I might as well state that I am relatively new to SCing and mongering. Started around January 2024.
Became a regular at a particular club last summer, at one point I was there just about every Saturday.
Through a process of trial and era, I now go by what I call the Three Time Rule.
If I tip three times, and after those three times, she doesn't come over and introduce herself, offer a dance, etc, that valve gets shut the fuck off, I will no longer tip or even say anything to her.
After I have tipped multiple times, and a dancer ignores me, I'm more than willing to return the favor, reciprocal energy.
One dancer that I've put the three time and ignore rule on is sexy, slender, and has a goth appearance.
I had even masturbated to her picture before I had ever met her, so I thought this is someone I want to keep my eye on and hope to get something going with.
Tipped her multiple times (3) ,and the only verbal interaction we've had is I told her "It looks like you're levitating when you do that," and she said "Thank you."
That was it, never even tried to talk her again after that.
Disappointing.
Like I said, I became a regular at this club, though I now haven't been back in months.
I would see her looking at me, checking me out, but she would never approach.
Does anyone else work with the three time rule or a similar strategy?
Sometimes I second guess myself and think maybe there is a more even more proactive way to go about this.
I usually don't do any approaching. I let the money do the talking, which has warranted results many times for me.
Any thoughts?
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last commentIf you like her, just go talk to her. Believe it or not, some girls that do this are actually shy or socially awkward. Some girls never approach customers. Maybe she is new to dancing. You never know. Give it a shot!
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When you tip you should be clear and tell her you’d like for her to join you, if that doesn’t happen on the first try then she’s not going to join you on a second or third attempt either. Better rule you should follow is the NYC bus stop, dont run trying to catch the bus, there’ll be another bus coming in 15 minutes.
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Life's to short to tip and wait! I agree with @pachomp's suggestion that one should seize the day and approach.
If his suggestion doesn't vibe for you, you can always tip a host/hostess or waitress a few bucks and ask them to invite your favorite to join you.
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Being in a ckub doesn't make you a regular. How much are you tipping and interacting with the staff and girls?
Why dont you just ask for a dance when you tip her?
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Dancers have preferences in customers just as customers have preferences in dancers.
Tip her once and tell her you’d like a dance. If you meet her profile, she’ll visit you eventually.
There is no point in tipping more than once. Ever.
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I dont tip. I just tell them to come over.
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The answer to everything that you want that you don't ask for is no, so what can you lose by asking?
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I always approach the dancers I want. Most of the girls I like are foreign latinas who barely speak English and probably hate approaching guys. Unless she’s waiting for a regular she’d would be crazy to turn down a client who approaches her.
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How much were you tipping her each of the 3 times?
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You dont need to tip to buy dances. You can just ask her if she wants to dance.
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I don't believe dancers have customer "types". Its about if they think youll spend or not. Girls are selling their time. Its what they think its worth
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I generally am proactive and clear.
I'll ask her to join me if that's what I want. I may do it while she's sitting alone or with her stripper friends without including a tip, I may do it while tipping her on stage. It depends on the circumstance. If she doesn't come over after I've asked, but I still enjoy her stage show, I've got no qualms about tipping again.
There absolutely does come a point where I'll take the hint that she's not interested in entertaining me. To paraphrase a brilliant sentiment made by a former regular poster: I'll beg for pussy, and I'll pay for pussy; but I won't beg to pay for pussy.
There's all sorts of factors that go into how much effort I'll put in or how quickly I'll get the hint. An absolute knockout who seems fun and responsive, but just seems busy is gonna get a good bit of slack. I'm not gonna waste time on a girl who is just hot enough, seems kinda bratty, and goes off and sits alone.
If you want my honest opinion, I'd guess you creeped her out. You told us you jerked off to her picture, it sounds like you kinda stare and watch her while you're at the club, and tip without saying anything. You don't gotta be romeo, but you gotta see how you could come off a bit creepy.
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Girls don't mind creepy as long as hes paying enough. Theres a club in vegas with legendary creeps like fingering Phil and the guy who comes at the end of day shift and pays to lick dirty shoes
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Your rule is a special case of a general one: don't keep doing the same thing and expect a different outcome. If you tip her and she doesn't come over:
I've never been a big tipper (or drink buyer). If I find a dancer attractive, I'll ask her for dance before the conversation gets one minute old. And I don't expect her to sit with me after the dances. Fortunately, I've always found clubs with dancers I liked, and who were satisfied with that.
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By Saturday do you mean Saturday night, packed club? Honestly that's the worst time to get a dancer's attention and even if you do the service is generally worse.
Anyways these dancers who are ignoring you after you tip clearly aren't interested in selling you dances.
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Look at the other customers in the club that get dancers to come over to them. Do what they are doing. Are they tipping or are they doing something else like going up and talking?
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They wont automatically know you want dances just because youre tipping on stage. Some guys do that because tbey dont want to spend on dances. Or some guys just come to clubs to stage watch and not get dances.
The tactic of tipping a girl for her attention, was something some guys did at extremely busy clubs. They would tip her a $20 or even more to get her attention and try to get to the front of the line for dances.
Regarding iceys story of the guy licking shoes, he probably made that up
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^ you never know. I knew a stripper (who I believed) that said a guy would come in once every few weeks and pay her twice the going rate for a VIP session to scratch is back until he bled and pinch his nipples. That was all he wanted.
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If you’re three time rule works for you it’s fine I guess. I definitely cut bait if I don’t get an “I’m willing” vibe but I don’t bounce on a girl I’m interested in without getting her response to a very direct statement from me telling her I’m interested.
Tip at stage, ask her if she’s feeling to join me. If I get zero after a time or two, then I bounce. Not a rule. More art than science.
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“Your” 3 time rule. Since we now have a grammar thread.
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Ask if “free” to join me. Dammit.
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