Extras Vs Cuddling and Company
Dustyhawkins
So this discussion is about the strip club and the girls and what we come for. I know most people go to strip clubs obviously for the girls and to get aroused or see some sex appeal, get some slight action in lap dance, over the pants, when a lap dance, when the girl is really good and it's basically like sex with clothes on, extras, whatever the reason you come for that's cool, we all have our different ways. But majority is obviously for the girl and to get some pleasure and release or whatever
Anyway about me today is that I'm into different stuff now, I discovered a different side to the strip club. Like before I used to be like that, only come to the strip club for the sexual attraction and the attractive girl or the hots or to get a good dance or extras or whatever. I used to treat the strip club like a place to just come in have fun get your food time, whatever you wanted from the girl. I would ignore everything else ignore lap dances, ignore talking, I would only be focused on the hottest girl and getting the best satisfaction in the vip and extras, I used to be like that straight to the point. Ignore the stage show, the dancers, not care about anything else, but recently I'm not like that anymore
I changed, I mean that stuff and VIP dance or additional stuff is nice don't get me wrong, maybe I'm just putting it aside for a good while, or just leaving it for a bit. But now I'm more interested in the actual girl itself, talking to her being sweet together and cute, enjoying each other's company. I really love petite skinny girls they're so adorable and easy to handle how they're small, they're fun to talk to and easy to get along with. I just like nice sweet strippers now who care and are respectful. In the dances or vip now I just enjoy a regular dance or if she sits on my lap or we cuddle hold each other or kiss on cheek or whatever. I honestly find that more nicer and pleasing, you feel the love and experience more time together.
And I know some of you will disagree of course saying that's not what the strip club is for, you shouldn't be seeking affection or making it into too much that's not what it's for. You know what who gives a crap what anyone says. Everyone has their own way for the strip club, you can make it into whatever you want it to be. You can go their just for the fun and extras, just for small lap dances, just to watch the stage show, to make friends, to cuddle, kiss, to actually pick up the stripper, just to talk, just to have a beverage and enjoy the scene, it's whatever you make it, your not forced to go for the hottest girl and only go after the VIP or straight up stuff.
Also with this way that I do it it's easier and the strippers honestly love me for it, cause not all do extras, so when I say I just want a regular dance or to hold each other and be close cuddle whatever they love it they're like that's cute I like how your cool and awesome like this. It's easier for them since extras stuff can be a lot for someone to be willing to do, regular danfe and affection or kisses or cute stuff is easy for them they're nore willing, it's even less than a dance. Cause a dance is still giving off some grinding and dry hump like, the affection and just sitting on lap or hugging embracing each other is even less work.
And yes I know I keep saying this but you can call me weird all you want or a douche, but we all enjoy what we want whatever makes us happy. I just find this way better I enjoy the girl more, her company, love, cuddling, kissing. Extras and all that other stuff maybe I'd come back it's still on the table, but now it just feels like too much like you go through a lot and it's a lot of work. I just like having conversations with the dancer and laughing, talking, having simple dances, comforting each other all that. How do you guys think of this, like it's not always about sex, sometimes you just wanna chill with the girl and enjoy other things. Do you guys also like this way or see the girl like that sometimes
Anyway about me today is that I'm into different stuff now, I discovered a different side to the strip club. Like before I used to be like that, only come to the strip club for the sexual attraction and the attractive girl or the hots or to get a good dance or extras or whatever. I used to treat the strip club like a place to just come in have fun get your food time, whatever you wanted from the girl. I would ignore everything else ignore lap dances, ignore talking, I would only be focused on the hottest girl and getting the best satisfaction in the vip and extras, I used to be like that straight to the point. Ignore the stage show, the dancers, not care about anything else, but recently I'm not like that anymore
I changed, I mean that stuff and VIP dance or additional stuff is nice don't get me wrong, maybe I'm just putting it aside for a good while, or just leaving it for a bit. But now I'm more interested in the actual girl itself, talking to her being sweet together and cute, enjoying each other's company. I really love petite skinny girls they're so adorable and easy to handle how they're small, they're fun to talk to and easy to get along with. I just like nice sweet strippers now who care and are respectful. In the dances or vip now I just enjoy a regular dance or if she sits on my lap or we cuddle hold each other or kiss on cheek or whatever. I honestly find that more nicer and pleasing, you feel the love and experience more time together.
