Maybe it's just me... but it annoys me when dancers call me babe, hun, etc. To me it seems condesending. I make sure I introduce myself, and know her name (real or not). At least make an effort to remember my name, geesh! (or maybe it's just habit - or their way of remaining detached?)
I know the majority of the posters here will say, "what does it matter what she calls you?" I've had some intense dances where things are gettin' heated up and progressing in the right direction, only to have the mood sapped by her calling me "babe" or similar.
I actually sort of feel the same way. If I introduce myself to a dancer, I would prefer that she remembers my name or at least not using some generic term like 'hun' or 'babe'.
Anonymity is one of the hallmarks of strip clubbing. I usually don't remember a dancer's "name" past the initial introductions. Probably wouldn't be a bad idea to use a pseudonym anyway, playing a part just like the dancers do.
More often than not, I forget her name, even though she just told me 5 minutes ago when I tipped her on stage. So I often resort to "Sweetie." Using a generic stand-in is not put-down, but simply a recognition that we can't remember all the names we come across in casual settings, and they have remember more than we do.
The only time I'd say it might be a problem is if you've seen the girl a number of times, struck up a rapport, and seem to have more of a connection than just a stripper and a PL hooking up for a lapdance. And to be truthful, I've actually had the reverse problem on occasion; she remembers my name and I've forgotten hers. That's an SC foul if there ever was one...
A stripper can turn you on with her dancing but can enhance the experience with her choice of words, "you can touch me some more if you like (insert your name here)"...or turn me off with, "that will be $360 dollars, sweetie (sucker)" when I only counted 10 of $20 dollar dances. I actually had another dancer that remembered me from a previous visit argue on my behalf, "there is no way you could have done that many dances during the amount of time you were with him" We settled for $220.If a dancer makes the extra effort to remember my name (and remembers it on a subsequent visit), it makes the experience more personable and gives her an edge when it comes to repeat business.
Personally I kinda dig it when an attractive 20 something uses a term of endearment like sweetie or honey etc... One of the things I'm looking for in the situation is intimacy and a pretty girl sans clothes calling me sweetie fits the bill nicely IMHO.
I don't remember names very well and I have seen dancers in different places and they ask if I remember them and I usually don't. That dosen't mean that I don't remember them but I just don't remember their name. The question is, with all the people they see, is it that unusual that they don't remember someone that they have only seen once or twice? I don't think that it's a big deal one way or the other.
I am fat. Most dancers approach me with the "Big Boy" or "Big Guy" line. It gives me the opportunity to respond: "Wait until you see what I am packing." Even if I am full of shit it is a good ice-breaker. It allows the dancer to respond with superb SS: "Wow! You weren't kidding." A "meaningful" encounter usually follows.
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last commentSeriously, I don't find it particularly annoying, though I can see where some might consider it so. It's just another no big deal for me.
"Babe" is a bit annoying, but I'll get over it.
Seek out the dancer who purrs in your ear, "Hi, Money Man".
The only time I'd say it might be a problem is if you've seen the girl a number of times, struck up a rapport, and seem to have more of a connection than just a stripper and a PL hooking up for a lapdance. And to be truthful, I've actually had the reverse problem on occasion; she remembers my name and I've forgotten hers. That's an SC foul if there ever was one...
Hey Baby, Hey Baby, Hey
Girls Say, Girls Say,
Hey Baby, Hey Baby, Hey"