OTC with stripper VS escort
Jdobbs84
Canton, Ohio
Those with experience in both areas, I'm interested in what your experience is? Which is better? Which is a better value? IME with escorts I had gotten tired of the dead lay, drug addicted, Rob mentality. When you meet an escort at her incall you never know what your walking into. Could be a guy hiding waiting to Rob you at gunpoint or something of that effect. I was fortunate to never have that particular instance happen but have had other rip off cash and dash things happen. I've never done OTC but i would assume the chemistry has been somewhat established leading into a more connected visit compared to escorts. The price is probably more (OTC) but assuming your wanting better quality and not having to rely on pics for a real life idea of looks coupled with knowing her personality it may be worth it. What are your thoughts on this?
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On balance OTC is definitely safer and more satisfying than escorts. Agree with the comments that you get a chance to at least meet your partner in person to see if there's any chemistry. However, sugaring with the right girl beats both by a mile. Finding some college girl who's not in the sex industry, with common interests, and who's had only a few vanilla BFs is the gold standard to me. Someone you can trust at your house to save on hotel bills and someone who's not going to give you an STD.
SA isn't the best option -- it's different than OTC, but got its own share of frustrations, and for myself, all my most exciting experiences have been OTC, with SA offering some nice side dishes. You might like it better, or might not, depending on what you're looking for. Worth exploring both.
My article on OTC and why it's so much better than escorts: https://www.tuscl.net/article.php?id=447…
So if you’re going to see an escort, spend $30 or so on TER and do a little research. If you like it, spend a few more $ and join P411.
Everyone has their thing and escorts and fbsm are preferred by some but not by others. But any comparisons should not be between BP girls and OTC with strippers you’ve gotten to know. A valid comparison could be made by someone who has actually seen both strippers OTC and well reviewed TER girls. Anyone who hasn’t experienced both has no basis to compare the two. Not that a lack of knowledge has ever prevented anyone from posting as if they know what they are talking about.
Other than that, there are lots of differences. From what I can tell, escorts are much less likely to want to do anal, whereas I've met OTC girls who love anal and actually request it. (Personally, I don't particularly care for it.) But everyone agrees that escorts are a much better value overall.
Then there's the different types of escorts: the higher end type that has reviews on TER vs the lower end type that posts on BP. Again, there are pros and cons to each. If you need to bust a nut right now, just roll the dice and go with BP. If you can afford to wait a day or two (or ten), go with a TER girl. She may screen you and make you wait, but the odds of getting busted or robbed drops to close to zero. I find that the best bet is something in between: a girl who advertises on BP and also has her own website with reviews on TER.
TER is a great resource for a PL to screen potential escorts. I myself only used it as a secondary source. When I took an interest in seeing escorts, I started with a quick Google search for escorts in my area. The very first result was an ad site. It was not anything like BP. It was a site very similar to TUSCL. Both Escorts and PL's created accounts on this site. Escorts would create a profile and post ads. PL's would write reviews if they saw the girl. I found a couple that already had 20+ reviews that were mostly positive. However, in order to get full access to reviews, I did have to pay for a membership. Like on TUSCL, you can buy just a month of access. If you wrote two reviews (not the same girl twice), you would earn a free month of access to reviews. There were also discussion forums on this site, but it was different than it is here on TUSCL. Instead of one discussion board for everybody, there were several sub-forums, many of which were specific to a particular state or major city. I later found TER and used that as a second source of doing research. All the escorts that caught my interest on the other site were also very well reviewed on TER. Not once did I ever use BP as a source to schedule a date with an escort. With the girls that I did see, they all were the same girl in the pictures from their ad, and I did not feel like safety was a concern when seeing them. Only one expereince out of about 10 turned out to be a ROB.
Unfortunately, the escort site I described eventually changed hands and it went to shit. It got rebranded as a dating site and became completey useless.
