having sex or making love???

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• Bj99

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  6 years ago

  Not everything done w someone you love has to be a deep expression of emotion, and not everything you do w someone you aren’t in love w has to be a dick gargling, awkward position romp. I don’t see why being sensual has to imply any expectations. In fact, being intimate and sensual w someone you don’t have any commitments with can be very freeing and fun. On the other hand, a good dirty fuck w someone you love deeply is a great way to have some fun, without the constant burden of your own relationship, and all of the give and take crap.
• max_starr

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  6 years ago

  Having good sex is the best.....you can include having a date with someone and soaking up how they look, their voice, their smell, etc....up to the point of pleasing each other. My wife never made love or did any kind of foreplay...She'd try to walk up, pull your pants down and stick it in lol....But she never wanted to do more than the basics...Sometimes I need a few seconds or minutes! To me lap dances are the ultimate foreplay...it get sensory overload and i'm filled with endorphins....sex after that is just amazing...I'd met some really hot girls at work before I was married that would suck your dick, amazon fuck you, and tell you to fuck them in the ass.....These girls were always my favorite....Just raw carnal knowledge. So for the last 10 years with my wife, my sex life was nearly non existent after the first two years. Finding a girl and doing OTC with her just blew my mind...I started having energy again, eating less, exercising more, taking care of myself better too...My wife found out and became jealous and started sucking my dick and fucking me like a porn star...though I admit I have spoiled myself and I'm not as attracted to her any more...I don't know if I can give up OTC now.
• Uprightcitizen

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  6 years ago

  Gulp! I may have to jerk off at work now, dammit girls! :P
• Cashman1234

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  6 years ago

  Very good topic. Sex is an intense act - due to the release of endorphins resulting from the physical aspect. Making love is highly overrated - and is almost impossible for it to live up to its potential. With certain partners - there’s minimal expectation. Those are the times when my mind has been blown. A girl who looks like a crazy fuck - turns out to be amazing! With long term relationships, there can be too much history, and too much baggage, for the sex to be wild and free. Sometimes - it would be better if you could clear your memory banks - and experience your partner anew again. Porn isn’t sex or love making - it’s a simulation - done by pros who can emotionally detach from the act being performed. I’m not sure how they can compartmentalize their emotions - to avoid attachment - but it’s very important. I’m going off on too many tangents - so I’ll stop myself now. I’m able to detach from emotional sexual attachments - and it’s an important thing to learn. I just wish I learned this earlier - in my late teens - so I could have enjoyed the sex more - and put less emotion into things.
• shadowcat

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  6 years ago

  I'll take cheap meaningless sex for $200 Alex.
• georgmicrodong

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  6 years ago

  I like both. They both have their place.
• JAprufrock

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  6 years ago

  Dick gargling. LOL! I will search for that on Pornhub tonight. As I’ve gotten older and any forms of intimacy have started to become fewer and far between, I’ve learned to appreciate GFE more. Touching, caressing, fingering, DFK, DATY, etc. more so than wham-bam like a jack-hammer. Good thing is you can do both, sort of like having your hair pie and eating it, too.
• flagooner

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  6 years ago

  I don't care to have sex with someone I don't have any emotional attraction to. I'd just as soon masturbate. That being said, it just depends on the situation and the partner as to which I would prefer. Freaky sex is more consistently satisfying, but you can't beat the best love making experiences.
• bubba267

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  6 years ago

  Both have their place but I agree with flag on this one.
• Bj99

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  6 years ago

  You can have emotional attraction to someone without it having to be love, or a practical sort of dating thing. It can just be attraction, like a crush, or fantasy.
• flagooner

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  6 years ago

  ^ yes I agree. What I meant by that is that completely anonymous sex doesn't really do anything for me. If it is purely physical I am left unsatisfied and not really interested. But don't worry BJ, I have gotten to know you well enough that I'd enjoy letting you fuck me dirty.
• Bj99

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  6 years ago

  Oh good. I was concerned. ❤️
• Jascoi

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  6 years ago

  dang. i can’t think of anything better than raw hot passionate out of control awesome sex. and then move on... with memories that won’t let go.
• rh48hr

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  6 years ago

  Both have their place, but I'll take sex over making love.
• twentyfive

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  6 years ago

  Let’s make this a true daily double, how about fucking dirty with a good FWB
• PaulDrake

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  6 years ago

  Personally I have no interest in porn star style sex, I am only interested in romantic style lovemaking.
• georgmicrodong

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  6 years ago

  This is another reason OTC sex with strippers beats escorts. For me. The time we spend in the club let’s me figure out if I actually *like* her, as opposed to just lusting her. The sex ends up being way more fun when I like her. And she won’t be able to pretend she likes me for very long.
• san_jose_guy

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  6 years ago

  Sex, I think it can and should include this kind of cave people primality. But this does not mean that it is without feelings. The way I look at it is that the feelings are so intense that they become a completed eternity in that very moment, so that what happens afterwards no longer matters. SJG
• flagooner

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  6 years ago

  ^ Coming from a guy who takes advantage of girls who can't exhibit feelings because he prefers to fuck them when they're unconscious.
• san_jose_guy

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  6 years ago

  ^^^ Not quite flagooner. SJG