Building up horniness level

Best way is to refrain from busting a nut for as long as possible before going on the date. A full week is a good time frame.

Check. Got that part covered. (Not necessarily on purpose. Crazy busy week this week.)

I guess I could go to one of the "lesser" local clubs where I could get turned on by the eye candy but run no risk of busting a nut

^ Yeah get in as much eye candy enough to get a boner but no more.

Just watch some Youporn.com for free, use their filters for you favorite fetish.

Ask VM to come by and serve as your fluffer.

I do have a certain ritual that I follow before dates.

It's well accepted that testosterone is released during deep sleep and I stay off the caffeine the day before and get to sleep on time. Day of the date I like to do a lot of cycling in the morning. Not clear if that releases testosterone, but it definitely stirs up the endorphins. Also like to eat light and low-fat that day so that blood goes were it's supposed to go instead of your digestive system.

A few days of abstention, and some pre-date porn, has been the winning formula for me. I would definitely NOT go to a strip club beforehand: at a place like Follies I'd just be frustrated at not being able to indulge, and at any other place, I do not need to see and touch stripper-beautiful 20-year-olds before I go on a date with a 45-year-old.

Seriously though...

My suggestion is to go out with someone you find attractive. I've never had a problem getting horny when I've done that.

All this pre-date prep talk sounds kinda gay.

You get off with your pants on from a lap dance, but you are worried about your impending horndog level?

@random ok, got some exercise in today, and I'll remember that for future. Nice tip on the food. I will need to eat before the date so I'll be careful not too eat too much. I've been hydrating all day, too.

@subraman good points. Follies probably is too much. Date isn't until 9pm anyway, and I don't want to be in Follies that late.

Maybe dinner, around 6, at a place like twin peaks or tilted kilt would be the best. A little eye candy, eat early enough to get digestion out of the way. Then some porn on the laptop at the hotel waiting for her to show up.

-->"You get off with your pants on from a lap dance, but you are worried about your impending horndog level?"

I find this point fairly brilliant

@TXbananas not sure who your comment was for, but I am not in the LDK crowd (but I respect those who are for whatever the reason). If I was attempting an LDK, I'd have to manage the built up horniness even more.

Really, the more I think about this...

Have you considered that you might be gay? (Not that there's anything goes wrong with that)

It sounds likely if you have to try to get horny when with a sexy lady.

I'd recommend pornhub - as there is a vast amount of porn for every possible preference there. I'm not sure if a breastaurant is going to help or hurt you. If you find the waitresses at the restaurant hotter than your date - it might backfire on you. I'd stick with lots of porn - lots of really nasty shit - so when your date shows up - you will be ready to get started.

@flagooner just trying to maximize what middle age and less than ideal health doesn't always help out with. And, I'm trying to kill time waiting for date time to get here. Thought it might be interesting to see if anyone else has "pregame" rituals.

Picked up a few tips. Thanks.

Watching some free web porn usually does it for me - in addition I tey not to nut for 3 days

Okay, not gay. We are talking rising to the occasion not just feeling horny.

I'm assuming this date is with a civvie and not P4P. Maybe that was mentioned but my attention span can by that of a 4 year old.

Many of these suggestions sound good, did anyone mention the obvious Viagra?

In any event, if the equipment doesn't rise (I'm assuming now that is what you mean) just focus on her. Oral, fingers, fist, baseball bat, whatever it takes. I get aroused when she does, and if not at least she won't be disappointed and there can be date #2.

It's a girl I met through SA and the situation is about halfway between civvie and P4P. We've been on other (successful) dates before. I almost posted about the first but it's a "Dear Penthouse" story I doubt anyone would believe.

I guess I wasn't clear enough in OP. Not needing to build up horniness to get going, needing to build it up so the "results" don't take too long to get to, and are as impressive as possible.

^ Is that a humble brag or do you really consider this a "problem"? I doubt she complains about how long it might take.

Gee, thanks flagooner, I think. LOL I'll bring the redhead, I'm her pimp. She'll fluff you.

No, not a humble brag, and when finishing takes a while there are often a couple of stops and restarts involved (or just the need for rest).

Obviously, with strippers ITC and P4P girls they get frustrated if they have to work too hard to get you off. They want you to nut quickly so they can move on to next. In this case, not sure what the deal is, but she seems frustrated if she can't get me off quickly the first time (or at all).

"We've been on other (successful) dates before. I almost posted about the first but it's a "Dear Penthouse" story I doubt anyone would believe."

I guess I just don't understand the problem...

If I have a serious wall to wall sex date arranged I will try to abstain or not masturbate up to a week before the date.

By that point I can’t even see straight when the date starts but that sure is a fun 3 minuets! Lol

I like abstinence and edging. That way, when that first release comes, it usually shoots out in a porn star esque way. It's pretty much the only way I can blast as far as those magical MFers starring in those flicks. On only a day of rest, it's just a pathetic little squirt.

I usually use the date to fluff for follies LMFAO

@TFP Edging ok that's probably the term I should have used.

@shailyn exactly, but sometimes even a week of abstinence doesn't shorten that first time. I know she'd be really happy if she could come in, blow me off in about 5 minutes, get her off in 5 minutes, clean up, and hit the club for a couple hours (she has the same taste in strippers that I do, and I went through Subraman's SC training for buddies with her, so she knows how to behave), and then just go with the flow the rest of the night

@juice LMFAO Actually, I've used Follies a couple times to help make up for bad dates.

And I've learned my lesson about taking dates to Follies. Too much stimulation when there with a date.

Though I try not to agree with Random logic too often :))) - his ritual is almost identical to mine. Specifically regarding light exercise, healthy foods, light foods, type and quantity of food and fruit is helpful especially if you finish in her mouth.

Probably too much information, but if I want to build up a nice load, I will find an opportunity to achieve several erections staring with my morning shower and "building up" but not having an orgasm. I've have also experienced one girl that seemed to think it was a race to get me off more quickly. Unless it is a "by the hour" situation, I would explain to her how much you enjoy the build up and taking your time. The aforementioned girl did catch herself and slow down on our third meeting. I haven't seen her for some time though so I don't know if she'd remember.

Well, great minds think alike, @Bubba!

Yep...then there's you and me :)

Update: following several of the suggestions (the several days to a week abstinence was already taken care of), I was able to achieve the goal of CIM in a reasonable amount of time. She was very pleased with herself. :-)

All the prep work also seemed to make getting started additional times easier, but finishing a second or more time was still problematic. I know we hear that women want men to last longer, but I think there is a point where they lose patience and just want you to be done.

I'm glad things went well. As we age, having multiple orgasms can be more of a challenge.

Abstinence prior to a date is a good way to prepare. But sometimes it can be a long time between orgasms.

This thread started yesterday, yet you had plenty of time to put the suggestion of several days abstinence to use?

You, sir, are amazing.

Okay, I went back and read your comment in its entirety

@flagooner yeah, I knew the abstinence one already :-) violated it several times in the past, much to my detriment.

I changed what I ate and drank yesterday, and it seemed to make a difference - I was energized after dinner instead of lethargic. I skipped using a strip club as a fluffer, and at the very least it helped my wallet. I watched porn, but I picked videos that reminded me of her - similar appearance or situation.

She remarked about how ready I was for her, and fessed up to the porn watching. She asked to watch too, so that helped get things started again later.

What unfortunately what works best for me is going to Follies for 3 or 4 hours and then leaving with blue balls because I couldn't find the right one for VIP. Some times it is so bad that I have to go again the next day. :)