I encountered a dancer tonight, probably didn't help that it was early or around 10 PM and a group of guys left leaving only 4 other guys available in the club at that moment. There were alot more dancers than guys in the club at that moment. Anyway this one dancer sat beside me and kept insisting I get a two for one dance from her. I didn't want to. After I don't know how long, 10 to 20 minutes of no thanks, not right now, maybe later, I had to keep going and going of why I didn't want to get dances from her. Then eventually she started saying things that started to tick me off. I'm not sure if she even knew at first that was what she was doing.
Why do some dancers just want to argue with a customer? I finally ended the situation by saying I was going to tip a dancer (and not coming back if she was still there). She left my table after that. Maybe she was new. Kind of hard to get into a conversation when all she wanted to do was argue. Oh get this piece of news, the dancer told me "the dancers make their money by getting dances" Yeah, big news there. I just don't see how that many dancers make much money in that club. Maybe I'm too nice and should have bluntly told her something like "look bitch, I don't want your fucking dances." Any of you run into this situation?
The rest of my night went pretty good. However I still feel some of the residual anger that starting growing within me. Oh, as I was waiting for it to stop pouring down rain outside standing near the door, she spotted me and asked me for a dance again.
I should probably try to forget this experience. Instead think about going to tip a dancer at another club with very nice tits with another dancer who seemed pretty frisky with me. Tipping went like normal. Then I got sandwiched between the two dancers. The DJ announced "Hey look a sandwich." and I was the meat in the middle. That was fun. I was wondering how that looked from the side.
Another dancer in the club I got sandwiched came up to me, sat on my lap to start with and started acting frisky. Then she started to tell me how good I smelled. I was trying to figure that one out, I didn't put anything on. Maybe some other dancers rubbed off on me, maybe she liked my natural scent or something. I got two dances from her shortly afterwards.
Anyway, I feel better getting this rant out of my head. Anybody else ever have a problem getting rid of a dancer? I hate it when a dancer wants to argue excessively and won't leave me alone.
Well, it seems like quite a while since we've seen this perennial question. Suddenly, we get two versions. I haven't had a problem with this since my newbie days of clubbing. I really think the key to it is being able to say a simple no thanks, politely but very firmly. Not "I'm not ready", not "maybe later", no excuses, nothing that leaves any hope that you're open to persuasion or even discussing the matter.
And if she tries to take a seat next to you, tell her sorry it's taken, that you're saving the seat for another girl. But your tone is as important as your choice of words. You need to sound confident that you know exactly what you want and it happens to be somebody else. All courteously matter of fact, neither belittling nor apologetic.
Although I'm being analytical about explaining this, I've never given it much thought. My reaction in these situations comes instinctively. I think the guys who have a problem with turning down strippers are the type who feel flattered that they're asked for a dance, even by a girl they don't want. Really, it's not romance, just commerce. Above all, there's no need to get angry about any of this. In fact, by getting emotional, you're giving in to her, agreeing to her terms. To the type of stripper who plays this angle, getting an angry reaction is more encouraging than a matter of fact no. Why encourage her?