Single vs. Married friends
Muddy
USA
I’m at a super bowl party last night with some dude I know from work, invited me. I was like sure whatever. We are drinking and bullshiting. I’m thinking to my self, man if this dudes wasn’t married we could be fucking besties. Yeah I said besties. But it can’t work. It can never work. Unless he’s a total piece of shit like many TUSCLers then it just won’t work. The people that I want to surround myself with need to assist in the hunt for pussy. Not “Oh I got to be in bed by 6 tonight because well, you know, the old lady”
No bitch WE GOIN OUT!!!!!!!
What a disaster marriage is for fun. Any stories of y’all losing friends to this odd ritual?
No bitch WE GOIN OUT!!!!!!!
What a disaster marriage is for fun. Any stories of y’all losing friends to this odd ritual?
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I do realize marriage is happening later in life today than for a long time and there is a larger block of people who simply don't date in the 20's age range and maybe never will.
As for keeping activities separate there are more activities than not that it doesn't matter if your friends are married or not--sports related and work related stuff.
About ten years ago I had a group of guys that were all mongers and we tended to do things together that were centralized to being mongers and didn't mix with other parts of our lives but as the impact of social media got larger and the intelligence of the Internet increased for many it got a little scary.
I've thought about asking this question on here for some time and maybe it should be a separate conversation but how much of your life is spent inside a strip club or with a P4P relationship?
For me I doubt it is 20% in any category meaning not in time, effort, or money. I would think if it is for anyone (male) it would have a negative impact on your overall health and life in some way, shape or form.
That said, not easy to make friends when you're older, so if I can find a guy, married or not, PL or not, who is interested in going out once in a while to overpay for a great rye at a "mixology" bar with hot waitresses, hey, now he's my new bff. I have married buddies who I mostly just go out to eat with, get a few drinks with, or get together to watch the game with
So I would rather be in a committed relationship where you can count on someone being there for you over fickle party friends. Lame!
I don’t have any friends who are either married or with children. It’s not some sort of conscious selection either, it’s just how it happens. At least with those in their 20s. There is this one woman who is my current roommate who has children, but she’s in her 40s and I went to high school with her daughter. But I think in her mind I’m another one of her “children” rather than a friend. (even if, functionally, we deal with each other as equals)
You really need help from other dudes in order to hunt for pussy? It is a new breed of man indeed who needs to be surrounded by other sausages in order to get laid. ;)
But yes, marriage changes things a lot. Most married guys have many more life responsibilities than single dudes, especially when kids enter the picture, and cannot just run out the door whenever it suits them. This is called personal evolution. Now I'm sure I qualify for the "piece of shit" designation you seem to feel fits many married tusclers, but I too no longer have much in common with single guys. Family activities eat up most of the time I have left after work obligations, which leads to much more natural interactions with other married guys. So while I'm sure my former single friends didn't find my new lifestyle to be appealing, I didn't make much effort to keep them involved either as it's awkward to include random swinging dicks in activities that are really geared towards kids and their families.
@rick relax I say it with love.
I have a fair amount of friendly acquaintances but my group of what I consider true friends is small. Guys I've known for decades not just years. A couple are married, a couple are divorced, and one committed bachelor. We're spread out all of the United States now. but we all still stay in touch and a subset of us are always doing something together.
Now most of my friends are single but even the ones who monger are not my type of mongers, so i usually do it solo.
Ironically, my married friends are the ones who live vicariously through me and suggest we club once in a while but they are ones who bail out first.