"Firing" An ATF

many might disagree but i don't think you're stupid.

if you remember awhile back i posted a thread about my ex-dancer booty call. she's called me twice since i posted and i blew her off both times. the last time she called i told her that i'd give her a call when i was ready and so far although i have thought of calling her i haven't.
if you're tired of and don't feel it anymore with your toronto squeeze why go through the motions? why do something that obviously is costing you alot if you're not satisfied with the result?

farmer, I must admit that you have me a little confused. With all of your money, why again are you traveling to Toronto for good pussy that you should be able to source locally?

Even in stodgy ol' western Canada, I would bet a dollar against a dime that you can build good connections in your local strip joints. In some places it just takes building a little familiarity before options open up. In some clubs girls are a little more cautious and want to see a face a few times before making the offer (or accepting the offer). Now this is not he same as the girl who says "I need to get to know you better", who is likely taking you for a ride, but rather a situation where a girl that has never seemed receptive to OTC becomes so, or one that you did not bother to approach makes the offer.

I am a semi-regular at several clubs and an outright regular at one, and at virtually all of these clubs OTC action may be had, though a few were nuts that had to be cracked.

Last year, after all my tribulations with OTC Gal, Isent her a text "Final payment made. We are done. Delete my number."

With ATF 2, I simply told her "NO" everytime she saw or called me and asked for something.

Stupid? No. If the ATF is getting boring, and the platonic (to date) relationship is more interesting, then it's perfectly reasonable. As long as you're getting what *you* want, it's all good.

I can't imagine not having both, though. Jerking off gets boring after a while. Actual sex has yet to get boring for me.

"The sex is spectacular but there is NOTHING else."

To quote from a review by, er, farmerart -

Girl on my right "You cheap asshole! What do you want for $150 - my soul?"

(Still one of my favorite lines from a reviw, BTW)

Is TUSCL turning into Dear Abbey? Enjoy them both.

I hate to burn bridges with them. If you dont answer her text or phone call she will get idea. I don't worry about dating them, I just screw them. My ATF would be a wonderful gal to date, but she is married so as soon as sex is over and she's dressed she is out door. Her FB page gives me a good window into her anyhow. Another one I did I would sometimes take her to dinner afterwards. She would flirt with waiters, etc. - very disrespectful. Or she would use the dinner to try to set up a rip off deal like pressuring me to buy her a car.

Depends on what you're looking for in the relationship. If she is supplying it, keep going. If NOT, move on. I'd try to part on a "Friendly" basis.

One sounds like a wife the other sounds like a fuck buddy