What's the best way for a dancer or female customer to ask a guy out in a strip

Most dancers know when I am about to leave so I will assume they pick up on customer habits. I think the best time to ask for the date is when he is about to go. This will help convince the guy the lady is not trying to make a last minute sale. She should also say bye to further push that point home, if necessary. A female customer should just make the approach when the guy is not preoccupied.

I remember one girl came up to me with a refreshing approach. She walked up to me and introduced herself and shook my hand, asked me my name and then said something like "well i'll be around all evening if you wanna LD" and walked off politely with a great smile. It was the opposite of the all too common pushy approach.

To just ask. One of my most memorable OTC was a dancer I hit it off with who had an incredible acrobatic dance routine that asked me to have dinner with her after her shift. Turns out she had done a couple of porn movies. We had a great evening and it only cost me dinner.

Best approach for a dancer, assuming she's sincere and has not already known the guy very long: Avoid asking him for dances. Tell him you'd be interested in getting to know him person-to-person. If that does not work, then there's really no chance for an actual date.

3 words: Wanna go out. I think that says it all. Now the real question is should they be asking that question without guy now weighing whether she's an escort, but then again arent all girls escorts if you really think about it.

I was asked just in conversation. I had talked with her a few times, and she after that, she just asked. Only problem was, she wanted me to help her pick out a vehicle. After that time, I would ask or she would.

You just know. When the vibe is right.

"Ask out" for a REAL civilian date? Or "ask out" for a pay-for-play?

I once had a dancer? tell me she wanted to take me to her apartment and let me do whatever I wanted. However she asked the worst possible way and her timing was awful. I didn't even know if she was a dancer or customer. I was walking to tip another dancer on stage and then I heard some girl shouting a question to me. I have to say, being asked that question shortly after gulping down some beer and suddenly feeling it, then deciding I'm going to tip a dancer on stage but suddenly hear some other girl shouting at me, worst possible timing. In hindsite I would have asked to discuss the matter in a little bit because I had so many questions but in the spur of the moment I kind of blew her off. Used to saying no to dancers almost all the time I guess. I really didn't want to leave the club just when the beer was kicking in either but that was too much to explain in a split second decision I thought she wanted. Oh well, the next dancer who asks me a similar question, I'll ask her to ask me later when I sit back down or join her at her table to talk if I'm interested in her.

Book Guy, your question was one of the questions I was wondering about too. She said she wanted to take me to her apartment. Did she want money too? I had no clue. I didn't even know her name or anything about her. I guess that might be the most aggressive introduction line in a strip club I've heard that seemed serious and not a joke.

I guess this could add to the fantasy in a strip club. Does a dancer want to ask you out to her apartment? Is the one who asked me still lurking somewhere ready to pounce on you because she's all horny? Does she also have a female friend who will also be there? 3 way maybe?

I don't like pay for play either. I find it rather easy to say no to anyone who wants to do something for money. What I find disturbing is that if she doesn't say anything about money, is she suddenly going to ask later on? If I don't know anything about her, I wouldn't have found out if she wants to go out with me because she likes me and is attracted to me or if she's really just trying to pull a fast one on me and is being sneaky about all of her intentions.

I once got burned by a dancer who spent part of the evening with me. No sex involved, we were just having some fun about town. After I said goodbye, she suddenly asked for money and I found that infuriating because she didn't mention anything about money for time. I refused to pay her at first, she started arguing saying how she could have been making money dancing at the club instead and how much she could have been making, etc. etc. which was a lot more than she was asking. I still refused. She started crying. I eventually caved in. I think the only reason I caved in was because I had a lot more free cash back then. I had no debt, no house payment, no car payment, wasn't bothering with trying to build any savings for retirement and was living with relatives so my expenses were low. I paid cash for everything. That was a long time ago.