Likely Last TJ Trip for A While

I appreciate your honesty. Neither V or C works for my ED either. Probably has to do with my pre-diabetes.
Yep, keeping in shape is key to a lot of things. Although I can still blow a load without getting hard - good for strip clubs, a boner is so nice to have!

You’re going after both sides (better physical shape, reduce mental stress) but you didn’t mention an important aspect of the mental: hormone.
see a urologist (important: choose one that understands and will work with hormone, one that isn’t just reading a number but considering symptoms). Your testosterone level may be 500 ng/dl, “oh you’re good, that’s normal”. Don’t accept that, testosterone bioavailability is a different animal. A semi modest jump can make a substantial difference. Also look at other hormones that may interfere, estradiol too high or two low.
Nothing is certain but dialed in hormone levels may be the biggest of help. BOL…

Hey no matter how awesome something is, if you do it enough sometimes it becomes a little boring.

Here’s to getting your health back on track. That can change a lot of things for you aside from the ED but it’s hard work to be successful at it - I know you can do it if you set aside some goals and stick with it!

Nicky, good point about diabetes. I am a diabetic as well and got high blood pressure too. Could be the medications I'm using are affecting my performance - definitely something I need to talk with my doctor about.

Brahma, also thinking testosterone levels could be a problem as well. Like your suggestion for an urologist.

I'm well into my 40s now and my dick don't work like it used to. The single thing that makes a lasting difference for me, is good cardio. If you can't man a jump rope or go on a jog for at least 30 mins, you are going to eventually turn into a sweating, limp pile of sadness right in the middle of the act. It's one of those things you don't notice as much at the club, where you tend to just sit there while she does most all of the work.

It’s been a number of years since I’ve had weight issues never had sugar or pressure issues nor have any experience with ed, diet will help you, but if you’re looking to make progress permanent you need to add exercise, and every day, I’m not talking about being a gym rat, swimming, and walking are what I do, minimum of 3 miles walking a day, and about an hour a day swimming when the weather allows. Good luck to you hope you are successful, I promise you’ll feel better if you put in the effort.
It’s been at least seven years for me and the exercise has become a habit, I can’t imagine not exercising every day no matter where I am or what I’m doing.

^ I meant to add that as I turned 70 my health is better than when I was in my late 50s.

Several suggestions. Drink plenty of water, work on a healthy diet and get 7-9 hours of sleep Every night, 7 if less active 9 if very active. Also exercise is very important and walking is simple and effective. My brother has similar issues to you and I'm convinced his unhealthy lifestyle is the reason. I wish you the best of luck

I assume you realize that you don't need a boner to satisfy a sex worker, just money and politeness. Many things are not as good, for various reasons, as we get older. Some people age better than others, but only so much you can do to control that. Because a big source of fun has become a source of less fun, that's not automatically a reason to give it up.

FS sex workers who try to get you to nut fast, in hopes of cutting your time short, are the ones who won't like it if you don't get a boner. I don't know how much you encounter that in TJ.

^ I believe it’s wall to wall pussy there, kinda like the carpet in my house.

opillini... I have my challenges too.

Great comments. Good to know that I am not alone. Friday I start a four-day trip. Three in TJ and one in Mexicali. Like many here, I have ED and health issues. The pills help me a little bit, but it can be a struggle. These days a minimum of an hour is necessary to have a satisfying experience (and that gets expensive). Having ATFs that understand that I am going to be slow and my favorite things to do en la cama helps and is a good reason for cultivating them.

I exercise daily, but age is a bitch. It takes me all night long to do what I used to do all night long.

Please forgive my ignorance....when one has ED, you still have sexual drive, but not the ability to get hard for long enough time?

Its a catchall term. Taking too long to cum and cumming too quick are both ED. Just means something is not right

@funontheside
Here’s what I know: it can be both. A hard one involves mechanics/hydraulics as well as the mental/sex drive aspect. Either one or both can be the issue. Very sadly, not funny, as young as late 20s not having had a hard one in numerous months. Brutal.
From the hydraulic aspect, this is often blood circulation but can also be nerve damage, other. If it is physical blood circulation, Viagra and other types specifically help this potentially a lot. But if it is Nerve damage or specific ailments, it gets much more complicated to resolve.
For mental/sex drive, there’s only two things I’ve seen that can do anything. First is targeting general health: reducing stress, mental health, sleep, diet, body condition. All of these have the potential to make a difference. Second and imho the biggest impact is hormone levels. Generally if you increase your testosterone level you will increase the sex drive(the impetus for the hydraulics). Generally, to get a good benefit, a man needs to bump up to 800 ng/dl minimum. Increased testosterone has the real possibility of making this difference: he walks into a grocery store, looks around and says “wow there is a lot of eye candy in here today” except there isn’t. Its the same girls there that have been there every time he’s gone there the last year. This is the difference it can make.

I was in TJ for three days last week. Can’t wait to get back.

Good luck bouncing back to OP

@OPIllini96

I will play along and comment on your discussion.

You wrote and I quote:

“Yes, I have ED, and neither Cialis nor Viagra help”

In my humble opinion it is mostly in your head; because you also wrote:

“Also may see a psychologist about my sexual anxiety.”

The reality is that, just like men, women have a natural and healthy desire to be sexual. Yet American Puritanical influenced society encourages women and men to push their sexual desires down.

The influence of the American Oversexualized & Sexually Repressed culture is Big all over the word.

All you have to do is to be physically mentally, emotionally, environmentally healthy to “cure” your “illness” ED.

Sex is just like breathing and eating something that living organisms do.

Having healthy sex is about taking care of yourself, whether you are alone or with someone.

Having a “healthy sex life” requires knowing what your body really wants to do sexually and being able to clearly communicate that to your “sex partner” (bar girl, exotic dancer, stripper, escort, wife, mistress, girlfriend, sugar baby, etc etc etc)

And of course good communication will help you and your partner respect your wishes and feelings.

Like I said it is mainly in your head, but of course you should have a healthy body to go along with a healthy mind.

it is essential to have a healthy diet with fresh fruits and vegetables with some healthy meat with no processed foods, a good active life, walking 30 minutes to an hour daily, stretching and doing exercise appropriately and most important to have a good night sleep.

Sex is just like eating and breathing; a natural process for living organisms in order to survive successfully.

“Nothing in life is to be feared…
It is only to be understood.”

~ Maria Salomea Skłodowska-Curie
~ Born 7 November 1867 Warsaw, Congress Poland, Russian Empire
~ Died 4 July 1934 Passy, Haute-Savoie, France