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The Downside of Becoming Friends with a Stripper

Thursday, September 26, 2019 2:28 PM
First off, I like talking to strippers, they have a lot of stories to tell, some funny, some fascinating, some outright horrifying or disgusting. My wife doesn't understand why I enjoy socializing with strippers so much, when i'm not this verbose when meeting people in the outside world. I can't help but find strippers interesting. Dare I say that I enjoy conversing with them almost as much as i enjoy a well delivered lap dance? I got especially close to one lady, let's call her Blue, for the color of her hair. Blue is a relatively attractive Filipina in her late 20s, she approached me one night and asked if i was Filipino too (i am not). But it opened up room for a conversation that lasted for over an hour. Now Blue isn't necessarily my cup of tea, she's quite pretty and very skilled on the pole, but a lifetime of Playboy and Penthouse has made me a sucker for leggy blondes with fake boobs. I let Blue know right from the start that I wasn't interested in a private dance, but that if she wanted to sit with me and chat, i'd buy her a drink. As time went by, we got lost in our conversation, and i felt slightly guilty when i realized how much of her time i had taken up, and how much money it must have cost her in lost revenue to sit and talk with me. I decided i would ask her for a private dance out of a sense of obligation. The first dance was awesome. Getting to know each other had served to break the ice and we were comfortable enough with each other to kick the intimacy up several notches. I stayed for 5 more songs. As i've grown older, i have found that personality, passion, and intimacy, even feigned, is more important for me than the girl's physical looks when getting a lap dance. Over the next year, whenever i would visit the club, i would always reserve enough money for at least 3 dances with Blue because she was my pal and i enjoyed her company. It was during this time that i began to realize just how in demand she was becoming. The amount of time we would spend chatting and catching up was getting shorter and shorter each visit, and i saw less and less of her off the stage. This last weekend, i barely caught a glimpse of her blue hair as she went in and out of the VIP room like it was some kind of revolving door. It had been over 2 months since i had last seen her, and I was surprised to find that i wanted to feel her body pressed close to mine and grinding into me almost more than i wanted to catch up. It wasn't until close to the end of the night that she managed to find enough time to sit with me, and I wasted no time in asking her to the VIP. In the VIP room she got naked and straddled me cowgirl style, then proceeded to grind on me. For the next three songs we chatted like this without changing position. It wasn't till the end that I realized that aside from the pleasure of catching up with her, I had not achieved any real sexual satisfaction. I had considered asking for another dance, where we would both be quiet and get lost in the movement of our bodies, but didn't know how to do that without hurting her feelings. I'm hoping that the next time we'll have more time to do our catching up outside of the VIP, and save the lap dance for just the physical stuff.

