The awkward criticism moments

I had dancer approach a guy sitting next to me. She was chatting him up, etc., and he was enjoying it. I didn't hear what led up to it but I then heard her say, "Hey, I like you. I'm really into dad bods." I looked over at that moment, possibly because I felt the barometer drop a few degrees, and he had a look on his face that clearly communicated that he did not think he had a dad bod.

Anyway, I looked away quickly, because I suspect him knowing I heard her say that would only make him feel worse/angrier about it. After maybe three more sentences of banter he said, "So, I'm going to go tip the girl on stage. Have a good night."

One time I got the usual proposition by a dancer that I passed on. Then, I got a nice extras dance from a different dancer. When I asked her name, she said the name of the first dancer! I think she knew I was going to write about it... LOL

I've had dancers i was fucking fight over me. Talking shit about each other to me. One left the club eventually.

A friend beat up a girl she didn't like for talking to me.

I had an awkward moment talking shiy about a girl to someone she was friends with but didn't know. My problem was her getting too fucked up and stealing shit

Once had a dancer sitting with me while another was on stage and she kept comparing herself to the one dancing the whole time, it was a turn off. She was like maybe if I had an ass like her I’d be making more money etc. Her tone was pretty haterish. When she left to do VIP with someone I went with the dancer she was comparing herself to and when we met back up she said it made her jealous. It was just really weird and ruined my fantasy of all the dancers getting along wonderfully.

Really miss this one dancer that would sit with me and we would talk about who we thought were hot and what we liked when it came to women. She never had anything negative to say about any of the other girls and I loved that. I don’t think I would want someone sitting with me that just wanted to talk shit, I don’t need those vibes.

When I’m at work, I try not to look a dancers way, if she’s fat, beautiful, thin, tall I don’t care because paying attention to another dancer costs my money/energy.

I don’t like when customers talk about dancers to me, idc, idc. Talking about her is costing me time. And he’s probably gonna talk about me when I leave too.

I don’t talk about customers to other dancers. I’m paid to keep my mouth shut, unless he was an asshole n did something shitty. Which is rare.

I don’t talk to customers about patrons. If that patron hears me it could cost me money. I have some social posture I like to think and if it don’t make dollars it won’t make sense

This is a little different situation I encountered at a small club that I would visit on both day and night shifts. Dancer A only worked days. If she was there, she was always my first option. Dancer B was initially a night shift dancer but started to work a combo of day and night shifts. When A and B were both on day shift, B would never even look at me. Finally one night when I connected with B I asked about it. She told me that she and A never got along and she figured it would be better to not even approach me on days and create any drama.....and that she appreciated my regular night visits. Imagine that, maturity in a strip club!

I've had a couple of customers complain about the "club bitch" to me. How she won't even talk to them, and why I put up with her. Now, to be fair, she *is* a "bitch", in that she doesn't put up with too much bullshit, and she can spot a non-spender in moments.

Seems both custies and dancers are guilty of talking shit they should not be talking about – it’s a custy or dancer issue, more along the lines of what I’ve posted in the past that strip-clubs are not filled w/ the best society has to offer; not everyone in strip-clubs is a shitty-person but there are a lot of shitty people in them (and some clubs are worse than others) – any decent person, or anyone with “average intelligence”, should know it’s not correct to judge others; but there’s a lot of shitty people in strip-clubs and in society that either only care about themselves and don’t give a fuck about others, or are just too-stupid or not self-aware enough, or just grew up w/o proper values – in certain circles of our society being a shitty (or “hard”) person is seen as some kinda virtue and being a considerate person seen as some kinda defect.

I’ve never found any value in people talking bad about other people and putting down other people often just b/c they think “it’s funny” – the few instances a dancer or custy has tried to talk negatively about someone in the club (another custy or dancer) I either don’t engage (act as if I didn’t hear it) and at times I’ll just express an opposing opinion. At times I’ve been turned-off by dancers w/ critical-mouths and have not gone for dances w/ them where I would have o/w b/c I didn’t like their attitude/running-mouth-about-others.

Being a pale-skinned Cuban, most Cubana strippers think I’m a gringo – at times I’ve had Cubanas talking shit (among themselves) about custies while sitting next to me or close enough for me to hear them thinking I would not understand the un-nice things they were saying.

My ATF DS was a total alpha stripper and wouldn't hesitate to talk shit about someone, stripper or customer, if they were doing something stupid. And she was perceptive as all get out so she noticed everything. I got a lot of stories.

She'd easily point out if a stripper had an unflattering outfit on. Then if she was a baby stripper she would often constructively find a way to tell her directly how to fix it.

She was very tactful publicly but with me or her true stripper friends she might talk more shit and be more critical.

One dancer I really liked would always just go on and on about every dancer and employee in the club. I would just sip my drink and nod my head. I always wanted to say “I come hear to get away from drama, not to listen about yours.”

I've had dancers say things to me implying other dancers were giving BJ's in the back and I made a mental note to follow up with that girl.

I love when dancers talk smack about other people in the club I eat that shit right up. She did what? Daaaaaaamn.

For the past couple of weeks, I've been seeing a 25-year-old stripper OTC. Since I'm 67, this is quite a treat, but I'm having a hard time getting to know her. When I met her for the first time — inside the club — she knew several of the women I'd played with there, including the one I saw OTC for over a year...but she said none of the other dancers liked her. I couldn't figure it out, because she's friendly, chatty, upbeat. This week I was in her bed for the second time and I was still trying to get to know her. I asked if she liked girls and she said she wasn't attracted to them. I figured she must have at least had to do doubles inside the club with other girls, but she again said the other girls don't like her. As Raylan Givens once said, "If everybody you meet is an asshole, guess what? YOU'RE the asshole."
I'll continue to try to find out more why she feels so isolated at work. It doesn't jibe with the part of her personality I've seen.

I’ve learned that a non response works well for a lot of situations. I don’t generally care for cattiness and not responding at all sometimes ends it. But there are times when the critic just won’t shut up. I don’t have a solution for that other than to get away.

At a sc I was a day shift regular at years ago..had a window in the smoke area where you could see the PLs entering or leaving.

The dancers would sometimes share the nicknames of the pls as they were leaving.

One was called kitty litter because he always smelled like used cat box. I can't remember the rest but there were several.

I asked them what my nickname was and they adamantly assured me I didn't have one. Sure. I still wonder what my nickname was.