The evolution of a stripper / customer relationship!!!
Now, more than 1 year had elapsed and we were becoming very close friends both in the club and out side the club. She told me about the problems she was having with her husband of a few years. We spent hours discussing her issues. I told her that if I was in her husbands place with a wife that danced it would be impossible my me to tolerate it. Well ultimately he asked for a divorce and I assisted her in finding an excellent attorney to represent her. The divorce was finalized a few months later.
All this time I was helping her emotionally and financially.
We have become best of friends. I see her in the club regularly and out side the club regularly. We get along fabulously, she is an amazing person. We have traveled together for extended periods and had a wonderful time. She has taken me to her parents home and I have had the pleasure of getting to know a wonderful loving family.
I have become very emotiionally attached to her and I think she is to me too. The only problem I have is sometimes while at the club I become stressed and jealous when she spends time with other customers. She has assurded me that nothing goes on in the rooms, but I am uncomfortable with the situation. When I am at the club, I financially take extremely good care of her. Every other dancer there would like me to be there customer, but I only see her. But as I said the situation is getting very uncomfortable for me. I starting to feel like her ex-husband must have felt. I recently told her that I was going to take a vacation from the club so I didn't have to expose myself to this because of my strong emotional attachment. I told her that if she wanted to skip work days, I would buy her out. We are hopefully working this out, I do not want to hurt her financially or emotionally, however, I am not enjoying the club environment with her any longer.
More to come as the situation unfolds....thanks for listening.
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last commentLet me close with a thought. Two months before things ended, she expressed an idea of us sharing a two bedroom apartment. Now, why, would a woman you are physically intimate with, want her own bedroom ? (I know the answer, I'm just sayin....)
victor2, are you still married? I'd keep the relationship outside of the club 100% if the dancer is okay with it. Get out of the phony environment and prevent the club from taking a cut of your money.
Why not fix things with your wife and let this experience remain the fantasy its supposed to be?
I'm going to post as if all of that was real... ;)
She is a mistress - treat her as such. If you don't like the club don't go there. If she meets up with you outside the club only then cool, you can still help her financially while spending time with her. If not then the train has come to the end of the line.
And buy her out for skipped work days??? Your increasingly pathetic attachment to a girl who is clearly using you for her financial goals is going to end up with you heartbroken AND broke. If you have enough $$$ to keep her on the payroll full-time outside the club, then do so (at least until you get tired of her), but if not then don't go in that direction. The heartbreak is inevitable, the only question now is how much $$$ will be siphoned out of you before it happens.
But, you think in that whiney voice in your head: "what if this is real?" Tell you what genius, the next time you see her tell her you are thinking about leaving your wife to be with her and see how she reacts.
Brother, you are right in thinking that her ex-husband probably felt something like this... he couldn't handle having a dancer as a wife, and now that you are getting attached, you are having the same trouble.
The problem is that you are living a fantasy. As long as there is money involved, there is a relationship. The real test is whether there is one after the money is gone. If she hangs out for longer than a month or two after the tap is turned off, then maybe you have a decent on-the-side girl. One thing to remember about these kinds of relationships though, they can never replace a good marriage. And, in most cases, they end quicker then the original relationship that they were replacing.
The grass is always greener. Doesn't mean you can't enjoy the scenery, just remember that the other guy also has weeds to pluck and leaves to rake.
And I speak from experience (my wife is a dancer... although I enjoy that fact, not resent it).
I am madly in love with a stripper too, so I know how you feel.
I have had a couple of really close relationships with dancers I have seen otc. The two I have had the most sessions with are friends of mine on Facebook (I have racked up over 200 sessions with them combined). Facebook gives me a stream of constant data about them along with photos to add to my already extensive archive. Interestingly enough these two got married within about 45 days of each other. One of them I have been seeing almost 2 years. She told me her marrying the guy she has been living with 4 years would not affect our meetings for sex. It has not and the sex has been good as ever. She loves to model bikinis for me. At most I would consider her my mistress but many would describe her as essentially a Housewife Prostitute. She describes herself as happily married to her HS sweetheart on her FB page. This may be true but my dick has been deep in her a lot lately. The other I stopped seeing in 2007 after her demands for money escalated due to pressure from her bum BF she is now married to. His trump card was that he had fathered her 4th child (she had the other 3 by two other men). These two women are a prime example of women in supposedly happy relationships who engage in Prostitution. They are as excited as they can be willingly posing for pictures, enjoying different dick, and of course shopping money. Seeing strippers will smash a lot of concepts you have about women.
Victor, IDK how much money you have put into her but its gotta be a lot if your buying her out of the club. My article about "Dealing with Dancer Drama" can help you. I generally regard them like a College Football coach regards a Heisman WR. I know one day they will graduate and evaluate the relationship on POP and sex enjoyment satisfaction. POP with the one I am seeing averages $150 (down from around $200 last year). I hate to think what you are probably averaging for POP but it must be in the stratosphere. Once your are past all the fantasy glitz with these gals and emotional manipulation you can see them for what they really are. They are like actresses in a play and will act out their roles as long as the money keeps flowing. Don't expect anything more. A Players goal is getting some good stuff and keeping POP low not being a RIL.
While I treat them like a queen, I essentially regard them as mistresses at best. Unless I am fucking one itc, I generally stay away from the club. Lets face it if she will meet me at motel for say $100 - $200 for pussy why go to club and spend money say $100 on dances and tips? I can just about get pussy for that. Its no fun seeing them with other men either.
son, you are getting played....you need to go to another titty bar, because this stalking stuff is going to get people hurt.
The word "screwed" comes to mind here!
She is a stripper, her job is to make money of of guys, nothing wrong with that, it can be a pretty good living, but you better keep the relationship professional because she will move on when your money stream dries up. Your wife? Once she finds out you will have about half your money available that you have now!
I have also fallen in love with a stripper, in fact I fell in love four times last time I was in a club!
Hey Vic, how did this end?
I want to give a conclusion to this story. This is a test to see where the comment will be chronologically posted.
Hey Vic, are you still around?
can you update your story.
What happened?
I am still here. I'll make a long story short. I am no longer a customer, however we are friends. We occasionally have lunch on her days off, purely platonic. She is still one of the best people I have ever known.