Long Time Fav - Fire or Forget?

fire - show me a hot woman and I will show you a man sick and tired of fucking her

Is the problem basically that the relationship no longer seems to offer much in the way of interest or excitement, or are there other issues as well? Whether one is looking at it from the customer's perspective or the dancer's perspective, if the only real issue is a lack of excitement, is it really necessary for either party to "fire" the other? I mean, maybe one or both of you are feeling a bit bored with the status quo now, but could a little time apart possibly rekindle some excitement down the road???

I usually just drop contact but don't cut them off unless something really went haywire. One of my ATFs who I've been seeing OTC for years now was doing some things that were very annoying and screwing up some new talent prospects I was trying to develop, so after one of her drunk dials I stopped talking with her. But then I saw her a few months later and I remembered how she got to be an ATF. Maybe she goes back in the lineup. Maybe.

ClubFan I really think it becomes a matter of having done everything I can think of with Dancer A, but then even though it's getting stale she's still a top performer.

^ Maybe you and her can find a way to spice up the status quo??? :)

This is an important question for strip club regulars. I do not see the girls outside the strip club so it is easy to drop them by just going to another strip club. The few times I told a regular I wanted to skip lap dances with her for someone else I got a negative reaction, like having her glare at me or even making faces at me from the other side of the room later. Some of these girls really do see someone like me as a creepy old guy and fake friendliness to extract money from me. I am not going to try to make up with them if they are angry with me. I just do not care.

Sometimes, if I am not sure about a regular, I will just reduce the number of visits to her strip club and go to other ones. If no one is better at other strip clubs, I will increase my visits with her. Lately, I have been dropping my visits to strip clubs. I have been several hundred times over the last sixteen years and just do not get very excited these days about going to them.

Mostly just put them on the back burner. The one I got rid of pitched a fit and said I didn't care about her anymore. I just told her no, that's that.

I just ghost them. Go to other clubs. Go to her club but different day or time. If I accidentally run into her and she's like why didn't you tell me you're coming in, I'll say it was spur of the moment. They eventually get the hint.

Don't be rude...but also don't feel obligated to continue to engage with her. No sense in continuing to toss money into a mediocre experience. I posted a similar discussion a few months ago. These relationships become stale just as with civi encounters.

You would have to clarify how you define firing her and keeping her on the backburner… since youre paying for the encounter you can just not schedule/stop scheduling. I dont think you need to fire as in let her know you wont be seeing her- unless you want to see how she responds or if she offers you a lower rate.

It doesn’t really matter what you do- unless this chick also works at a club you go to, or if she knows other ladies you are seeing OTC or want to see OTC. In that case everything you do matters.

It's kind of like rewatching a TV series that you enjoy over and over. You know the plot and you know how it ends, but there's different parts that stand out each time through. Pretty much the show ends with this dancer getting fired every time. She's technically fired now lol. Maybe I'll just skip the doom loop this time and not put her back in my lineup. I pretty much stopped going to her club anyway.

I'll agree that dropping all contact or putting another club in the rotation is the way to handle most dancers when it's time, unless they've hit ATF status. I've already done that this year with a few girls who got their shot but didn't quite make the team. Cleaner that way. I'm still polite if I see them and vice versa, but they know we're done and don't try to mess with another girl's money. That's the way it supposed to work and usually works.

If I had it to do over again I'd still go through the trouble of making a ROB into my ATF of ATFs, but I knew it would be a problem if I ever got tired of her (mainly the BS that comes with her).

"No sense in continuing to toss money into a mediocre experience."

I agree. She's actually my All Time Favorite experience. But on the whole it just doesn't fit with where I'm at right now. That's why I kept it general. The playbook is still the playbook, I've just been calling an audible because it was the ATF.

Rather than fire, I simply have fun with others without officially cutting ties. Sometimes the fav wants to earn you back and it's a lot of fun for a bit. Sometimes not. Either way, it's good.

Fire. I almost feel bad but then I remember she charged me every time and that brought me back to reality.

On a related note - will the girl improve her service over time? Mostly, the answer is no. The fifth time is no better than the first. However, the high investment (hotels, dinner, planning, etc) remains the same, so the value goes down and can become a disincentive. Further, if the girl gets possessive, the relative cost to enjoy her company grows even higher because she's essentially cock-blocking you from others.

At some point, it's time to reduce OTC frequency or move on entirely. That's when I'll start declining her invitations and interweaving other girls. As her payoff for invested time gets leaner, she will sense to declining interest and naturally reduce her attempts and/or drift away.

If you want to keep them, breed them.

"As her payoff for invested time gets leaner, she will sense to declining interest and naturally reduce her attempts and/or drift away."

Yeah, that's usually the pattern. I'm probably trying to leave the ATF idling in the parking lot because if I let her anywhere near me she's going to suck n fuck my brains out. She's probably bored with me, too, but it pisses her off I'm spending money on girls who aren't her if I'm still in the game.

"On a related note - will the girl improve her service over time? Mostly, the answer is no."

I usually know by the third time OTC what the ceiling is. Sometimes the first time is off the charts, especially if it took a while to make it happen. A lot of the time it's hot but something or other could've been better. By the third go (which means the first and second were good enough to meet up again) if there's genuine chemistry that's when it's going to come through. If the third time hits right then I've seen it get better (if it's not already at peak). Peak OTC I'm fine with repeating. I'm even ok with the occasional meh session if most of the times it's ATF worthy.

"If you want to keep them, breed them."

I dunno. There's a girl I'm going to wait about a year to check in with because the cumshot was a little light the last time we were together lol.