hot chick, but you got to do it alot!

You’re not the 1st guy to be burned by a stripper & won’t be the last. Life is full of lessons. Hopefully you are now a wiser man.

A lot of people have been badly burned/damaged by non-stripper relationships which include kids & alimony which prolongs the issue/misery – at least you were able to make a clean break.

You may have lost some self-esteem in the process of getting burned; but others have probably lost marriages; life savings; or businesses, from dealing w/ these she-devils.

Better to:

1) keep it simple by making it just biz/P4P

2) if u ever do get involved w/ one again; don’t give them anything more than your time and paying for a few dates – if you want them to act as a “regular” girl; treat them as a regular girl - & if that isn’t good enough 4 them; then they r not good enough 4 u; no?

well, i just got burned by a stripper. Oh, boy, was in in LUV, and things were great when we were ITC and I was paying her for dances and VIP, but each time I tried to get her to connect with me OTC, she'd say one thing and do another. So I'd come back to her in the club, drop several hundred more, chat with her, fix the relationship, get ready to meet OTC... silence. Well, a stripper is a stripper, and why should I expect them to keep their word?

But the one thing that baffles me: if my money is good enough ITC, why isn't it good enough OTC? probably because i'm her least favorite pick? there's only so much time OTC and, like it or not, she has bigger whales than me? or, OTC, she can afford to be picky and there's something about me that she doesn't like, regardless of how much she says she likes me ITC.

Well, the good news is that i"ve learned my lesson after investing thousands, not tens or hundreds of thousands, like other stores i have read. Time to cut my losses and move on, I guess. Yes, I am brokenhearted, but hearts mend. C'est la vie.