GIRL NEXT DOOR

I did when I was in college. In fact there were two of them that used to hang out on the porch with us almost everyday. We lived on the boardwalk at the time, so everyone wanted to hang out on the porch and drink beers and people watch until the sun went down! Good times...

But I knew them before I ever saw them in the club, and even hooked up with one at a party we had as well. Had some amazing lap dances from her when I finally did get around to seeing her. But no, they were both really comfortable with it, and I know I sure as hell was.

How do you plan on treating her differently? She is like the grocery store clerk to you and you are to her like a customer at the grocery store. Don't confuse so called "intimacy" with a relationship of some sort.

Hi deogol,

I have heard this sentiment expressed before, but it is not quite true. Because of the commodity Miss X is selling. True, some Miss X's will view selling a lap dance as equivalent to selling a pair of shoes or a bag of groceries. But not all. Every now and then, intimate relationships DO develop between strippers and customers. Even marriages have been documented. When you have a dual relationship - in the apartment house and in the strip club - the chance of some kind of intimacy increases. However, the big problem to me is the S.O. By definition you cannot have more than one S.O. at a time. My message to 10inches is this -- don't spoil a good thing. If you are happy with your S.O., don't play around with Miss X at the pool or anywhere else except - perhaps - at the strip club.

Several years back, there was an extremely attractive blonde who lived in the same apartment complex. I'd notice her coming and going and even bumped into her a few times in the laundry room. Later I saw her dancing at a local club. I don't think she recognized me but I just had to get a dance. Truthfully, it wasn't that great but she was hot. It was during the summer and she must have moved shortly thereafter and I never did see her again. So, really this comment isn't meaningful in any way to the topic. Oh well. I enjoyed remembering it.

My ATF and I do not live close, but we do share mutual friends that know nothing of the club experience. When we are in a social group with others, we just act as if we only know each other from that circle of friends. Only on a couple of occasions have we had any private conversations when near others, and then we were out of ear shot.

So to answer your question, just behave if you only know each other as others think you do, IE: no club encounter.

I'd think of an excuse about how you met if she starts talking to you in front of your SO like she's a waitress you met at a bar back a few months ago some of your buddies dragged you off to one night. If she introduces herself to your SO in front of you as dancer Bambi who works at club X, you might have a problem if your SO doesn't like that. I don't think most dancers would do that. I did have one dancer attempt to threaten me (in her mind) by revealing to all my friends and family that I had been going out with her. I laughed at her, I didn't think that was a threat. She was pretty good looking and having a hot dancer show up at work attempting to threaten me by telling everyone that, laughable. She thought it would be a threat when she found out I hadn't told anyone about her. I didn't care for being the main talk around town or at work. Dancers are just like other girls so I wouldn't treat her any different.

I was glad in that case the dancer didn't carry through with her threat. I don't even remember what she was upset about. I have read about a few other dancers threatening to call up wives or SO's and that could be perceived as a real threat to some guys. Just imagine a hot girl from your high school and imagine her threatening you by telling all your friends that you have been going out with her. Kinda funny if you don't have a SO at the time.

Never happened to me but few years ago my son had an interesting experience. A chick moved into his apartments. They met and went out to dinner. During dinner, she asked what he did for a living? He is a computer guru. He asked her the same question. She replied that she makes porn movies and wanted to know if he could build her a web site.

He called me for advice. "Should I do it?" I told him to go for it. Well it never happened. She got evicted very soon after wards.

In the mid nineties, my wife and I were invited to the wedding of the son of a good friend of mine. I can't convey in words the feeling that went through me when the bride's eyes met mine as she was walking down the isle. WE DIDN'T KNOW!! We had looked each other in the eye many times before, but she was usually laying naked on the stage stroking her bare "parts". She glanced my way a couple of times from the alter - I hoped no one would notice. I think I briefly considered objecting to the marriage on the grounds that the world might lose a perfectly good dancer, etc. etc.

She quit dancing when she got married. The next time I saw her was a couple of years later at a memorial service for a guy that I had known who had also been a friend of her husband's family.

Without acknowledging each other we stood almost side-by-side in line waiting to enter the funeral home. As the line began to move forward, she reached back and gave me a discreet stroke on the front of my pants. She looked up and our eyes met once again. I smiled knowingly.

Sorry, but that's the end of the story. We didn't get together and have incredibly hot sex. I think she and hubby moved away from this area and have a couple of kids now.

mmdv26,

That is a good story. Seems you both handled it well.

I can't top that story but had a similar experience. Several years ago, I went to Hip Hugger in Kokomo for the first time. About 100 miles away. After a couple of dances from an hot blonde coed type, she asked me where I was from. I told her & she said "OMG!!! So am I." We laughed and I moved on to several other dancers over the night, as it was a bit uncomfortable, since I have a fairly high profile job, etc. Fast forward a couple of months and I'm at a wedding reception for my son's friend. His brother is the best man and introduces me to his fiance. Yep....it was her. We both were stunned & had a hard time covering it up. We avoided even looking at each other the rest of the night. It was very awkward. Luckily, they broke up and she apparently moved out of town. I never had to explain it to my son, his friend, the brother or my wife.

Key information: does she want it to be a secret to the whole world / to your apartment building / to HER sig-other, that she is a stripper? If no, then she has you at an advantage. If yes, that she does want to keep a secret just like you do, then the two of you have one another's best interests in mind.

As far as how to interact with her? I'd suggest, next time you run into her in your apartment building, asking for a lapper in the hallway, and then upgrading to the VIP suite. :)