Went back to one of my regular clubs tonight. It was very slow at first. I didn't see my Favorite Essence or any of the other dancers I know. As the night went on, here comes Essence walking into the club in her street attire. She is wearing some tight white pants, with a black top and some high heels. I knew she probably wasn't working tonight because it was already late (around 11:00p.m.) and she usually gets there early. I was sitting at the bar when she walked by.
I didn't expect her to look over there because women automatically think that men are gawking over them when they walk by. After she had spoken with a few of her friends I got up and decided to speak to her. Now as I was walking towards her she was already looking in my direction, however she turned towards the end of the bar. I came over and spoke to her. We gave each other a hug. We chatted for only about 10seconds before she said that she would be right back, had someone else she had to speak with. I knew she wasn't coming back(They hardly ever do). She didn't really treat me bad in any kind of way but she didn't go out of her way to speak to a regular.
I am usually good at "feeling" a person out and I came to the conclusion that Essence is stuck on herself(To a certain extent). I could just tell from the way she walked through the bar that she carried this bit of arrogance in her. She is kind of cute but no where near a 10(about a 6 1/2). My favorite is just like any other young woman that you see at the mall or out somewhere, whom are dressed up and think that they have it going on. Yeah I will probably continue to get dances from her in the future, but now I know her real side. BTW I found another dancer whom might be my new favorite. SHe works at another club regularly but decided to come to my favoirte club since her club is kind of slow right now.
Perfect example of work being work and off time is an entirely different thing. Remember Jpac, she's your ATF DANCER...not ATF friend, ATF gfriend, or all time favorite anything else. And you found out tonight in no uncertain terms that you are not the light that makes her real life shine- this should not be a surprise. Guys keep learning this lesson over and over ad infinitum.
She may not be stuck on herself as you surmise- there are many other possibilities, not least of which are mentioned above. You didn't say how long she stayed on her visit to the club, but it may be that she did in fact have someone she had to speak to and that person was more important to her than you. Another possibility-- I knew a dancer once that used to come into her club late at night on her scheduled off days, just to see if any of her regulars were there "cheating on her" as she liked to say. She was drop dead gorgoeus and made a lot of money off of her regulars so she was very territorial when it came to other dancers "taking her money"...
Who the fuck knows what her motivation was-- at the end of the day, does it really matter? Next time she's working, just ask her. You may not get a straight answer but she'll probably come up with some good stripper shit that will make you feel better about getting blown off and you can go back to feeling better about this fantasy ATF "relationship" you've got working in your head...That's what I do...lol.