Female Friendly Strip Clubs
Rednight
There are few friends that know that my wife and I go to clubs together now and again. When we first started some number of years ago, we really had to find out way around. The waitress would always try to put us at a table towards the back away from the action. My wife prefers something a little more central. We used to have to speak up, but now we often get some of the more central tables offered by default.
We like to get dances. My preference is that she gets one first, and, if it is friendly enough, ill get one too. We offer to buy the dancer a drink about half the time. Varying degrees of acceptance. I don't feel gouged by that. It is a nice shared experience.
In the early days would not know what to do, or they would straight out to refuse to give dances to women. I think it was a cross between uncertainty about what to do, and sometimes it was about concerns over the woman getting grabby. Some women definitely do, while others are respectful and only cross boundaries that they are encouraged to cross. Being respectful is king, and not trying to get as much as possible.
Couples can be a good win for a dancer. If I like seeing her dance, I will get one. If I enjoy mine, then odds are I will encourage her to get another, (or two!) and I will then take one more. If this go poorly, we stop at one. But if goes well, it's probably 140 plus tip. The tips vary... they are special occasions but there is something nice about adding an extra 20 or two for a job well done. Plus a drink or two and some conversation and you can get some winning time spent together.
Lately it is rare that we find truly clueless dancers. Most know "it is all about her." Start there and work your way up. She likes to know your cover story, how long you've been working, if you have other plans, and likes seeing you drink with her. It's female bonding.
Some clubs are still suspicious of unaccompanied women so your mileage may vary. I think there are fewer and fewer places. There are a few in the Austin area. P10, Palazzio, and Expose come to mind. While they are quite different from each other, they so have their draw.
Always remember, be friendly, don't be grabby, tip your waitresses, and tip your dancers. Definitely take a few dollars (more than one!) and do the stage interview. Try the beginning of the second song so she is topless. Go early so she doesn't have "overtime" due to the DJ having to extend the song so she can finish with you. At the end you can get on her list of people to visit. That's important when you have brought a lady friend. Few dancers are willing to come up and ask a couple of they want some company. It is a little more intimidating and they are more likely to be told no. If my wife goes to the bathroom, I'll usually get someone to come up right away and offer me company. I always decline so that my SO can have a say. I do appreciate the effort. I can imagine it being more difficult.
Tip your waitress well, and as you go! She can often help you find a willing dancer, and likely one that can cater to your wishes.
If you follow some basic rules, you can have an awesome time. I highly recommend it.
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I am vehemently pro women when it comes to having them in the club as customers, but I do NOT want them in there if they are using it as a nightclub and either not spending, dissing the dancers or acting the fool and/or taking up valuable real estate..
Each gender has its own way of being a club asshole. Unfortunately, I've heard way too many negative stories from dancers about female customers acting in just the ways you described. Most common complaints were of them dissing the dancers or acting the fool because they suddenly decided they want to compete for attention with the dancers. Those are the worst.
To lopaw's point – this is what I don't like about females going to strip clubs and treating them as a party club or nightclub – sometimes I see them dancing at their table all night long with their hands up in the air as if it was a dance club; or I often see them as spectators just watching but not spending a dollar and taking up the best seats for hours – not saying all fem custies are this way; but the statement quoted above is how I seen many a fem custy act in some of the places I go; i.e. treating the strip club like it was a nightclub.
“... The waitress would always try to put us at a table towards the back away from the action. My wife prefers something a little more central. We used to have to speak up, but now we often get some of the more central tables offered by default ...”
In most places I visit; one can just walk in and sit themselves wherever they want.
“... In the early days would not know what to do, or they would straight out to refuse to give dances to women. I think it was a cross between uncertainty about what to do, and sometimes it was about concerns over the woman getting grabby ...”
One of the major complains I've heard of dancers w.r.t. fem custies is the female getting jealous and catty when the dancer is getting frisky w/ the male custy as she would for any other male custy.
“... don't be grabby …”
That's the point of going to a strip club – if I could not “get grabby” then I would go to a regular bar – not touching the dancers may have been the norm back in the 80s and part of the 90s; but it's the norm now a days except for certain areas (cities) that have no-contact ordinances.
IMO – most dancers want you to touch b/c the more you touch the more fun the custy is having and he will want to spend more – w.r.t. “touching” I mean boobs and ass; not finger in vagina.
Dancers are often not that good at reading custies and whom may be interested in them and whom may not and whom is willing to spend $$$ and whom is not – so it’s best to make you own luck by being proactive and trying to get what you want.
It can be tricky to approach dancers. When they are not with other custies, they are generally moving targets or sitting and yaking with other dancers or staff. Some of them don't feel like it's OK for you to approach them when they are yaking with the other strippers. When they are sitting alone, it's usually because they are in a bad mood and are just sitting out the shift. If you tip them on stage, and they don't come around, that usually means it ain't happening. Most of the time, they are ignoring you because of the "my customer, your customer" bullshit.
Not exactly sure to which of my above comments your comment applies – in one comment where I mention being “grabby” I am referring in the context of a dance; i.e. I feel if I'm paying for a dance I want to get the type of dance I like and not the type of dance the dancer likes; so I'll grab as much as I can (usually tits and ass) and if the dancer does not like that it's fine but it'll be one-and-done b/c I won't pay for dances where I have to keep my hands at my sides “to make the dancer feel comfortable”.
If your comment is in reference to when I grab them as they walk by; I don't grab them in the ass or any disrespectful way; I just gently grab; or more like touch, their hand or arm to let them know I'm interested.
I def feel it's not kosher to be grabbing on a dancer if one does not intend to spend $$$ on her – personally I only grab/touch a dancer to get her attention to get dances or while I'm getting dances – but we all have our different ways of interacting w/ dancers.
I like to go earlier in the day (as opposed to night time) when it is less busy, and there is more opportunity to chat with the girls and let them know that it is OK to talk to my husband and sit on his lap. If we see a girl that we like, that we don't know - I go to the stage and tip her, and tell her that I would like her company. That usually works well for us.
Glad to see some comments about women in strip clubs. I always like seeing other women in there.