Taking a special needs dude to a club?
Thought I'd throw this out there for feedback from the group. There's a young man in my neighborhood with some type of mental disability, I'm not exactly sure what, that I've befriended over the last couple years. He turned 30 this month. I was unable to attend the big party his family members threw to mark the day, but tonight I'm treating him to dinner at his favorite spot to celebrate.
He actually lives on his own with help from care aids who visit a few times a week to keep his place neat. His folks oversee his finances. He can't drive but has a number of part-time jobs. He's extremely social and regularly goes out to the bars and knows how to have a good time. Often when we're out together he talks about how he really wants to have a girlfriend.
Part of me thinks it would be sweet to treat him to a couple lap dances at a nice club after dinner tonight. I know he appreciates a fine looking woman, and I really doubt he's ever had intimate contact with a woman. But something in the back of my head keeps saying this might not be so smart.
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last commentAbsolutely not. I am the father of a special needs son. I would be horrified if someone did that to him. He could become very confused by the attention. And you could potentially teach him actions that he might try in the real world. Just not a good idea for a lot of reasons.
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Tough call.
On the one-hand it could be something he really enjoys and may somewhat fill a void in his life.
OTOH - IDK how safe an environment that would be for someone somewhat mentally-challenged - i.e. IDK if he would be able to defend himself from the possible shark-attacks and if he would even know/notice he was being ROBed/SSed - if you were able to walk him thru it to where he could understand the game and be able to not be taken advantage off, then it may be something that he enjoys but if he's unable to distinguish it for what it is then perhaps not the place for him - I guess it would depend on how challenged he is.
One option perhaps would be if he never went alone and went w/ someone that would control the $$$ for him - my concern would be he being on his own, whether going by himself once he realizes he likes it; or going w/ someone else but wondering off on his own in the club and being taken advantage off.
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I think it really depends on where he is mentally. Strip clubs can fool relatively well adjusted and intelligent folks into feeling a certain way and making some poor decisions. Others are able to understand the nature of the club and have a good time and go home. Not knowing the guy, I think its much harder for us to predict how he'll handle it. The club probably matters too. Depending on his capabilities he may be better off in a mellow joint where for a few bucks he can get a cutie to sit on his lap and maybe give him a table dance and a flirty convo. Or he may be better off in a place with a nice stage show and very limited actual direct interaction.
Bottom line, I'd probably not suggest it but if he brought it up I don't know that I'd deny him.
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This feedback is providing clarity for me...way more down side than up in doing this. My friend does have issues with comprehending the value of money. Even if I was footing the bill tonight, there's no controlling if he'd go back some other day and blow a his paycheck on dances or be taken advantage of. We'll stick to a night milk shakes, sports talk and corny jokes. And that's all good.
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Listen, Juice has been to a strip club before so it’s okay to take him, just hold his money for him and let him know how much he’s allowed to spend before you take him in.
Serious note - not sure that’s a good idea. What about testing the waters by taking him to a breastaurant for a beer first?
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LOL
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"... My friend does have issues with comprehending the value of money ..."
The only way he should go then is w/ someone else that understands how strip-clubs work - but if he's somewhat independent and goes and comes as he pleases then there'd be a danger in him going by himself after being introduced to this most-seducing of hobbies
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I think it's a kind thought, but I don't think it's a good idea. It's only a hobby for people with disposable income and self control around hot women in sexual situations. Not good for the guy if he doesn't have both.
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I wouldn't do it. It could be a sensory overload for him. Im not talking the strippers I mean the loud music, stage lights, darkness, the amount of people and f he hasn't had a bitch touch him before he could get confused.
You should just get him a hooker for a one on one if you want to do something nice for him.
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Would you like to be entertained by a special needs dancer?
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One time this Philippine stripper got her "slow" cousin a job at the club. Heard the mileage was really good...
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Taking a human to a strip club when they've never had intimate contact with the opposite sex is sort of like giving a drug to an addict who's never done the drug before. I can understand why people are telling you not to take him clubbing but I would disagree. I think it would be in his best long term interests to go clubbing and maybe even get an LDK or feel up some breasts.
