How many married guys visit clubs on the DL?
mreef
I'm sure there a bunch of married guys with enlightened wives who support their clubbing habit (and maybe even come along), but I wondered how many other guys keep it on the DL?
When my wife was my live-in girlfriend, she supported me going out with the guys to strip clubs (and I went often), but I don't think she really knew what went on (I lived in NYC at the time, in pre-Giuliani days). Never sought/got any extras, but serious two way contact.
15 years later, I've rediscovered my love of strip clubs. Although I have a great marriage, wonderful family (4 kids), I don't feel the need to tell my wife where I've been.
The hardest part of finding the time (I don't travel for my job, or even commute very far), but there are also money issues (I have the money to spend, but I'm known for being a cheapskate and never shopping, I wonder if my wife will start to question my various $100 and $200 cash withdrawals).
And with my newly rediscovered love of strip clubs, I need to learn to pace myself. 3 clubs in 1 week and I'm trying to figure out how to hit a 4th this weekend. I forgot how much I loved them and I feel like I'm trying to make up for lost time.
When my wife was my live-in girlfriend, she supported me going out with the guys to strip clubs (and I went often), but I don't think she really knew what went on (I lived in NYC at the time, in pre-Giuliani days). Never sought/got any extras, but serious two way contact.
15 years later, I've rediscovered my love of strip clubs. Although I have a great marriage, wonderful family (4 kids), I don't feel the need to tell my wife where I've been.
The hardest part of finding the time (I don't travel for my job, or even commute very far), but there are also money issues (I have the money to spend, but I'm known for being a cheapskate and never shopping, I wonder if my wife will start to question my various $100 and $200 cash withdrawals).
And with my newly rediscovered love of strip clubs, I need to learn to pace myself. 3 clubs in 1 week and I'm trying to figure out how to hit a 4th this weekend. I forgot how much I loved them and I feel like I'm trying to make up for lost time.
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If you're in a relationship, you have to decide early on how important clubbing is to you, and what you are willing to do to continue going. Alot of folks are not willing to take the risk of screwing up their relationship, but some of us just like it too much and can't let it go.
Before I started dancing my now ex-husband used to frequent clubs. I really didn't care. I felt that I was the girl he was coming home ready to jump into bed with. :-) Anyway, a few times, I asked him to take me with him and he refused each time.
I did a lunch outing last week, only 2 or 3 customers in the club, but there was one girl I really liked and gave great dances, so after asking her schedule (weekdays only), I'll be going there for lunch again next week.
The toughest part for me is visiting the great clubs (per reviews here) that are 90 minutes away. That's 3 hours just driving.
My wife doesn't go out of town and with 4 kids, I can't just take off for 4 or 5 hours on the weekend. :)
What I've observed (and perhaps hadn't noticed before) is that are a bunch of guys that show up alone. The biggest groups seem to come Friday and Saturday nights and those are typically nights I'm not available. Especially the afternoon crowd seems to be a lot of guys by themselves.
I often have to make opportunistic visits (going out for something, want to stop by the club for an hour), it's not something that could be easily coordinated with others. And best of all, I can leave immediately when I'm done with my cash, or had enough lap dances, etc. I don’t have to wait around for a buddy.
And since I'm keeping this a secret from my wife, there are no issues with a friend spilling the beans, etc.
The idea of feeling out of place going alone kept me out of the clubs for too long. I've yet to feel that way at all.
Married guys are my favorite...customer and boyfriend. hands down for many reasons...
On the customer front...they are usually respectful and predictable...visiting the same time on the same days and spending the same amount...they come in after work but before dinner and I like to get out of the club by 8 or 9...for some reason I feel they are more responsible as far as cleanliness and illegal things...after all they have not just themselves to worry about.
As far as dating married men...they value the time spent with me...they tend to know more about women physically and emotionally and are more sensitive to women's issues (having heard all of them ten times from the wifey) .... they have a bedtime so never really interfere with my club hopping or sports events...they aren't all clingy and up my ass all the time...when they go out of town I get to go...no commitment issues or let's move in together bullshit...guilt induced gift giving is wonderful.
My advice is take your wife to a strip club with ugly girls...then the next time you ask to go, she will be like "go ahead" because she won't feel intimidated...then head towards the club you really like.