references and screening

yeah I always wondered about this also

Been a long time since I saw an escort that did not use www.date-check.com . I hear that in some parts of the US preferred411.com is the main client verification site. Going through these sites, you are typically going to pay $250 an hour or higher.

You give them your name and employer. They call to verify your employement and make sure you're not a cop. You give them two escort references within their network. They verify you're not a rip-off or assailant.

So if you don't have employment you're fucked?

Shit.

No. I have not seen any backpage girls, but I hear they are desperate and will take whatever. Also, they're dishonest and what you see may not be what you get. So, you get what you pay for.

Try http://www.whatsyourprice.com. They keep talking about it on the pink site. Or go to the pink site and hook up with an escort there.

All those sites sound like a great way to get on subpoena-able list.

Eliot Spitzer's says, Hi!

I used whatsyourprice.com and got one actual date out of it. Never used it like an escort site.

"You give them two escort references within their network"

What's a new guy to do?

Yet another reason to prefer strippers.

WTF!!....employment references?....screening?....to fuck an escort?

Are you guys freakin' serious? I haven't used an escort for a little while but I used them frequently in the past and never once jumped through these hoops with any Canadian escort.

Probably the difference in Canadian prostitution law has something to do with this.

I have seen two escorts and their websites claim they need a reference but they never asked. I would just go ahead and contact her and chances are that she doesn't care about references she just wants you over there ASAP with cash

Yep, Art.Quite a few escorts do this for their personal safety. I don't blame them one bit. It is a risky business.

Yes and then when the escort gets busted she has your real and personal information. The police give you a visit and threaten to expose you in public unless you cooperate with them. Or maybe they already have enough evidence so the release everyone's personal info to the media anyway. Sounds like a great and safe system for the customers. No blackmail opportunities there for the ladies either. fuck that.

If all she has is my name and where I work I'm not all that concerned about blackmail. Shit I give out that information every time I hand someone a business card.

Additionally references can also tell you a lot about quality though in many cases just because they claim they want them doesn't mean they'll ever actually ask.

"If all she has is my name and where I work I'm not all that concerned about blackmail. Shit I give out that information every time I hand someone a business card."

Well post your name and place of work! (You had to know that was coming?!?!)

Still got to ask. How do you get the two escort references if you have never used one before?

Catch 22.

First, forget backpage. Too risky.

Second, look for an escort review board local to your neighborhood. Mr. Google can help. If you can't find one, use a national review board, such as TheEroticReview.com

Third, look for escorts that have multiple reviews over a period of a few years. This is the most trustworthy escort; the fact that she's still around with good reviews means that she's not a rip-off artist and not LE.

Fourth, call and explain your lack of references. She'll probably offer an alternative; or take you the way you are. If she won't see you, ask her for a recommendation of a girl who might have lower screening standards. During the call, do not ask about specific services or fees; that's a red flag for escorts.

Fifth, write a review. This isn't really for your fellow pooners; it's for future girls you want to connect with. Make it detailed enough that anyone reading it will know that the event really happened. Be as positive as you can be.

Sixth, when you're trying to set up a meeting with another girl, use that previous review as evidence that you're for real.

After skimming reviews, you'll find plenty of sad stories: no shows, doesn't match photo; can't provide full service because has run out of condoms; answers cell phone during the act; has a boyfriend in the other room. That's a good argument for using reviews. But of course, I'm just guessing at how this all works.

Get Mitt's Binders. LOL

Tried an escort site last fall and had trouble getting escorts to see me without references. (I refuse to give our real life info.) Finally found a young provider who agreed to screen me through a "meet and greet" get together at my hotel bar. We talked a bit and I must have passed since we went upstairs for a memorable romp.
I agree with those who won't give employment info. Won't

If you give them employment info you MIGHT end up like Revo did!

About 20 years ago I was in Savannah, GA and called an escort service from the Yellow Pages. The service took my hotel info and name and then the escort called me in 15 minutes. We reviewed price, my name & address. When she got to my room, she wanted to see my license and my luggage. She told me that she had been selected by the Savannah Police Dept. as the best blowjob in Savannah. How can you beat that for a reference?

It depends on the escort.

Some want a business receptionist phone number and your name so that they can call the business, hear the name, and then ask for you by name, rather than number. That doesn't seem very smart to me, but apparently some guys get away with it.

Some want numbers from other provider's and enough information from you, i.e. description, name, whatever, not just to find out if you're a cop, but also whether or not you're a creep, or violent, or prone to leaving without paying.

Still others want one of the verification sites. Some sites have a mutual review system. Mongers can review providers and providers can review mongers.

It *is* difficult to get one's foot in the door in an environment where *everybody* seems to want references.

Dancers are EASIER. LOL

jestie214: "Shit I give out that information every time I hand someone a business card."

Wow, jestie is pretty bold to hand out his "janitor" business card. That must really impress people.

With date-check.com the escort herself does not have your employment info.