When I first started dancing I was very nervous. My cousin bought me my 1st pair of heels and threw me into her club she worked at. No tips. So ima give a few away that I wish someone told me. My first dance was so stiff I started shaking like crazy, guys were looking at me as if I was an angel and I felt so scared when my turn was over I raced off stage. The strip Game wasn't easy to learn but once I got the hang of it, guys were like puddy in my hands.
Tip#1 When you are called onto stage do not rush take your time especially if you're in a conversation with a customer. If you rush he'll feel like you have no interest in him, and that's the thought you don't want him to have. Especially if he's the one paying your pockets.
Tip#2 Always return to your customer after you've danced on stage unless they leave. If another dancer grabs his attention while you are on stage just let it go. However if he's still talking to her when you're done , do not show anger tell her to go away in a nice respectful way to avoid tension from your customer
Tip#3 If your customer is an older man (50+) and he wants a dance the best way to get him going is take your long finger nail and go downward on his chest lightly, look into his eyes and say something very sweet and seductive. I did this and it made my customer give me more of his time & Money
Tip#4 Do not be intimidated by other dancers that have more on their body than you do. Basically I'm saying if a girl has more back than you do or more breasts do not let it bother you . Every woman is different, and sometimes guys just like different types. However in my club it was all about big butts not so much body type. It made me feel I didn't belong sometimes but customers always reassured me that I am beautiful without so much backside
Tip#4 Avoid drama with other dancers, it can make you leave , or fight or get injured pretty badly. Remember this is your job!
Tip#5 If you are good at persuasion then this is definitely your kind of job. I had to learn this the hard way, you're basically selling a dream/fantasy to these customers. Here's a example of a conversation: "Hello how are you doing tonight"-Dancer "I'm doing great and yourself?"-Customer "Oh I'm good thanks for asking"-Dancer Etc etc then when they seem to lose interest randomly say"Hey do you like to have fun?" Who comes to a strip club bored? Exactly of course he want to have fun so it's a 50/50 chance you may or may not get the customer . Either you invite him to VIP or vice versa jus get there lol Tip#6 When you get to VIP always grab money upfront, if they don't pay first do not dance at all that's how girls get ripped off. Always have money in hand it in sight. If he wants to feel on your body be careful with this. You do not have to let the customer touch u if u don't want him to , You have that right. If a customer gets out of hand grab security and let them handle it.
Tip#7 Even if the night isn't going how you want, walk around,enjoy the music and dance at stages for practice. When I went to stages for practice I attracted customers way more than I did on the main stage (sometimes) . Men love seeing women in their own world as they dance, they enjoy watching from behind of course lol.
Tip#8 Eye contact during conversation and dancing is VERY IMPORTANT!!! If you look elsewhere theu feel you have other things in mind an will probably ignore you once you want to speak. It's about them not you Tip#9 If you drink, avoid going over the top because if you can't handle your liquor you will either be sent home or fired it depends on your manager. Remember, being sent home can effect your money and you don't want that because you need it.
Tip#10 If you have a boyfriend it's not very easy to be a dancer. Many men get insecure, feel embarrassed and less of a man because sometimes guys feel that if they were to be able to provide for you then you wouldn't even consider to dance. However it's your life so make the right decision for you If you have any questions about this please comment and let me know My experience is only 4 months in dancing I've worked in two different clubs in Fort Worth TX and trust me the little 4 months was a real eye opener.
Great advice!
Speaking from a customer perspective, I've spent time with all types of dancers, and even if I have a specific type, a friendly and engaging personality is probably the most beautiful attribute a dancer can have.
Conversely, I've seen many strikingly beautiful dancers with killer bodies who turned me off with their aloof and bored attitudes.
The suggestion about eye contact is spot on, and reminds me of one of the most memorable dancers I ever saw. I barely remember her body or face, but will never forget the way she eye-fucked me from the stage. Didn't get a private dance from her, but the way she looked at me like a jungle cat looking at something especially tasty was one of the most intimate and electric connections I ever felt with a dancer.
One question I always have is how dancers deal with smelly and/or unhygienic customers. I always make a point of showing up to a club like I would an important date, and a lot of dancers have commented on how nice and clean I smell, leaving me to wonder just how gross the average customer is.
Of course on the flip side I've come across dancers who maybe didn't have time to wipe or deodorize before dancing for me, which I didn't notice earlier but when writhing against each other becomes something unavoidable. In those cases I try to gently position the dancer in such a way that minimizes my closeness to whatever was offending me.
Anyway, thanks for the great write-up and perspective from the other side, so to speak!