And I know some of you will disagree of course saying that's not what the strip club is for, you shouldn't be seeking affection or making it into too much that's not what it's for. You know what who gives a crap what anyone says. Everyone has their own way for the strip club, you can make it into whatever you want it to be. You can go their just for the fun and extras, just for small lap dances, just to watch the stage show, to make friends, to cuddle, kiss, to actually pick up the stripper, just to talk, just to have a beverage and enjoy the scene, it's whatever you make it, your not forced to go for the hottest girl and only go after the VIP or straight up stuff.
Also with this way that I do it it's easier and the strippers honestly love me for it, cause not all do extras, so when I say I just want a regular dance or to hold each other and be close cuddle whatever they love it they're like that's cute I like how your cool and awesome like this. It's easier for them since extras stuff can be a lot for someone to be willing to do, regular danfe and affection or kisses or cute stuff is easy for them they're nore willing, it's even less than a dance. Cause a dance is still giving off some grinding and dry hump like, the affection and just sitting on lap or hugging embracing each other is even less work.
And yes I know I keep saying this but you can call me weird all you want or a douche, but we all enjoy what we want whatever makes us happy. I just find this way better I enjoy the girl more, her company, love, cuddling, kissing. Extras and all that other stuff maybe I'd come back it's still on the table, but now it just feels like too much like you go through a lot and it's a lot of work. I just like having conversations with the dancer and laughing, talking, having simple dances, comforting each other all that. How do you guys think of this, like it's not always about sex, sometimes you just wanna chill with the girl and enjoy other things. Do you guys also like this way or see the girl like that sometimes
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whatever you want out of your SC experience, obviously within reason, is precisely what’s right. It’s your money, it’s your limited spare time, it’s your individual pursuit of what makes you happy, go take that spare time to get what makes you happy. As far as other PLs that are focused on extras, that’s what is right for them. And if I read a bit of the intention of your post correctly, there’s no need for validation regarding what you do now. There may be others who will say ‘what are you crazy!’. I’ve never met someone who has found a true reasonable level of peace/happiness who also insists that others have to do things their way.
BOL
Dude, I’m glad you enjoy your PLuppy Love approach. Let’s talk in a couple years and see where you are with it.
Most guys can't maintain a string enough wall when they get into this type of interaction.
1) Tell us about the female you looked at that produced your 1st erection.
2) Tell us about your 1st wet dream. What was the scenario like ?
3) Did you take a stuffed teddy bear to bed as a child ? If so, at what age did you stop taking bear to bed ?
Absent this information, I don't think we can provide you with a cogent/meaningful response. I just realized that your initials corresponds with "dickhead". Are you a dickhead IRL ? Could that be the reason that you encounter rude strippers that extort tips from you ?
Also, trim down you posts FFS.
Where do you guys learn all these terms and abbreviations and slang.
It makes the job harder, but many strippers are introverts. The ones who are would probably rather give you a good grind than do GFE roleplay. (GFE = Girl Friend Experience).
My PSA for the night: "FFS"= For Fuck's Sake.
I should have included in my first response a bigger disclaimer of caution than “within reason”. Disclaimer: an attractive female who will 100% act the part possesses the hack to breech a man’s firewall most especially if he’s in the slightest of life crisis. So yes, go get what makes you happy but never forget she sees you only as a conduit to your money. It’s her job requirement to have no compunction to get all your money as quickly as possible. If she was concerned with that then there’s really no way she could be a stripper. Never! forget that. BOL…
Do whatever makes you happy. I have a neighbor who has an expensive sports car that will go 200 mph. All he ever wants to do is to pull it out of his garage every Sunday, fiddle around with it and shine it up. If he ever does drive it, he’ll rarely get out of 3rd gear or over 35 mph.
But usually I give when the girl is nicer and sweet, I know it may seem like that won't work, but I like it cause I'm like wow she's not like the others, or when she's just good naturally and goes above and beyond and doesn't expect any tip or never asks for anything then I'm like damn she's different i feel like i want to give her something from my own will just for being good like this.
He tipped me well, too.