BDSM in the club, what the what?!?

^ WTF, you didn't tell her to stop?

Scratching (her) and biting (me) are awesome with civvies, but SCs, even ITC extras, are not conducive.

I'll take vanilla.

No because apparently my dumbass told her I have no limit but didn't realized what I was consenting into...

Yeah not interested in any of that bullshit

My girl/ex once had a guy who asked her to stick the heel of her shoe down his throat. So she stepped in his mouth. He left in an ambulance. It freaked her out

Did blah go to Arizona? 😱

^If not, it sounds like she SHOULD! 😁

I had read that there was a BSDM oriented club in Fayetteville North Carolina. Didn't really sound like it was a strip club.

There is also a hostess dancing and hostess porno movie watching club in that metro.

SJG

^^^^ All three venues looked to have private session rooms.

Sounds like a fun metro!

SJG

Did some light mutual choking with a dancer. One night she had multiple large hickeys. Said another dancer had given them to her on stage on a previous night. Another dancer told me she'd said she got them from her boyfriend.

:) :) :)

Those sound like fun sex workers!

SJG

How do you explain the marks to your SO?

A cat attacked me!!!!!???? lol

I've only run into 2 types that upset me.

1. dancers that pinch my nipple too hard and I have to tell them to knock that shit off.

2. dancers that want me to smack their asses harder than I want to. I don't want to hurt them.

If you were in one of those basements in Berlin - where you hear the sound of leather snapping against human skin as you descend the cement stairs - that’s one thing.

But, if you are in an American strip club, and the dancer has access to ice and she starts to lube an electric butt plug - as you are strapped to a sturdy wooden chair - there’s no shame in screaming “Apricot!” like a girl. Even if you had not agreed to use apricot as your safe word - it should get someone’s attention.

I’ve done some crazy shit with civilians that was way over the line of most normal folks, but we discussed limits and stopping before we got started. That stuff is very different than anything that occurs in a strip club lap dance room.

A few years ago someone gave me a weird bracelet, but didn't tell me it's a way of signaling your a sub in the BDSM scene. For some reason, I decided to wear it to the club once. Big mistake. My right nipple will never be the same, after one dancer was done with it.

I once had a dancer who wanted to cut me and drink my blood. I think I ran from that dancer.

I don't get the choking thing. That's just fuckin weird.

I think cash’s description is way too detailed to be a hypothetical

I've done this more than a little in the last few years, from the top, not the bottom. Surprising how many strippers are actually turned on by a little light BDSM. Nothing extravagant of course; the ropes, whips, and clamps are reserved for OTC.

I've been slapped by many dancers.

Reminds me of that very old joke, that US soldiers who fought in Italy in WWII learned just enough Italian to get their faces slapped.

Were there any established safety words

I’m very careful to not go too far ITC - with any BD/SM activities. I understand the dancers are there as entertainers, and not as sex slaves (to recruit for an organization).

I’ve had several civilian women who love the real rough stuff. It’s important to agree to things in advance of any meet up. Chatting about real S&M stuff online is a huge difference than engaging in it.

That being said, I’ve only once had a dancer try something to dominate me ITC. I had to stop her immediately. Luckily we were in a VIP room so there was time to correct things and enjoy the rest of the session.

I went to a club once where a stripper had a tendency to take things a little too far.

First off, she kept taking my hat (baseball cap). I'm not sure why...but she kept taking my hat. At first it was just mildly annoying. But after the 10th time...and after her essentially stealing it and reappearing without it an hour or so later...it's kinda like, "hey, ***ch...can I get my property back before the place closes?"

But the real issue was her use of a belt on stage with a friend of mine. He was really into her...and they had this thing where you could lay on the stage with some money in your mouth and the stripper would take it out of your mouth with their tits. Well, this stripper would take it up a notch and undo your pants and rub your Johnson (outside your underwear) or maybe rub her face down there...whatever. She also thought it was entertaining to turn you over and spank your bare ass on the stage. Well, with my friend, she took his belt off and started really hitting him on his bare ass...pretty damn hard!

He ended up getting up, red in the face...and not from embarrassment...grabbing his belt...and walking back to our table. He spent the next 3-4 minutes grumbling and cussing about how pissed off he was and that he nearly punched her. He must have gotten over it...because he spent about 2 hours in the VIP room with her later that night...but, he wasn't kidding about punching her...he was pretty damn mad.

And no, I never got my hat back.