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Fraysexual TUSCLers?

Mate27

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https://apple.news/ANnXy1NNiQ7eCZB85DQqQ…

I know it’s HuffPost, so not newsworthy. It does the job of labeling a lot of us, maybe.

Do you often find that when you’re attracted to someone, they are a stranger to you and the more you get to know somebody, the less attracted you are to them, even if they haven’t done anything in particular to make you feel that way? You could be what’s known as, ‘Fraysexual.’
Fraysexuality is often described as being the opposite of demisexuality. Demisexual people can only get aroused with people who they have a deep connection with. Both demisexual and fraysexual sexualities fall onto the asexual spectrum.

Dr. Edward Ratush, Board Certified Psychiatrist, sex therapist, and co-founder of SOHOMD, explained that fraysexuality “falls under the umbrella of the asexual spectrum because of the specific aversion a fraysexual individual will have toward sexual contact with their most intimate partner. Simply stated, the more a fraysexual person is emotionally connected with their intimate partner the less they are inclined to have overt sexual desire for this partner.”
Though, it is important to note that fraysexual people don’t always necessarily identify as asexual and the term asexual is used as an umbrella one that fraysexual falls under.

Signs that you may be fraysexual
According to Dr Ratush, you might be fraysexual if:
You lose sexual interest with a long-term partner
You find yourself craving romantic stability and connection with a partner, despite the decline in sexual attraction
You have a high interest in new experiences 
Your sexualinterest is unstable
You find maintaining sexual desire challenging
There is a disconnect between emotional and physical attraction