Taking a special needs dude to a club?
grand1511
Euphoria
Thought I'd throw this out there for feedback from the group. There's a young man in my neighborhood with some type of mental disability, I'm not exactly sure what, that I've befriended over the last couple years. He turned 30 this month. I was unable to attend the big party his family members threw to mark the day, but tonight I'm treating him to dinner at his favorite spot to celebrate.
He actually lives on his own with help from care aids who visit a few times a week to keep his place neat. His folks oversee his finances. He can't drive but has a number of part-time jobs. He's extremely social and regularly goes out to the bars and knows how to have a good time. Often when we're out together he talks about how he really wants to have a girlfriend.
Part of me thinks it would be sweet to treat him to a couple lap dances at a nice club after dinner tonight. I know he appreciates a fine looking woman, and I really doubt he's ever had intimate contact with a woman. But something in the back of my head keeps saying this might not be so smart.
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He actually lives on his own with help from care aids who visit a few times a week to keep his place neat. His folks oversee his finances. He can't drive but has a number of part-time jobs. He's extremely social and regularly goes out to the bars and knows how to have a good time. Often when we're out together he talks about how he really wants to have a girlfriend.
Part of me thinks it would be sweet to treat him to a couple lap dances at a nice club after dinner tonight. I know he appreciates a fine looking woman, and I really doubt he's ever had intimate contact with a woman. But something in the back of my head keeps saying this might not be so smart.
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On the one-hand it could be something he really enjoys and may somewhat fill a void in his life.
OTOH - IDK how safe an environment that would be for someone somewhat mentally-challenged - i.e. IDK if he would be able to defend himself from the possible shark-attacks and if he would even know/notice he was being ROBed/SSed - if you were able to walk him thru it to where he could understand the game and be able to not be taken advantage off, then it may be something that he enjoys but if he's unable to distinguish it for what it is then perhaps not the place for him - I guess it would depend on how challenged he is.
One option perhaps would be if he never went alone and went w/ someone that would control the $$$ for him - my concern would be he being on his own, whether going by himself once he realizes he likes it; or going w/ someone else but wondering off on his own in the club and being taken advantage off.
Bottom line, I'd probably not suggest it but if he brought it up I don't know that I'd deny him.
Serious note - not sure that’s a good idea. What about testing the waters by taking him to a breastaurant for a beer first?
The only way he should go then is w/ someone else that understands how strip-clubs work - but if he's somewhat independent and goes and comes as he pleases then there'd be a danger in him going by himself after being introduced to this most-seducing of hobbies
You should just get him a hooker for a one on one if you want to do something nice for him.
If you can find him an honest dancer (what an oxymoron) who won't take advantage and he comes in to see only her it should be OK. If there is a manager you trust you might think about enlisting his/her assistance, especially should he make future visits without you.
He may not be able to handle himself properly or worse the young lovelies might lead him to believe they care for him which would break his bank and heart rather quickly.
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As for the OP, I think that is very much on a case-by-case basis. There are plenty of customers who function at a “special needs” level anyways. Hooray alcohol
It could make him happy in the moment, but it may ruin him afterwards. I say don't expose him to the world of strip clubs. Happiness can be found in a variety of different hobbies and activities. Fishing, theme parks, concerts, arcades, go-karting, hiking, video games, the movies, biking....etc
I’d strongly recommend against it.
^^^^^^^ Tell da truth 2bits u were lookin in the mirror when u said that now go finish urself off n join ur sleepin with the worms butt bro vincie u #POS!
dougster
You’re not pretty enough to be that dumb.