having sex or making love???
poledancer83
Narnia
Sex or making love that is the question. Sex- two (or more) bodies having hot steamy sex with no regards for emotions and no expectations for the morning. Lovemaking- passionate feelings of emotions mixed with a desire to prove your love to a mate. Whats better? Ive made love a few times and it is a different feeling. Its an expression of love and giving yourself to your mate. From a female perspective it has its place and i dont hate it but honestly i dont like it either. The expectations are far to high for making love and can make it awkward even with someone youve been with for years. Sex is fun and fun is sex in my opinion. Sex was once a form of procreation but now its a lifestyle. Most civvie girls are lying when they say they want a love making experience because society says thats how its supposed to be. Watch porn and youll see girls making love right?... WRONG youll see girls and guys exchanging a handshake and gargling down dicks like its a hot dog eating contest..Why? cause thats what people wanna see and the sex they really wanna have. And its most often men and women that have this desire from what ive seen. 50 shades wasnt about love making and it was widely popular and i think its because civie and pro girls have these desires but pros live them either prof. or in there personal life. Even the most prim and proper girl wants a good night out at a 5 star restraunt and may occasionally want a love making session from their partner but they deep down want a good night of sweaty hot sex. So my point to the guys. If your in a relationship test the waters. Your wife of 20 years may want her ass smacked and to be called a slut every now and then. Mix it up and see what happens its not gonna hurt anything and if it does it wont last forever. and ladies if you wanna take a ride to slutville then do it. lifes short have fun with it and get what most of us want and some are to scared to admit.
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With certain partners - there’s minimal expectation. Those are the times when my mind has been blown. A girl who looks like a crazy fuck - turns out to be amazing!
With long term relationships, there can be too much history, and too much baggage, for the sex to be wild and free. Sometimes - it would be better if you could clear your memory banks - and experience your partner anew again.
Porn isn’t sex or love making - it’s a simulation - done by pros who can emotionally detach from the act being performed. I’m not sure how they can compartmentalize their emotions - to avoid attachment - but it’s very important.
I’m going off on too many tangents - so I’ll stop myself now. I’m able to detach from emotional sexual attachments - and it’s an important thing to learn. I just wish I learned this earlier - in my late teens - so I could have enjoyed the sex more - and put less emotion into things.
As I’ve gotten older and any forms of intimacy have started to become fewer and far between, I’ve learned to appreciate GFE more. Touching, caressing, fingering, DFK, DATY, etc. more so than wham-bam like a jack-hammer.
Good thing is you can do both, sort of like having your hair pie and eating it, too.
That being said, it just depends on the situation and the partner as to which I would prefer. Freaky sex is more consistently satisfying, but you can't beat the best love making experiences.
But don't worry BJ, I have gotten to know you well enough that I'd enjoy letting you fuck me dirty.
The time we spend in the club let’s me figure out if I actually *like* her, as opposed to just lusting her. The sex ends up being way more fun when I like her. And she won’t be able to pretend she likes me for very long.
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