Reposting from above, and about the book Marriage Markets:
They say that the women at these schools, they do not want relationships or marriage. They are on track for high powered careers, and so they will pursue relationships and marriage later on, after they have their own high powered careers, and with men who also have the same.
So the idea that "I am a college student" does not carry much weight.
Now by elite school I am trying to use that the same way that the above authors do. It will tend to have the youngest students, and have the fewest students who are employed.
See here in CA we have:
- University of California.
- California State University
- Community Colleges.
Okay #3 is the easiest to get into and is lower division only.
#2 Is just a small bit harder to get into, it is 4 years, and has some Master's Degree students.
#1 is the hardest to get into, harder courses, higher percentage of grad students, and doctoral students.
But it is actually #1 which has the lowest average age, and then #2 after it. Oldest age in #3.
So what this means is that what school you go to is mostly a matter of the socio-economic standing of your parents.
So if you are in #1, the elite school, you probably will not be employed.
So for a male this amounts to an extension of adolescence. So except for those who really take to that extended adolescence and comply with some social type norms, the man will be looked down on. So this makes it tough, and hence the Elliot Rodger Scenario. He could not stand to be around girls, really it was because they were denying his masculinity. So wanted to be away from them, to be rid of them.
So IceyLoco has said that college is when you are around the most young women.
Well so what? You only need a few to keep yourself happy. The rest add nothing.
And then, in this county we have 2Meg persons, 3x 4 year colleges, and 7x 2 year colleges. The adjoining counties have their own similar stuff.
So living here right now I am amidst those college girls, plus a whole lot more girls. Not on the same dorm floor, but there are places to approach girls.
Actually it is harder to engage with current college girls.
Most of the time, in my view, the girls easiest to make something happen with a are girls in the work force. Paying their own rent, not supported by their parents, recognizing that this will be their life unless something changes.
These girls, for the most part, they are mercenary.
But if you are a college student they tend to look down on you.
In my view, women are viciously judgemental about a guy and his money earning. If he is not selling himself for money, then in their view he does not even deserve to breath air.
When they are approached by a guy, this is what they are most interested in checking out and finding out about.
In places where just the place, and his manner of dress insure that he is well employed, girls tend to be very aggressive.
So I have from time to time reason to be on our college campuses. It has actually been then that I have had girls throwing themselves at me.
Even at Stanford, for example, girls usually from well off families, they are coming on to me, complementing me on how i am dressed.
I did not plan this! I don't even really like it because I can see how they think.
I walk across the campus for some legit purpose, they see that I am older, and dressed such that I look to be well employed. And I am dressed exactly as I am at my work place. They are coming on to me.
Similar visiting at the other 4 year and our 2 year schools.
Girls working in major department stores, the same way. It is all socio-economics and perceived worldliness.
At UC Berkeley, at their law school, they finally had to make the library restricted to those with current law school id. Because, as I was told, so many girl want to get in there and "make goo-goo eyes" at the young law school men. And the girls say that they can tell if a guy has a girl or not, by how he responds to them putting the ray on him. This is what the girls think.
So I go back to what I tried to say, that typically for a man in an elite college, it can be real hell, because he is seen as immature, yet to be tested, and women dismiss him. It is the college women and the out of college women.
And though college may put you in proximity to lots of young women, it is the post college and non-college women who are easiest to move on. Young woman paying her own rent, most of the time she is so relationship focused that she is about to implode.
So college has lots of problems. For every Elliot Rodger there are 1000's of other cases where just never anything really dramatic happens.
And this does limit the quality and breadth and depth of education someone is likely to get.
So I feel that I am right, and that IceyLoco was wrong.
So we should be following Aristotle, it is better to pursue Ends Activities, rather than Means Activites. Education is very important and should be life long and it should be seen as an Ends Activity rather than a Means Activity.
Anytime I have found someone who seems to know something significant which I do not, I have tried to learn. Can't evaluate what he knows unless I know. College helped with this, but some was still watered down like a trade school. Trade school stuff people can learn on their own and in other ways.
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