Who would you give it all up for?
AbbieNormal
Maryland
Kind of an offshoot of the celebrity strippers/evolution of porn threads, and I hate to say it, but this applies mostly to married guys. OK, to happily married guys. We young and single guys can play, but it's more theoretical. Who whould be "worth it" to the point that even if you knew that it'd end your marriage, you'd still go ahead. I'm guessing this'd be a celebrity rather than a stripper, but feel free to post whoever it is. If you don't want to go that far, pretend you had one lifelong free pass from your SO. One time you were allowed to stray. If we assume the perfect world where the opportunity presented itself, who would you use it on.
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I suppose it comes down to having erotic interests that cannot be satisfied by a monogamous relationship, but do not rise, or descend to the level of out-and-out adultery (generally). I like interacting with a variety of naked women, and this is, by definition, impossible in the context of monogamy. Some marriage counselors suggest role-playing to help satisfy this need/desire within the context of monogamy ("Tonight I'm a sex-starved Arabian princess, and you're Lawrence of Arabia!!"). This is, in word, goofy.
I also enjoy the naked bodies of _young_women (not to the exclusion of Mrs. Chitown's naked body, which is still pretty good in early middle age). Obviously, it is impossible to continue to experience young naked women within the context of a monogamous relationship that lasts more than five or ten years (depending on how old she is when you start out). For this reason, a few of my colleagues do "trade in/up" to a newer model every 5-10-15 years.)
Choose wisely, Grasshopper.
AN, it's gracious of you to let go of your expectations for this thread. I never planned a hijack, honest. It "just happened".
2. a wife who has positively no interest in the financial affairs of the household. 3. a wife who keeps me on a fairly long leash. I guess the only credit I get in the whole thing is that I've never been tempted to think how things might be if I chucked the whole thing overboard and went for a stripper for a time period of longer than a couple of hours. I know it can be done...by this time, all the regulars have heard about the fellow lawyer from my town who, at the age of 48, met and married a 23 year old stripper, which involved divorcing his (second, but long term second) wife, and royally pissing off his high school age daughter. He was also forced out of the firm he had been with for almost 25 years. But he never missed a beat, and is doing great, eight years later.
I don't think I have the panache to pull that off, and I have not yet met a stripper who has tempted me in that direction.
In addition, I've screwed up on my "freedom thing" a couple of times, but circumstances have always conspired to my advantage. As my grandfather, who was one of each, used to say, "God looks out for drunks and the Irish."
Chandler - if you're a stripper fan, which is somewhat evident from your participation here, i wouldn't kid yourself into believing that you're gonna give up all this fun for marriage. At least not forever. If so, you'd be the first.
Sure, you'll behave at first, maybe even for several years, but eventually you'll give in to what you love to do. What you loved to do before you met this future chick.
Marriage gives you responsibilities to another, but it doesn't change who you are. And it definitely can't take away what you hunger for. If you love football, marriage won't change that. If you love strippers, marriage won't change that either.
You can either find a way to satisfy your needs within a marriage, or without. But your needs always must be satisfied.
I remember a thread a long time ago on Stripperweb where all these twenty-something singles, both girls and guys, were talking about strip clubs and married men, and what they would and wouldn't do when they were married. It was hilarious.
As you and I have discussed, my patronage of strip clubs is a factor in the happiness of my marriage. I made this point on another thread about six months ago, and some people thought I was joking. But it is true that the prospect of a stress-free hour or six in a sc, with naked goodlooking young girls and adult beverages, helps me get through some of the rougher patches of connubial bliss. (You could probably hold the adult beverages and get the same result). I am not a big sports fan, and my past swings at various hobbies have been developed and then faded into my past (although occasionally I will pull out the stamp album, or revisit the geneological archives). Like too many lawyers and small businessmen,, I really don't have a lot of interests outside of my practice. So occasional (between monthly and every-six-weeks) sc visits provide a welcome diversion and reward. They also have some role--not the entire role, but some role--in keeping my out of divorce court. (Not to attack in any way people who have been divorced. I know that sometimes it's the only way to stanch pretty extensive wounds of all kinds. But people like myself, who have never been through it, tend to see it as something to be avoided, if only because of the major factor that inertia is in most peoples' lives).
I've said it before, I'll say it again: Strip clubs: they don't cost--they pay!
It's better than me f**cking my secretary.