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What Destroys Relationships?

san_jose_guy · 2017-09-20T11:39:24.000Z

10 Questions that nosy people hit you with: https://www.rd.com/advice/relationships/how-to-respond-to-nosy-questions/ Once you've got a relationship, it is no longer private. No, the relationship subjects you to all manner of normative standards. Every movie, junk mail advertisement, and everytime the phone rings, and every new movie, is an attempt to violate your privacy and make you subjected to herd standards. Most men will stand up to such questions, but as I see it, rarely firmly enough. But most women no way, they will let themselves be probed and eaten away at by such interrogations. I might just throw in at this point another question: "How much money do you make?" Best answer: "Enough to live the way I want." SJG BIG BIG BIG GIRL https://s.yimg.com/ny/api/res/1.2/Fgzu06omM75Vmi8yeUqC3A--/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjtzbT0xO3c9NjgzO2g9MTAyNA--/http://media.zenfs.com/en/homerun/feed_manager_auto_publish_494/80cfd8254b09f69ab6de47408ac84bcd Plato Complete: https://www.amazon.com/Plato-Complete-Works/dp/0872203492/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1505929396&sr=8-1&keywords=plato+complete https://www.amazon.com/Plato-Complete-Works-31-Books-ebook/dp/B016R8AZNK/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1505929396&sr=8-2&keywords=plato+complete https://www.amazon.com/Plato-Complete-Works/dp/1507761120/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1505929396&sr=8-3&keywords=plato+complete The above two use the Benjamin Jowett translation. This has two volumes, sold separately. Could be convenient. https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Works-Plato-I/dp/1605125229/ref=sr_1_11?ie=UTF8&qid=1505929396&sr=8-11&keywords=plato+complete Panentheism, by John W. Cooper https://www.amazon.com/Panentheism-Other-Philosophers-Plato-Present/dp/0801027241/ref=sr_1_60?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1505932000&sr=1-60&keywords=plato+commentary Penguin Cloth Bound Classics https://www.penguin.co.uk/articles/find-your-next-read/reading-lists/2015/dec/clothbound-classics/ Look like art hard covers. Do they come with dust jackets too? Maybe not. Yes, they say they are impressed, so the covers have texture. https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_c_1_13?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=penguin+clothbound+classics&sprefix=penguin+cloth%2Caps%2C195&crid=1HJBSW2Y1MZ6B

Sep 20, 2017, 11:39 AM

san_jose_guy

money was invented for handing to women, but buying dances is a chump's game

10 Questions that nosy people hit you with: rd.com

Once you've got a relationship, it is no longer private. No, the relationship subjects you to all manner of normative standards. Every movie, junk mail advertisement, and everytime the phone rings, and every new movie, is an attempt to violate your privacy and make you subjected to herd standards.

Most men will stand up to such questions, but as I see it, rarely firmly enough. But most women no way, they will let themselves be probed and eaten away at by such interrogations.

I might just throw in at this point another question: "How much money do you make?"

Best answer: "Enough to live the way I want."

SJG

BIG BIG BIG GIRL s.yimg.com

Plato Complete:

amazon.com

The above two use the Benjamin Jowett translation.

This has two volumes, sold separately. Could be convenient. amazon.com

Panentheism, by John W. Cooper amazon.com

Penguin Cloth Bound Classics penguin.co.uk

Look like art hard covers. Do they come with dust jackets too? Maybe not. Yes, they say they are impressed, so the covers have texture.

amazon.com

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Cashman12348 years ago

I've heard that your mom keeps destroying your relationships. She keeps yelling at you down the basement stairs "SJG get up here! My bunions need to be rubbed!" - "SJG bring the plunger! I just took a huge bloody shit and I need you to unclog the teller!"

It gets very intrusive considering how long you saved your allowance - to finally buy a Real Doll! The fact that you got a Real Doll that resembles Bernie Sanders is just creepy...

san_jose_guy8 years ago

Cashman, I've got some concentrated germicidal Clorox, and I've got a big bucket.

You need some head soaking.

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SJG

Public Schools for Sale? youtube.com

Really Good: Who Is Behind The Privatization Of Education:Gates, Broad, KIPP, Pearson, WestEd & The Gulen Schools youtube.com

Dominic778 years ago

Who ruins relationships? A lot of time it is the men who ruin is by being weak leaders and lacking in character and stoicism. Don't believe me? Read Genesis 3.

And I say that as someone sympathetic to feminism, LBGT rights, legal abortions, etc - aka all the lefty non-traditional things.

Cashman12348 years ago

It's all in good fun SJG! I know you don't live in your moms basement - and I'm hoping you don't have a Real Doll...

san_jose_guy8 years ago

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Lacking in character and stoicism?

I think one does end up having to be stoic, even having to be hard like one fighting in a guerilla war. I'm still suffering from Post Marital Stress Disorder. If I gave into provocation just once, I'd now likely be spending the rest of my life in prison.

Remember those paddle and rubber band toys?

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I felt like I was the paddle and she was the rubber ball. I was having to be the backstop, and she was just going everywhere.

Eventually I got tired of that and decided that it needed to end. It was killing each of us.

I wanted the relationship to be a person to person partnership. If it had been, then it would have worked. But thing is, there is always the outside pressure. And once one is married, it gets worse, not better.

I will never make the mistake of expecting anything like that again. I protect myself.

Buying dances in a strip club is a chump's game.

Marriage is like paying Russian Roulette, but with 5 bullets.

SJG

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shailynn8 years ago

Yeah cashman, she lets him sleep upstairs now on the weeknights.

Uprightcitizen8 years ago

Bat shit craziness ruins relationships

Call.Me.Ishmael8 years ago

Being a sleepytime rapist ruins relationships.

san_jose_guy8 years ago

^^^^^^^ Sounds like you know my ex.

SJG

JimGassagain8 years ago

SJG, are you saying your ex used to rape you in your sleep?^^^^(previous post)

DoctorPhil8 years ago

@JimGassagain “SJG, are you saying your ex used to rape you in your sleep?”

not even in his dreams. his ex-wife had to stay awake all night clutching a butcher knife in fear of her life. having sex with the psycho rapist was never on the table

skibum6098 years ago

Having practiced divorce law for only 35 years I know very little about this subject, but if I had to guess relationships are ruined simply because people look at the creation of a lasting relationship as the end and stop trying. The relationship dies of neglect, just like the plant you don't water. If a woman was worth putting in 100% effort to win, she is worth the same effort to keep. Of course I grossed $2,900 by 1 pm today because very few get it.

san_jose_guy8 years ago

^^^^^^^ Yes indeed skibum, I've always said that if I were to be reincarnated, then I would be a divorce lawyer. Either that, or a pimp.

Dominic77, you speak of "weak leaders and lacking in character and stoicism".

Do you mean that by developing and using these character strengths that you can resist the outside social pressure?

Usually when people talk about stoicism, they are talking about complying with social expectations. In introducing these ideas, are you then accepting the premise that the reason for marriage is the accumulation of cash and assets?

SJG

Wendy Brown: How Neoliberalism Threatens Democracy. We all need to understand this, if we are to fight the Dougster's and the Mark94's youtube.com

Capital in the Twenty-First Century amazon.com

I'm a bit new to this, but maybe this SEIU is more radical than the AFL-CIO. and SEIU local 1000 represents workers for California state. en.wikipedia.org