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Married and clubbing

mreef
How do you married guys find the time for clubs?

Money is a non-issue for me now, I always seem to have $300 to $500 in a stripper stash because I'm finding it harder to go as often as I did (young family, lots of kids, etc).

I try to figure out special work functions, etc. that I can blow off, and spend a few hours at an hour-away SC. I've gone to the movies (a real long one) and spent time at SC (hint: read moviespoiler.com so you know what happens). I'm thinking this holiday season will result in some birthday and Christmas shopping for the spouse (run into the mall grab a few things so it "looks good" and hit the SC).

But the worst is when you've got a planned visit lined up and something changes that prevents it. This has happened to me twice in the past week, very frustrating.

I can't be too blatant, so no 4 hour visits for me. My max is usually 2 hours with as many LDs as I can afford.

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Player11
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15 years ago
Its very easy. I find the time between when I get off work and have to be home is a good time to visit a SC or meet a girl. Also if you can get out to a SC at lunch that will work. A lot of time wife goes out with ladies on Saturday so I can hit the clubs that are open during the day or meet a girl at a motel. Or course I don not have kids still living at home.

Once you are seeing a girl otc, she will hookup when you can meet. The smart ones know how to get around this issue.
shadowcat
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15 years ago
When I was married getting out was never a problem. Dear "gotta fly up to DC for the day" And I did have to do business trips.It was always a question of building a secret bank roll. That ended when I got so pissed off at her overspending that I changed my banking. Automatic deposit into my credit union account. My name only. That helped to lead to our divorce. Which is what I wanted anyway. We settled out of court in mediation in one day. Just like a stripper, it is all about the money.
scatterbrain
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15 years ago
For me, two words...business trips. I don't frequent SC in my home area since, as you pointed out, I tend to spend my time and money on my family when I'm there and it gets complicated.
SuperDude
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15 years ago
Shadow--Ironically I had the same triggering episode, but I didn't want it to happen. After patiently trying to negotiate an end to reckless, unplanned and undisclosed spending, I opened a separate account and attempted to control spending. I underestimated the explosions and accusations that followed. During my marriage I did go to SCs, sometimes with the wife. So she knew. Never took extras, OTC or other action. Thought we both looked at SCs as harmless fun, a diverson when she was busy with her many club and charity obligations. Wrong. We have been split 15 years and she is still spreading the story that I used SCs as a brothel. Yep, its about control of your time, money and dick.

definitelynotgreenvegas
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15 years ago
Lord have mercy. How about a) respect your vows and not go. B) bring her with you. You guys are bragging about meeting a stripper in a hotel behind your wifes back? That's called a whore dude.
brewerfan
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15 years ago
So, why the hell are u people married again?
samsung1
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15 years ago
a good wife will take care of you (cook/clean) but she sure as hell won't entertain you.
Clubber
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15 years ago
For me, once again, easy. I don't have set work hours and am often on call. Therefore, easy to have extra time away from home.
steve229
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15 years ago
I've been trying to come up with some better cover stories. My "got to go to Home Depot, Honey" excuse has been wearing thin, especially seeing how I never actually get anything done around the house.

On the other hand, maybe I shouldn't bother. My wife apparently knew more about my little adventures then she let on, as she recently surprised me by allowing a "sanctioned" visit.
lopaw
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15 years ago
It's generally not too much of a problem.
Where there's a will, there's a way (wink wink).
mreef
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15 years ago
I don't travel for business, in fact, I work out of my house, so I have no work-related reason to leave, must less travel.

I'm happily married, have 3 young kids and no interest in extras or cheating on my wife. Going to a strip club is not cheating and neither is a good 2-way contact LD. I think when you start talking stick shifting, HJs, you've stepped over a line.

Speaking of when there's a will there's a way, I got out tonight. It was only an hour, but love the smell, sight and touch of strippers!
SuperDude
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15 years ago
mreef--I believe the majority of wives equate going to SCs as cheating. You can claim that you observe certain limits, but they won't believe it because, in their view, you shouldn't be there in the first place. Once that line is crossed you are guilty of adultery just for looking and/or getting a LD.
DandyDan
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15 years ago
I'm not married, but if I were, and I had to go out, I'd probably use the excuse of hanging out with the guys while watching the game. Or else actually going to the game. Of course, you got to listen to the local sports talk show to know what actually happened at the game.
nj_pete
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15 years ago
Business trips! Either a couple of days away which is better or day trips form Nortern NJ to DE where my firm has an office.
georgmicrodong
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15 years ago
I find time two or once or twice a month. Fortunately, I don't have to lie or make up excuses. I tell my wife where I'm going and what I'm likely to be doing. Including whether or not I might pursue any extras. I am a very lucky man. Even luckier when she comes along.
mreef
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15 years ago
I think doing something behind my spouse's back is part of the allure. My wife knows I love strip clubs (I used to tell her when I went ~15 years ago), but she doesn't realize I resumed going.

There are some crazy women who think jerking off to porn and visiting strip clubs is cheating, my wife isn't one of them. I think she would be more bothered by IM'ing with an ex-girlfriend on Facebook because there is more of an emotional connection versus getting LDs from some random girls that I'll never see again.

I think it's great that some clubbers go with their spouses, but I can't imagine going with my wife, it would be more of a turn off, unless perhaps she was bi (and I know she's not -- she would be more into a MMF 3-some).
Player11
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15 years ago
I am going to enjoy my SC hobby and its activities no matter what. I could be in the perfect marriage. Where there is a will there is a way and especially if its about trying to find time for stripclubbing.

Business trips as some of you have mentioned do offer good opportunity for enjoying the hobby.
Philip A. Stein
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15 years ago
In the perfect marriage, you can go to a strip club. In a more than perfect marriage, you ask her which one you should go to. In an even more perfect marriage, she asks you when you're going to take her again.

I'm in a way more than perfect marriage so it's not too hard to find time to go to a SC.
Drippy
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15 years ago
Business trips to Detroit almost every month which include quality time at SCs. I love it.
ArtCollege
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15 years ago
re "secret bank roll." After I go to the ATM, I throw a few bucks into a zippered pocket in my briefcase. If asked, I say that's my emergency cash when I travel. That way I there are not multi-hundred dollar fluctuations in my pocket cash.

As for time, that's not easy. I use 1) business out of town travel, and 2) tag on to evening business functions. So if I have a business dinner at 6:30, I might spend 5 to 6 at the local club. Unfortunatly, my fav local club is not open for lunch, or else I'd eat there regularly.
ShotDisc
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15 years ago
travel for work. territory sales is great for that. also daytime clubs.
rockie
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15 years ago
I'm semi retired with a flexible work schedule that a visit can be built around a couple of days a week. MReef: It may be time for you to find the need for site visits, or a business meeting occasionally. My family/work schedule didn't allow me much time to breath until my oldest child could drive. Her license to drive gave me my license to club.
skeets35
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15 years ago
learn to hit it in the afternoons. Going out at night is impossible with the wife home so I do it between noon and three. Also, business trips. always make sure I can get out two or three times on a trip.

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