18 comments

  • Longislandnightmare
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    5 years ago
    Man, I can totally relate to this. A few years ago I was in a very bad way mentally which led me to a club. I was more interested in the drinking (with hot chicks all around me). I became really good friends with 3 girls from that club. 2 of which are still good friends and never touched them once. Lol The 3rd one was my ATF. It eventually became the same situation you described. One time I decided that I’d try the vip thing out. She gave me a bj and I made her stop at 2 minutes in. I look back now on how dumb It’s sounds but it wasn’t what I was really there for. I still can’t answer that question.
  • rickdugan
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    5 years ago
    Who comes up with this shit? Now we're romanticizing LDs with a stripper who couldn't care less about you or your life? 😀 Hey guys, next time get your nut because everything else is pointless with zero end game.
  • Longislandnightmare
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    5 years ago
    Being naive and depressed was my excuse. Sometimes it takes a lot of money and time to make that conclusion Rick. Lol
  • Htxx
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    5 years ago
    Jesus Christ. Tell her to suck yiur cock. Thatd shut her up.
  • BigPoppa99
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    5 years ago
    ;) Many custies go solely for the company with an attractive woman. Nothing wrong with that.
  • letsgetstarted
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    5 years ago
    Once a dancer feels too comfortable with me she starts talking about her private life right in the private room during the LD. Please shut up you are ruining the mood.
  • Papi_Chulo
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    5 years ago
    "... My wife doesn't understand why I enjoy socializing with strippers so much, when i'm not this verbose when meeting people in the outside world ..." That's b/c you are a paying customer and it is a good stripper's job to "make you feel special and interesting" - it is their job to pretend they enjoy their time w/ you and that you are special/awesome - kinda "fake-dating for dummies" "... I can't help but find strippers interesting. Dare I say that I enjoy conversing with them almost as much as i enjoy a well delivered lap dance ..." Seems many custies use strippers as some kinda emotional substitute - nothing wrong w/ that, most of us that frequent strip-clubs use strippers as some kinda substitute whether it'd be emotional or physical - I've kinda noticed many married-guys seem to enjoy this kinda one-on-one "relationship" w/ a stripper - this is not to say single-custies don't also, but I would have thought most married-PLs would not necessarily have that emotional-void since they already have someone but seems many need/desire/crave some kinda emotional intimacy w/ dancers as if the dancer was a substitute S.O. "... For the next three songs we chatted like this without changing position. It wasn't till the end that I realized that aside from the pleasure of catching up with her, I had not achieved any real sexual satisfaction ..." I'm not good at multitasking - I don't mind having a convo if that is all we are doing - but when it's time to get physical then convo IMO is often a distraction (e.g. when one is having sex w/ someone, is it ideal to also be discussing where you are gonna go shopping the next day?) - I also think that convos during dances and/or VIP at times are kinda detrimental to the custy and advantageous to the dancer; i.e.: a) some dancers use conversation as a way to distract the custy and burn time so she does not have to "put out too much" or for the PL to be distracted and not ask for much b) dancers grind on guys and are groped for weeks, months, and years, on end - w/ rare exceptions they don't get enjoyment out of it and most don't like doing what they do to make that $$$ - so one would assume that they'd rather get paid for a stimulating conversation (or even just plain convo) vs grinding-and-groping
  • kingcripple
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    5 years ago
    I think the downside for me is becoming friends with the stripper, getting to know her on a personal level then letting that personal level trick my mind into wanting something more than just friendship and finding out she possibly has a boyfriend. More to your point though. I have this method. I told this girl we'll get a cabana and i have no problem just talking to her in there. If dances are going to happen, she brings it up and of course i won't turn it down. We'll still be talking but she'll give me dances. Sometimes though, we get too into the conversation and start cracking up.
  • Nidan111
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    5 years ago
    The short and sweet of it. You are her customer. She knows what you like. It is a FANTASY. Nothing more, nothing less. I’d she makes you happy in your fantasy, then she is good at her JOB/PROFESSION. I applaud her. Seriously, no joke, you are her CUSTOMER. NOTHING ELSE.
  • TJ Lee
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    5 years ago
    How PL. Yall need to visit HK/TJ.
  • Ranma12
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    5 years ago
    I want to make something absolutely clear here. I am not romanticizing the relationship, or fantasizing about a relationship, or crave an emotional connection with the Lady. I am fully aware that it is their job to make their customers feel at ease through small talk. And I am under no illusion that under other circumstances, and in other surroundings, we probably would not be having a conversation. The point of my article is that with this particular lady, I had gone past the point of engaging in my usual small talk with dancers. I enjoyed her intelligence, wit, company, and her grinding skills. But, i'm looking to balance the physical and the Intellectual/emotional aspects.
  • jacej
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    5 years ago
    "would have thought most married-PLs would not necessarily have that emotional-void since they already have someone but seems many need/desire/crave some kinda emotional intimacy w/ dancers as if the dancer was a substitute S.O." @Papi - I know you're not a married guy, but I have to state the obvious: Obviously, you've never been married! LOL! For a lot of married PL's, they're just going through the martial motions for the kids, to avoid paying alimony, losing the house, half the retirement accounts, etc. etc. After a while, marriage can be pretty flat-lined for many.
  • OldOwl75
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    5 years ago
    Just remember to pay a fair price for a well delivered service. You'd do the same for a bartender. Only difference is your dick is involved.
  • Nixur68
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    5 years ago
    Strippers are cool as fuck once they’ve gotten past the baby stripper and didn’t end up as jaded ice queens. Most of the ones I know end up traveling half on the year because they’ve made that much and can take the time off. Personally, I’m jealous - I would take less money at my own job for that kind of freedom.
  • Tiredtraveler
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    5 years ago
    The real issue is sorting out the the sob stories from the truth.
  • BocaOnt2019
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    5 years ago
    "I want to make something absolutely clear here. I am not romanticizing the relationship, or fantasizing about a relationship, or crave an emotional connection with the Lady. I am fully aware that it is their job to make their customers feel at ease through small talk. And I am under no illusion that under other circumstances, and in other surroundings, we probably would not be having a conversation. The point of my article is that with this particular lady, I had gone past the point of engaging in my usual small talk with dancers. I enjoyed her intelligence, wit, company, and her grinding skills. But, i'm looking to balance the physical and the Intellectual/emotional aspects." Totally get & understand that - and appreciate you sharing this article. Also some food for thought - While obviously and does not need to be said - the stripper sees you as a customer first & foremost - do not forget that it can work both ways. IE the stripper can possibly see you as a friend as well if you keep coming back & are having lots of conversations - thats just human nature. They may have relaxed their guard. I am not saying they would want a OTC - just that ITC they see you more than just a customer. That can at least lead to better perks than if you're just a ATM that they may not normally do.
  • Clubber
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    5 years ago
    When it becomes a friendship beyond the club and a truly personal relationship becomes a reality, things change a lot. I experienced this with my ATF. To some extend, she became a small part of my family. Stupid me finally ended the relationship. I regret it to this day.
  • deboinair
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    4 years ago
    Guys that always "befriend" strippers are fucking up the strip club scene. You guys are part of of the reason why these broads want to get paid to do absolutely nothing. They ARE NOT your friend. Some of you are so pathetic and can't see that they just want money or for you to do something for them. It's just not smart to engage with strippers other than strictly business. I had one recently that was a dependable OTC. She text me asking for some money because she had to pay tickets and that if I gave her money she could take her daughter to the fair. I said I only pay for services in person. Haven't heard from her since. Oh well. On to the next. I was kind of shocked because she has been reliable over a year. But I guess when they encounter so many simps they try their antics on you.
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