age / "used to dance"

Easy solution:

"Have you ever danced?" "Have you ever thought about being a dancer?"

Take the time element out of it. Some variation of the second was usually what I'd go with. Results vary. Cheaper drinks. Free drinks. Pointers on talent. Some surprisingly hot lappers. Whatever. Girls like compliments. Wouldn't worry about insulting her. Think about how much she gets hit on any given week. If you're anything but a total ass you'll be fine.

Good thoughts, wallanon. I'll try to (at most) be a partial ass. ;-)

I always assume any older woman who is the waitress or bartender of a strip club used to dance in the club, although that's not necessarily true. But strip club bartender/waitress doesn't seem like a job for an older woman who never worked in one.

I do not know too many dancer to bartender changes. The money made in dancer is too high to think about going back to bartending. One main reasons bartenders turn down that extra cash is because they have a husband/bf who doesn't want them stripping or they have too much pride to take off their clothes. My answers:

1. Older dancers tend to use more SS than younger dancers because they know they can't sell LDs based off their looks alone. Be careful and don't fall for their SS. On the other hand, some are more willing to provide extras because they know they can't sell LDs based off their looks alone. Usually it is using the SS instead of the extras but not always.
2. She probably has been asked this before and will not be offended. She might even be flattered you took an interest in her. I have found that strip club employees rarely are offended unless you give a direct insult.