Advice for VIP/private dancing

16 comments

• Mike Rotch

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  a year ago

  I like when strippers grind their knee against my crotch. Nothing too forceful, just a slow sensual kneejob. Soft up and down motion. Don't put your weight on it or you'll crush the beans.
• Muddy

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  a year ago

  Honestly be nice. I'm there to relax and unplug. I'm not there to deal cunty bullshit. Low hustle is better. High hustle robots I stay away from, huge turn off. Be nice, pleasant smiling, not negative and bitchy/mean/nasty. I'm not saying be a pushover, stand up for yourself and don't deal with abuse but if a customer doesn't give you a reason there's no need for the bullshit. I don't think a lot of customers verbalize this, they just don't comeback.
• Tetradon

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  a year ago

  Depends on the dancer. For example, so many dancers have asked if I prefer tits or ass, and it depends on the dancer. Whatever he prefers, lead with that. I like a lot of grinding, front and back. Tits, pussy, and ass. A mix of speeds. Sometimes like you're trying to make me LDK, sometimes slow and sensual. Never get repetitive or predictable. I'm a sucker for the moans, licking and nibbling my earlobe, running your fingernails down my body. I want to feel like a feral beast back there, because if I were fucking you as a GF, that's how I'd do it. Not sure what you call "extras" but I love kissing and sucking tits. I don't consider those extras, while fingering is right on the line. +1 for Muddy's "be nice." If you get some newb saying "I think she really likes me," you've got game.
• Elitis

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  a year ago

  More or less what Muddy said. Be someone I could see myself bullshitting with outside the club had I not met you there. Low hustle, non-pushy, and be real. Not a fan of fake moaning or pretending you're super into me. One of my favorites in Chicago actually told me I wasn't "bad-looking". Something as simple as that made me like her a little bit more beyond what she looked like. As for dances, ehh, personally there isn't much you can do for me. I like having tits in my face and a nice ass grinding on my you-know-what as much as the next guy, but if I know I'm not going to be hooking up with you, there's only so much I can enjoy.
• funonthaside

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  a year ago

  Position me between your ass cheeks and move up and down while I smack your ass, until I LDK.
• funonthaside

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  a year ago

  And a bit of Russian is an added bonus.
• Mike Rotch

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  a year ago

  Also, no nipple play. And I'm talking about the guy's nipples. I've had a few dancers who thought it was a good idea to pull on my nipples or pinch them. Gotta say..... not a fan.
• funonthaside

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  a year ago

  Regarding nipple play....maybe don't refrain from doing that, but instead ease into it. Some guys hate it, while others get turned on by it. Perhaps start by light touching/rubbing of the nipples, and gauge the reaction. If he pushes away, then go no further. If there is no resistance, get a bit more aggressive with it. Some guys are into it. It seems that one challenge dancers face is that guys have different preferences. One guy gets annoyed when nipples are pinched, while another thinks she doesn't do it hard enough. This same concept applies to many topics/actions. Dancing is as much a mental game as it is a physical game. Dancers, throughout a shift, must float from guy to guy, each with a different personality and interest. Overall, the point is that a dancer should attempt to match her actions/approach to the perceived focus/intention of a guy. Some guys go to clubs to be aggressively groped and grinded by the girls, while others go for social interaction. And, a guy may change between these goals from one visit to the next.
• DeclineToState

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  a year ago

  A slow sensual grind. And no bouncing!
• Ruby3456

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  a year ago

  @decline - that's my style even on stage. Sensual
• DeclineToState

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  a year ago

  ^That's exactly how I target girls I want to get dances with. My experience is a sensual stage show tends to translate to sensual dances and room experiences. Not every time, but overwhelming majority.
• wallanon

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  a year ago

  "What would make it interesting and want you coming back to the same dancer?" If I find her interesting. Sexy women are not a rarity where I club. "Don't say extras." Don't ask questions and try and dictate the answers? We like it when dancers post, so I'll just leave it at that. "What types of moves? Styles? I don't want to do the same thing over and over." I'm not that particular. Just know how to shift your weight around and don't crush my balls. I'm not that into "sensual" unless a woman might actually go through with it lol. "I enjoy being sensual, soft with some slutty in a classy way." I'm way more into slutty than into classy with my dancers, but think entertainers should stick to what they're comfortable with that helps them earn.
• bang69

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  a year ago

  Full contact.
• Alexfox

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  a year ago

  I’m very positively impressed when a dancer’s tits get hard and stay hard for a while. Of course, I do what I can to facilitate that.
• 5footguy

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  a year ago

  Supple but firm, not hard, contact. Not claiming anyone is ignorant, but look up "supple" to really get the sense of it. This best describes what I like. Do not bounce too hard on my dick, it actually is exhausting and stressful. Grind, yes, destroy, no. No air dances. Stick shift at will. I know that almost all dancers will do VIP. So, don't mention VIP until at least the 3rd dance. If you mention it without really doing anything yet, I'll assume your VIP experience will be mechanical and bad. Pressure to do VIP especially when I'm already going to do it is not good. As for moves/positions: I like it when the dancer leans across my body, with her head near mine and her ass right in front of me.
• ilbbaicnl

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  a year ago

  The number one thing is she's got to take a break from her personal issues while in the couch room. Not brood overt them, or mull over them. If she wants a shoulder to cry on, I'm up for that while hanging at a table (up to a point). I actually prefer a dancer who's passive. I accept she has to pull away or block me if I'm about to do something she's not OK with. I move slowly to make sure she has time to do it. I know she can't read minds, and may try moves other PLs like. But she should pay attention to how I react, and see it's not my thing. Strippers should be realistic that no woman is going to look good (or bad) to all PLs. If strong attraction isn't there, slim to no chance making him a regular, even with all the right moves. I keep it in my pants in strip clubs, I prefer escorts for that sort of thing. Nice when she's OK with kissing on the mouth/nipples. A few times, she's had a orgasm (or faked to an Oscar-deserving level) from nipple and/or clit stimulation. Which is nice. I've never cum from grinding, just generally not my thing. One Cuban got so much pre-cum out of me (without grinding), it was the one and only soak-through problem I've ever had. She had lived on a farm in Cuba, so fortunately had a tolerance for animal excretions. One of my favs (with pierced nipples) seemed to cum from nipple stimulation, I would do one hour VIPs with her. VIP was cheap at this rural club, $300 for an hour, so I tipped her $200. Even though we clicked in that way, she was never super friendly towards me. I later heard through the grape vine she had gotten married. I thought the orgasms were a nice extra tip, but maybe they were also upsetting, made her feel like she was cheating. Hard to know sometimes whether you're doing right or wrong.