OTC ... Not all is cracked up to be.

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m99999
When one of my newer regular dancers offered to me OTC, I jumped at the chance. Let me start off by saying I was not looking for sex – just high mileage intimate time together without a “stop watch” or video cameras.

I had been seeing the girl at the club for about a month. She was a 31 year old mom who was trying to get her life back together. She told me how her roommate stole the rent money and most of her stuff and she got kicked out of the place she was staying.

I got a text message on Monday afternoon saying the landlord would let her back in if she could come up with the rent. She was working that day but was about a $100 short and she did not know what to do. Being the nice guy I am, I stopped by the club after work and got some dancers from her. Normally we spend time together before and after the dances. That day, as soon as the dances were over, she said her ride was waiting for her and ran off.

The next day I get a text saying she was not working that day and would love to hang out. Thinking she felt bad for running off, I was able to get away for a couple hours and meet her. We talked for a bit and then the conversation turned to how she needed just a little $$ to get her by until she was working again.

We went back to her place and she proceeded to give me a lap dance. About 15 minutes into it she ran off panicking that her boy friend just texted her he was on his way over.

That Saturday afternoon I get a text saying she was so sorry for the other night and was on the way to the club. When she got there, she asked me to come outside to talk. She was not feeling like working and if she could get just $$ we could hang out. (boy friend would not be a problem). We went back to her place. I had other plans that evening so got just a short dance and had to leave.

On Wednesday, she said she was off and could spend time with me after I got out of work. I contacted her when I was ready to leave and she said she was stranded about 45 minutes away. Still wanting to spend time with her, I went and picked her up. When we get back to her place, the landlord had locked her out because she still owed some rent. Feeling sorry for her, I paid the rent balance so she could get back in. By the time this was all straightened out, I needed to leave without even getting a dance. She promised next time no money would be involved.

Met her Saturday morning. Went out for coffee. When we got back, she spotted boy friends car in lot. Told me he never said he was coming over, but needed to be in work in 20 minutes. She would contact me when he was gone.

Three hours later I finally got call. Boy friend and her broke up. Supposedly her phone dies and she had to get a new charger before she could call. Spent about an hour of intimate time before she informed me of her daughter birthday party that afternoon and needed just a little $$ to get her a gift.

The definition of a fool is "someone that does the same thing over and over, but expects different results."

It took me two weeks and a bunch of $$ to realize OTC with this girl was just a bunch of stress and drama. From now on, I'll stick to ITC.

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shadowcat
11 years ago
I hear ya!
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wasted
11 years ago
Wow. I guess most of us have been there at least once. You keep taking one more step, just one more step. Pretty soon you've walked a mile chasing some ass.

Your problem wasn't ITC versus OTC. The problem was you forget it was a business transaction.

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jabthehut
11 years ago
Agree with wasted concerning OTC. But business transaction, c'mon. It was all SS from a ROB. A business transaction usually involves tit for tat. You give the stripper money that she wants for something you want for a certain period e.g. $100 for 30 minutes of dancing for you. When we give them the $$ and they don't give us the time, thst is a ripoff.
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rockie
11 years ago
Nobody said OTC was a non paying arrangement. The original OP's narrative only suggests a lack of entertainment one time - Rent Wednesday. In the annals of OTC and ROB's, this was no train wreck! Kudos to m99999 for reconsidering the game so quickly!
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Alucard
11 years ago
You were well played by the pity trick. Walking is the best course.

As to disappointing real OTC meetings with dancers - well we all have them.
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bang69
11 years ago
this is why I do itc only
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clevelandbrowns69
11 years ago
There are also escorts if you are looking for outside the club fun.
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Estafador
11 years ago
Escorts are liars. Are you new to strip clubbing
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persia30
11 years ago
What does ROB mean?
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Estafador
11 years ago
Rip-Off Bitch
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curiositycat
11 years ago
sorry to hear, I've been there too. When you are too nice, they take advantage. After similar events happening to me, I no longer try to contact dancers OTC if they give me their contacts. I am assuming you did enjoy your time with her, otherwise you wouldn't have kept giving her a chance, and that is the difficult part, weaning ourselves from the small advantages to see the bigger ripoff picture lol.
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gawker
11 years ago
I've had a 4 year OTC relationship with a dancer. It's expensive, exasperating, exhausting, and exquisite. When we do BBBJ and BBFS in the club its rushed, furtive, and just not the same. My dick gets snagged in my zipper, there's a rush to hide every time someone walks by the room, and generally I feel like I did when I was a teenager.
Meeting her at a hotel is more relaxed. We generally aren't watching the clock. I love being naked with her and the sex is marvelous. There's a great deal of drama being her "sugar daddy", and I rethink whether its worth it frequently, but usually my little head outvotes my big head.(last week her car got repossessed - two and a half days later and $1600 later she had her Maxima back so she could rear- end a car the next day). Every case is different and trust, fidelity, and cost varies greatly.in a text to me last week asking for money she said "the next time we meet it'll be no holes barred". I always thought the saying was "no holds barred" but I prefer her definition.
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jestrite50
11 years ago
You are a victim of SS .....Stripper Shit ! They will tell you anything to desperate you from your money. I have been hearing it from one girl for 2 1/2 years. She thinks I believe her lies but LOL I know the game. I just buy what I want to buy and that's all. She will still give you pussy even if you don't pay for all her emergencies. Just pay for what you want and don't fall for all the SS !
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Papi_Chulo
11 years ago
Well at least you got it (her game/lies) – for some it takes longer than 2 weeks.