Agree.. despite the praise here, I find TER to be a decently crappy resource, that I use as secondary research at most. Most major metro areas will have a local or regional board that is 100x more accurate, plus discussion forums where you can interact directly with hardcore mongers who have seen a girl in person. Waaaay better picture than anything on TER, plus the guys in these forums will have experience with many, many girls who have not been reviewed on TER (which is what I tend to optimize for), and you don't have to deal with TERs retarded policies around "the highest rating she can get is a 7 unless she does anal blah blah blah". If you participate on the forums in a local board, once you're a known quantity you can get plugged into the best source of information, private messages between trusted mongers.
Summary: If you live in a market with a regional board, you are blessed with the ability to get good intel without ever having to go to the TER crapshoot.
I guess I qualify as a hardcore monger or at least did at one time......maybe older age is finally catching up with me....but a lot of this has to do with the area of the country you are looking.
Northeast Ohio? escorts suck....horrible....did I mention bad............
Eastern PA---escorts are better but SA is better still.........never had much luck with OTC and dancers in this area.
DC--both escorts and SA are quality.......at one time a decade ago this was in my estimation the best place in the country to find a high end reasonable priced escort. Dancers here......well as my past comments have indicated I don't go to clubs much because they are pitiful.
NYC--escorts by far.....it isn't even close and despite the $$$ comments and perception there are plenty of girls to be found that are cool and overall reasonable.
Florida---haven't been to a Florida club in some time--SA first, escorts second.
Stay the hell away from BP.......in my estimation it's like playing Russian Roulette with a meat grinder and your penis...............
My own forays into the escort side of things are relatively recent, only within about the last 8 or 9 years, and nothing about it makes me regret spending my time, money and effort on OTC with strippers. I still do it occasionally, but only when what I want is a quick nut, and only with well reviewed girls. USASG is pretty good for the local area.
My massage experiences have been the only ones that are on par with stripper OTC, but for entirely different reasons, and massage would never *replace* OTC, only supplement it. I suspect that’s primarily because I found an *amazing* provider right off the bat (though sadly, she’s gone now) and so the bar for subsequent encounters has been pretty high.
Of course, all of the things that make OTC attractive for me might mean nothing to you, and if you don’t find them compelling, that’s ok. There’s room in the world for folks who like different stuff. :)
For instance, I’ve seen TER threads trashing the strip club world because posters claim strippers never put out and they don’t mention OTC. We all know that’s bunk. But it’s also frustrating when someone makes the escort world to be about streetwalkers and BP girls and then trashes it.
Also, the point has been made by several here that TER isn’t always the best bet. I think that is a valid point in that while TER is international, some regions have better resources for online escort reviews. I mention TER just because it is the only one I know of that’s pretty consistently available nationwide and still around. But yes, there are other resources, depending on one’s region. The main point is that it’s a bad idea to meet escorts without doing any homework. There is plenty of info out there. It’s a good idea to use TUSCL and research strip clubs too but you probably don’t run much risk of getting mugged or arrested if you walk into a club without having done any homework.
And yes, for escorts and bodyrubs, I'll echo that to have the best experience, it's extra extra important to do some research (with both SA and strip clubs, you have a chance to meet live first, so while research there is always nice, it's not as critical). And if there's nothing else, TER is the backup plan... and, of course, some guys love TER; like so many things, it's a matter of whether your sensibilities match the site culture.
In the end, for me OTC matches the experience I"m looking for the best, by far. Escorts do not -- not even really great ones, because I'm looking to spend far more time for far less money than a typical escort charges for an evening or overnighter or travel. By contrast, I've had some wonderful FBSM experiences, and they are a better match for my "I just want an hour of no-hassle pampering and a happy ending" side dish, when I don't have the time or inclination for OTC. And lastly, I'm finding SA is a fun pursuit as well; in theory, it has the same potential as OTC (especially since nearly every stripper in the city is on it), but while I'm finding more and more fun times, I haven't had the mind-blowing experiences that I've had with my ATFs.
