Pride in Poverty
Book Guy
I write it like I mean it, but mostly they just want my money.
Wednesday, December 26, 2007 7:33 AM
In this festive season I think about financial disparity and the Bob Cratchitt's of the world. People who quite manage to put a nickel or a dime together to get a lapper. I feel for them. And it occurs to me, the question of poverty comes up a lot in strip club settings.
When I'm sitting in an average sports bar chatting with someone whom I've just met, it seldom happens that the other person -- or myself -- mentions that we've experienced very difficult circumstances, that we know what it means to have to do without, that we've eaten out of food banks or lived out of our car.
But when I'm sitting in a strip club it comes up at least once a night. Some girl wants me to think how hard her life has been. She lets me know that she's "figured out" that you have to look after yourself, you have to take hard knocks and survive them, you have to be able to roll with the punches, etc. etc.
I don't mean to say that I don't sympathize with someone who has genuinely had an economically deprived upbringing. It's, in fact, a classic Western story, rags-to-riches, or just rags-to-the-same-old-rags, and it's all too common in the USA (world's richest nation) that children are raised in essentially third-world circumstances. Sure, I'm sympathetic. Heck, I live in New Orleans. I deal with the homeless and needy daily. And I'm often without a job, wondering what I've done wrong THIS time to ruin my chances.
But I try not to whine about it. I know that I write a LOT about this sort of thing on the boards, but in "real" life I consider it rather inappropriate to talk about "how hard my life has been," especially not when you have to say it relative to other people in the room. If you start complaining ("I NEVER got a free cell phone from my daddy!") you might find yourself surprised at how well off you were relative to the other people ("I don't even KNOW my daddy.").
Why do strippers feel so free to inform all and sundry of how "bad off" they had it? Are they trying to convince themselves that they have a right to being more cut-throat than others? What's the subtle psychological connection?
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