Her stories are part and parcel of the ROB game many of these unstable chicks with unstable life circumstances run. She probably never broke up w/ her bf and he may have even been the one putting her up to it or egging her on to squeeze you for all you had.

From what I have seen/read via TUSCL and from personal experience; feeling sorry for a dancer and in particular their financial situation more often than not leads to the PL getting fooled; lied to every which way; and just plain ole taken advantage off.
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ilbbaicnl
11 years ago
Strippers are much more likely to be narcissists than the average person. First of all, good looking people are more likely to be narcissists, because others are more likely to tolerate their narcissism, reducing the pressure to change. Narcissism prevents a person from having true committed relationships. Thus, the biggest drawback to stripping, that it complicates having an SO, is irrelevant to narcissists. With many custies, the best way for a stripper make good money from them is to fake interest in them. A narcissist's lack of empathy is helpful in this situation.

When a dancer fucks her own money by being oblivious to how much she is aggravating you and that she is not doing what she said she would, it's almost always because of her narcissism.
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MonacoGP
11 years ago
Heroine
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Haircut
11 years ago
it took me longer than two weeks to figure out the craziness. Recently got friendly with stripper in a town I was working in. I would give her rides to work, take her home. She kept it strictly in the club. We txt often when I was not in town. then for her birthday she asked for braces.....

i think you are much better finding a good club where you can get what you want in the club. Outside the club it gets too nutty.
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jabthehut
11 years ago
Monaco, who is the heroine ? Heroine is a female hero.
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tumblingdice
11 years ago
@ Ilbby,couldn't have said it any better.
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Martina
11 years ago
e.he cums back for more the next.time he. Wants to have a blast look me up
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Martina
11 years ago
Are the girls pretty
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Martina
11 years ago
Are the girls pretty
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skibum609
11 years ago
I read these stories and am always amazed at the drama and cost of an OTC relationship with strippers. My solution was to marry a smart, attractive woman who earns more money than I do.
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Vegasbob
11 years ago
Hey, I think I know that chick! LOL
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Alpine
11 years ago
Any guy who thinks marriage to anyone is a solution for anything is a complete idiot!
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SoonerSam
11 years ago
New rule (for me, anyway):

If/when a stripper starts her "I can't pay rent" SS, I'm gonna cut them loose. My new CF and OTC partner is low maintenance (so far). She rarely texts me, and usually only if I've initiated the conversation. I haven't been hounded for money. She's so far just about the perfect OTC companion. If she ever turns into what you have described above, it's adios. Thanks for this article! It has helped me work out a new rule LOL.
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skibum609
11 years ago
The minute I hear a sob story from a stripper I stare off into space, silently, until they leave. I charge $275 an hour to hear the same garbage at work.
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iJustWant2no
11 years ago
I love when needy strippers tell me the story about how they can't pay their rent / insurance / bills. I tell them the story about the last time I helped a needy stripper pay her bills. I tell them how much I paid, and what I got in return.

The conversation usually takes a sharp twist at this point.
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sofaking87
11 years ago
I've had friends stuck in that position where they pay and don't play, I usually laugh at them. As for myself, when I hear the sob stories I use it as leverage for extras, at an extra low price. Lol!
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Knightline
11 years ago
Indeed, strippers and escorts are not the types of girls you really want to get to know. Take advantage of their great bodies in the club - but forget about hooking up with them. I don't get escorts that advertise dinner dates for 4 or more hours. They are NOT good company!! IF I want a lap dance or an escort for a BBBJTC, an hour is plenty!!! No, I don't want to get to know them - as none are really worth getting to know. IF you want companionship - go to a dating site - you'll meet women there worth knowing for long periods (perhaps). But strippers and escorts - just use them for the professional services and leave!!!!
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