I've always thought the best information you can gleam from a site such as TER or a few others that come to mind and have come and gone is to find guys who are sensible and like minded to you and to set up your own network of information with these guys--probably no different than what some guys do on here although I admit I haven't tried here.
The smart shoppers go for the best value and want to waste the least amount of time in finding a good match. It was very important for me years ago when I travelled all over the USA for work ( and this was before SA)
Maybe I've been very lucky over the years because I've had some really excellent times with escorts, and not at a high expense.
You will find many opinions examples etc on this site as why OTC sex with a stripper is the "caviar of the sex industry". From seen them in person (no bait and switch) and establishing a relationship ITC, the trill of the hunt, convincing them to do OTC, Spending more time for less money, dinner some times, going out, overnights sometimes, closer to a GFE encounter. I agree with that because i have experinced some of that.
However, I wrote an article about my ATF Woman: https://www.tuscl.net/?page=post&id=5080…
Where I explained why my encounter with an high end Russian escort in Beverly Hills was the best sexual human experience in my life. Part of it was that she was beatiful, a 10 in my opinion, nice and sexy to me and seemed to enjoy sex (orgasmed and squirted).
To answer your questions;
Which is better? In my opinion;
Escorts are better for sex and go, sexual girlfriend experience.
Strippers are better for sex and hang out before and after, girlfriend date type sexual experience.
Which is a better value? I depends on what you want, I prefer an escort for sex and OTC for sex and company.
Like we all know in every situation YMMV, you or her might have a bad day.
Just remember common sense and general wisdom:
You can't win if you don't Play.
Just be prepared and aware of the rules of the game, learn from your mistakes and losses, and like Keny Rogers said:
"If you are going to play the game, boy You have got to learn to play it right.
You have to know when to hold them,
Know when to fold them,
Know when to walk away
And know when to run..."
Good luck on your search for your own answers. I hope you have good experiences and share them, to help others learn from you.
"Every defeat every loss, every heartbreak it is a lesson on how to improve your performance the next time."
For those years, I saw escorts (and FBSM girls) cause I wanted sex and little to no emotional involvement. However, I did get to know a few well enough that we would go on regular dates with a 1hr sex session after and I only had to pay the 1hr sex price.
With proper research, I always felt very safe with the escorts I saw. We used to do M&G parties, so you could meet new girls face to face before making an appt. I have only seen 3 strippers OTC, so sample size is small versus escorts (had to be more than 100), but escorts were way more reliable when it came to keeping appts and being on time.
When I started playing around again after a break, I stumbled into my first possible OTC. That girl was the one who told me about SA and Follies (my go to for instant gratification BBBJ or CFS). This time around, I wanted more of a mistress type - one girl, very uninhibited sexually, good chemistry, spend more time together than just sex. Took 4 tries, but have a pretty good SB now.
I know many on here have tried both and the variations such as fbsm and SA. And I know some on here aren’t curious about what else is out there. But for those who are curious, these threads never seem to be a bunch of experienced mongers exchanging stories, at least not in the origin of the thread. They seem to be started by seekers who seem willing to pay for fun. It’s fine for the curious to ask for opinions but actual answers are always very individualized and are best arrived at by actual, personal experience.
My summary
(backpage) < (AMPs) < (reviewed escorts) < (OTC strippers) < (College girls on SA) << (Being 25 again).
Unfortunately the last option isn't possible.
(less than) (being 25 again)
Fortunately in this thread, people commenting are experienced in what they are talking about. But most of the time this thread comes up, some experienced guys chime in and a bunch of others jump in without having a basis to compare but opining anyway.
For what it’s worth, I think your greater than comparison is correct except that I would add one category of reviewed fbsm girls that go beyond fbsm. I’d rate that I tie with the OTC strippers assuming the fbsm girl is hot.
Funny, and solid advice.