Sugar relationships in public

gammanu95
You can unfriend me, unfollow me, and unlike me; but you cannot unlick my butthole
Not long ago, my wife and I were dining at an upscale restaurant. Our table was adjacent to the bar where a mismatched couple were having drinks. There is a large population of seasonal residents from Germany and Canada (especially Quebec) in this part of FL - even a German-language newspaper. I assumed, based on their personal sense of style, that this couple were not from the US. The man was much older, late 50s or 60s, overweight, rumpy, and shaggy; with rumpled sport jacket and Dockers, a big unkempt mustache, and a bowl-cut hairstyle. The women was bleached platinum blonde, very thin but just shy of anorexic, young 20s, with long moussed-up hair (like standing straight up), and a leopard print jacket. I initially assumed them to be Europeans or Quebecois, father/daughter, uncle/niece, et al.

They stood out because of the age difference and odd personal fashion styles. While I could not hear what they were saying, I could hear them speaking plain, unaccented English. She was clearly being given anything she asked for including $10 to tip the live band. I began to suspect I was observing an escort's dinner date. I pointed this out to my wife, but she was convinced that it was nothing of the sort.

Skip ahead to late last week, while I was hanging out at a local club. There was a skinny platinum blonde dancer whose hair had an abundance of mousse. However, it was not until her rumpled sugar daddy walked in and she dropped everyone's attention for his that I recognized her.

I'm happy for the guy, him having found a dancer sugar baby that he can take on dates to nice restaurants. But it still leaves me feeling uneasy. He dresses like a tool, seems introverted, and is treated like an ATM. I have browsed Seeking Arrangment, and nearly all the womens' profiles list "Financial Domination" as one of their fetishes. That is insultingly obvious bullshit, only more so having seen it in real life interaction. If he enjoys it and can afford it then more power to him - but there is a wrinkle. His office was two doors down from my accountant's when I was reviewing my taxes yesterday. He didn't look up from his workstation when I passed his door, but there was no mistaking him. An accountant being financially dominated by his sugar baby stripper (who other customers told me has GPS) seems like a situation rife for corruption. I have his name from his office door, and I hope not to see it on my bill for this year.

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grand1511
7 years ago
It doesn't strike me as unusual that a guy who works responsibly with numbers all day might have a fetish that involves being irresponsible about numbers. But I think you're making a whole lot of assumptions here without actually knowing the whole situation.
twentyfive
7 years ago
Assuming you pay your own taxes and all the accountant does is prepare your paperwork for a fee, what the fuck do you care who’s name is on the bill. As usual you are an idiot.
RandomMember
7 years ago
tl;dr

@GammaNut ran into someone as unattractive and repulsive as he is in a restaurant and in the same shithole club where he pisses away dollar bills. By some perverted logic, this guy is not capable of doing menial calculations.
shailynn
7 years ago
The best part of this story is this guy is "apparently" a sugar daddy and he is also an accountant. I know several accountants and 2 of which are good friends (same age) as me. All of the ones that I know are way too tight to part with money being that they are an accountant. Looks like someone has found an exception to the norm.
Bj99
7 years ago
I think ppl who are particularly tight w their money, tend to have a luxury that they measure everything else by, that makes saving worth it. His might be time w dancers and he must like spoiling them. I kinda spoil my boyfriend’s teen daughter. Her mom is very worried ab money, and so she is so conscious of what things she really wants cost. If I have the money, I want her to get what she likes and just be happy. I can just imagine what it means to her to get to order what she likes, or buy a trendy full priced dress. Spending on myself doesn’t give me that feeling anymore, so I love seeing her happy that way. It’s funny tho, bc it does feel really good when my customers spoil me. It’s nice to treat someone else, and to be treated by someone else.
Subraman
7 years ago
Gamma, what you describe isn't "Financial domination", which actually has a more specific meaning. It's just run-of-the-mill "stripper using RIL like an ATM". Although you are right, so many women on SA pick the Financial Domination as one of their interests. When I ask them, they usually claim they had no idea what it actually means, they just like the sound of it
RandomMember
7 years ago
Some middle-aged guy took a stripper out to dinner. I wonder how this could possible have anything to do with SA or "Financial domination" or rife or corruption at an accounting firm?

What cringe-worthy and stupid thread.
skibum609
7 years ago
Another day, another article on why otc is a total waste. The more one focuses on money, the less on understands life.
Bj99
7 years ago
I don’t know. My grandpa told me once, if you want to know what actually matters to someone, look where they spend their money, and their time. Resources, really.
TFP
7 years ago
Not gonna lie, I look at couples in certain shopping areas sometimes and the couples with hugely obvious age differences I wonder if I'm looking at a sugar couple. But all I do is wonder and that's it.

Last time I was on Rodeo drive in Beverly Hills I thought it was no coincidence that I saw a lot more of these types of couples. I had nothing but respect and admiration for these lucky and most likely well off men. I hope I can pull of something similar once I get a little older.
scgato
7 years ago
Was at a Gucci store and old man with a young 20 blonde was there. He tells her “Come I got something to show you”. She gets really excited and he takes her to the men’s section to show a shoe he was gonna buy. Should have seen the look on her face and the look she was giving me when I was buying something for my girl.
Bj99
7 years ago
@ TFP, my dad and I went to Tiffany’s in Lajolla and the girls asked is we were shopping for an engagement ring. He was super flattered, and told everyone.
SebHenley
7 years ago
When you get older, you come to the realization that spending money or time on bright shiny objects isn't fulfilling unless there is someone there to share or experience with you long term. You realize a stranger doesn't give a shit about your sharp clothes, diamond necklace or sportscar. A stranger goes on with their life never remembering. But if you create an experience or memory with whether if be your SB, a friend or family, then you have something fulfilling.
TFP
7 years ago
Bj99 I usually assume when I see those couples it's father daughter......until I see some PDA that makes it clear it's not. With most of those couples it was clear from either a shared kiss on the lips (shout-out to Ferris Bueller) or a more than family type hug or touching.

SebHenley that makes total sense. Tbh I already feel like that, and I just entered my 40s days ago.
DeclineToState
7 years ago
@BJ99 said: "it does feel really good when my customers spoil me."

BJ, curious to hear your experience: what you've welcomed as spoiling versus what's creepy / a turnoff.
Bj99
7 years ago
I’m really self conscious ab spending other ppl’s money. I have a couple customers who take me out to eat and I know I can order what I like, and have a glass of wine, etc. Nothing big. I’m not really comfortable going shopping that way. If someone takes me shopping, I usually have one thing I want, or I let the customer pick stuff for me.
SebHenley
7 years ago
The fun challenge to me becomes, can I figure out what really matters to someone. I did the Valentines flowers with my ATF. I do believe they were very important to her, not because of the flowers or Valentines day. She had been going through a very rough time, I don't think any of her other regulars got her anything, and I think it has been a long time since she's even been on a date. I do get the hustle of appreciation, but I think sometimes you can see beyond any hustle.
RandomMember
7 years ago
@GammaNut: "She was clearly being given anything she asked for including $10 to tip the live band."
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WOW, $10, proof positive that he's being subjected to cruel and punishing financial domination!

Did I ever tell you that you're a pathetic tool, @GammaNut?
Bj99
7 years ago
@Seb, I love gifts from my customers. Ofcourse I want money, but I don’t treat myself so I do truly appreciate it in a different way. It does make me feel a little taken care of.
georgmicrodong
7 years ago
@Bj99: “I don’t know. My grandpa told me once, if you want to know what actually matters to someone, look where they spend their money, and their time. Resources, really.”

This.
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