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My ATF has been at the same club for years. She works a set dayshift weekly schedule. She is always there on her scheduled days. NEVER misses. She has a couple of mentally challenged regulars who come in occasionally and get dances (either limited number of couch dances or short-term VIP) from her ONLY. One came in when I was there just a couple of days ago. We talked about it because some people had previously suggested she was taking advantage. She treats them well and NEVER takes advantage by overcharging or upselling. BTW, these good qualities are one of the many reasons she is my ATF. She's also gorgeous and gives great 100% clean dances.
If you can find him an honest dancer (what an oxymoron) who won't take advantage and he comes in to see only her it should be OK. If there is a manager you trust you might think about enlisting his/her assistance, especially should he make future visits without you.
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i agree that an escort would be a better option, even just lapdances from one or two girls like an incall party stripper thing. something where you do all the planning VIA a platform he doesn't have access to, and the girls get paid up front so he won't be able to show up another time unattended and blow money he doesn't have. not to mention some dancers might be mean to him and upset him if he does the wrong thing without even realizing it. even those of us who are understanding of the situation might not realize at first that he is special needs and not just a jerk- so i can see him getting lashed out by a dancer for doing something inappropriate.
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A person with no special needs gets taken advantage in a club because the dancers are all about getting paid. I worry that dancers will take advantage of a special needs person in regards to taking him from his money. The only saving grace I see is that someone would be going with that person into a club and would be in control as to what that person gives to a dancer. I personally wouldn't do it because like someone mentioned you don't know how they would be able to understand or handle the playful advances and attention a dancer gives.
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While I understand the sentiment I'd recommend against it. If he developed a taste for clubbing as a result of you breaking his stripper cherry who knows what unfortunate things might transpire. Especially if he starts going with out you as his wingman.
He may not be able to handle himself properly or worse the young lovelies might lead him to believe they care for him which would break his bank and heart rather quickly.
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Nicole1994 wants to go on a date with this friend of yours
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I think its a great idea. Probably a better chick magnet than walking a dog in the park.
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Listen to Warrior. He's right on.
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Obviously you’ve already decided against it, which is the right decision. There are so many things that could go wrong at the club. Even worse, he could be really hurt if he developed feelings for someone and then didn’t understand why he couldn’t see her again.
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Was this a serious question? You didn't really consider this did you?
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That would be just mean and super confusing to a special needs person, I doubt he would comprehend the entertainment value and it will harm him in ways you could never comprehend
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the breasturaunt is probably a better idea...
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Best not to take somebody who is autistic :p
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As for the OP, I think that is very much on a case-by-case basis. There are plenty of customers who function at a “special needs” level anyways. Hooray alcohol
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Warrior15 is right. What if he touches some girl in the club and suddenly he thinks it is okay to do so in the real world? Or what if he develops a liking to one of the girls? He's gonna be heartbroken when he learns that she doesn't really care about him.
It could make him happy in the moment, but it may ruin him afterwards. I say don't expose him to the world of strip clubs. Happiness can be found in a variety of different hobbies and activities. Fishing, theme parks, concerts, arcades, go-karting, hiking, video games, the movies, biking....etc
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Ultimately OP will have the final say in what happens. I'm just saying if it were up to me I would definitely not do it
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^ all this shit coming from a moron, who’s birth certificate, is a letter of apology from a condom factory.
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LOL
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I have special needs. Take me.
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You could spend those dollars on help.
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I think Warrior15 gave great advice. This might be a well intentioned gesture, but it might have very negative effects.
I’d strongly recommend against it.
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^If I wanted to kill myself I'd climb your ego and jump down to your IQ.
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My penis has special-needs and why I always take him to the club
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Speaking of low IQs, DC9428 is in his early 20s, tries to sound like a text book and claims his parents are proud of him for paying hookers to fuck him coz its psychologically good for him ROTFLMFAO
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^^^^^^^ Tell da truth 2bits u were lookin in the mirror when u said that now go finish urself off n join ur sleepin with the worms butt bro vincie u #POS!
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You’re not pretty enough to be that dumb.
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^你還是比漂白的混蛋更醜陋
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