About Last Night's Booty Call...
I was talking to a female acquaintance. She was complaining that she entered into a non emotional booty call relationship with a guy, but several months down the line-wanted an emotional relationship with him.
I complained that several times in the past decade I'd tried those booty call relationships, but suddenly the female wanted more.
Not counting strippers, escorts, or paid professionals, has anyone had the same experience ?
I complained that several times in the past decade I'd tried those booty call relationships, but suddenly the female wanted more.
Not counting strippers, escorts, or paid professionals, has anyone had the same experience ?
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On a related note, some girls with whom I've had a short-term sexual/girlfriend connection have morphed into non-sexual friends, usually after a cooling off period. I find these friendships to be gratifying because the factors that worked for our platonic connection are still there, and if anything, the previous sexual connection removed much of the anticipatory sexual tension. We'd already done it, decided it wasn't for us, and could move ahead with an unimpeded friendship.
My problem has been if I meet a new girlfriend who becomes serious, then my existing female "friends" (the ones with whom I've had a sexual history with at some level) seldom are welcomed. They in fact, are shunned, which causes plenty of angst for all of us. And why would the new girlfriend even know? Because generally the minute she meets a female friend, she asks about our history, and I want to be up front and honest - it's after all, what a relationship should be about.
So, I've been both blessed and cursed with having a good ability to make female friends (only some of whom have been previous relationships, and some not). In all cases, they cause some hardship on a new serious relationship (unlike non-threatening male friendships), but the previous sexual ones seem to be deal breakers. This then causes me to be gun shy about starting new potentially serious relationships, for fear of losing my existing friends. I therefore find myself more recently considering the option of remaining relationship-free and simply finding sexual refuge in SCs, AMPs, and the like.
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Not surprisingly, this often backfires. Men 1 Women 0.
Regarding the reverse (she has male friends who were former relationships), I have encountered that, but nobody emotionally close enough for her to see, outside the occasional party or social gathering where he might happen to show up. And yes, it does create a little angst in me to think about going out socially, even as couples, with a former boyfriend of hers, although I know it's been done. And I think given time, it would become okay.
I did see a woman one time in a Match.com ad write that she has several male friends, some of whom were former boyfriends. If a prospective dater wasn't cool with that, she advised not contacting her. I appreciated her being up front about that, and thought about doing something similar.
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Al69 - Pretty much, yes. I've found that what'll probably happen is you'll meet someone you want to date, go on vacation with, etc., and your fuck buddy will then object. Your reaction of course will be, "But we're just fuck buddies, talked extensively about it, and agreed to our arrangement. I'm not doing anything wrong." She of course won't see it that way, and will claim: A) She never meant or really wanted to do the fuck buddy thing, and only used it as a means to get emotionally closer, B) She doesn't know how you could think that being a fuck buddy meant you could go on with your life as though the fuck buddy didn't exist (e.g., dating) because after all, you guys are fucking, or C) She felt bad about being a fuck buddy and/or changed her mind about your arrangement (but didn't tell you), and now all your canoodling to this point has meant more than simply fucking in her mind, and she now has a claim on how you live your life outside of said canoodling.
So yes, the minute she starts to become possessive, you'll probably want to end it.